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    67. Embracing your authentic self

    enJanuary 12, 2023

    About this Episode

    This week we discuss the psychology of authenticity and how we can discover and therefore embrace our authentic selves. We discuss what it is to be authentic, why we suffer when we are disconnected from our true selves and the daily practices we can incorporate to live authentically, be vulnerable and consistent with our core self and values. Thank you to todays sponsor Athletic Greens. Please use the following link for a FREE one year supply for immune supporting vitamin D and five free travel packs at www.athleticgreens.com/Jemma

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    ūüĒĎ Key Takeaways

    • The authentic self refers to the true self, or who one is at their core when all distractions and facades are stripped away.
    • Embracing authenticity in psychology is more than trying to be oneself, it requires action, truth, honesty and owning one's values, beliefs, strengths, weaknesses, desires and choices.
    • People who are in alignment with their authentic selves, strive to align their actions with their core values, which allows them to express themselves freely, act consistently, and make decisions that align with their goals and identity.
    • Ignoring and suppressing one's authentic self can lead to pretending and masking who one truly is, which takes a lot of mental energy and can have real consequences such as mental exhaustion, guilt, and shame.
    • Pursuing and embodying one's authentic self can be difficult, especially in the 20s when people's brains and ideas about the world are still developing.
    • Authenticity is also important for relationships, studies have shown that authenticity increases satisfaction in romantic relationships and allows people to truly connect with others.
    • The pursuit of authenticity is challenging because of the distractions and conformist pressures in today's digital world, it is easy to get disconnected from one's core identity.
    • To achieve authenticity one needs to make a conscious commitment to figuring out one's values, beliefs and what one stands for and it begins by looking inside oneself.

    ūüďĚ Podcast Summary

    Discovering Your Authentic Self: The Crucial Journey of Finding Yourself in Your 20s

    The authentic self refers to the true self, or who one is at their core when all distractions and facades are stripped away.It is a crucial concept, one that is important for people to understand, especially in their 20s, when many people are on the pursuit of discovering their true selves.When people are able to connect with and embrace their authentic selves, it can lead to a happier and more fulfilled life, better relationships, and overall better versions of themselves.However, it can be difficult to achieve, and often, people feel disconnected or separated from their authentic selves in modern day society.There are various ways to find one's way back to their authentic selves, including through honesty, boundaries, generosity, and self-exploration.In the end, it is emphasized that life is too short to not be exactly who you are and we should strive to embody and embrace our authentic selves.

    Discovering Authenticity: A Journey that Can Take Years or Decades to Fully Embrace

    The authentic self refers to the core essence of who one is as an individual, which would exist regardless of others expectations or where they are in the world.Embracing authenticity in psychology is more than trying to be oneself, it requires action, truth, honesty and owning one's values, beliefs, strengths, weaknesses, desires and choices.It is a journey that can take years or decades for some people to fully discover and embrace themselves.Authentic self is made up of components like values, beliefs, desires, temperament, mission, creativity, free will, and a sense of being alive, being in control of oneself and one's actions.People who are in alignment with their authentic selves, strive to align their actions with their core values, which allows them to express themselves freely, act consistently, and make decisions that align with their goals and identity.By embracing authenticity, individuals can illuminate a path forward to live the life they want.

    Authenticity: The Key to a Fulfilling Life - Understanding The Psychology Behind Embracing Your True Self

    The authentic self refers to the true and core essence of who one is as an individual, and it has been proven by psychology as a discipline that it does exist.People who are able to access their authentic selves are often some of the happiest in the world.In contrast to this, the false self or inauthentic self refers to a defensive facade or disguise that people create to protect themselves from judgment or to conform to the expectations of others.When people act in ways that go against or violate their true selves, it often leads to negative emotional consequences such as guilt, shame or feeling uncomfortable.There is a long-standing debate in psychology about whether the authentic self is innate and permanent, or if it changes over time.However, regardless of one's perspective, when one is disconnected from their core values, desires, and qualities, it can be painful and make it hard for one to be their best selves.It is difficult to know who one is when disconnected from one's true self.

    Uncovering the Connection: How Authenticity Improves Relationship Satisfaction

    Ignoring and suppressing one's authentic self can lead to pretending and masking who one truly is, which takes a lot of mental energy and can have real consequences such as mental exhaustion, guilt, and shame.Studies have shown that hiding one's authentic self can produce feelings of immorality and impurity, and that when people are able to act in a way that aligns with their authentic selves, it makes them feel positive about themselves and brings greater satisfaction and lower stress levels.Authenticity is also important for relationships, studies have shown that authenticity increases satisfaction in romantic relationships and allows people to truly connect with others.Renee Brown, a psychologist, in her Ted talk talks about how embracing one's authentic self is an essential part of developing meaningful relationships, when people show up with their vulnerabilities, living their truth and allow them to connect and feel close to others.On the other hand, fear of rejection and not understanding one's self can prevent individuals from expressing their authentic selves.

    20s - The Decade of Experimentation and Self-Discovery: Embracing Authenticity Amidst Conformist Pressures

    Pursuing and embodying one's authentic self can be difficult, especially in the 20s when people's brains and ideas about the world are still developing.However, this decade is particularly important because it provides an opportunity to experiment, make mistakes, and identify what aligns with one's true self.It's also a time for questioning beliefs that have been ingrained since childhood and deciding whether they align with one's true self or just conform to societal expectations.The pursuit of authenticity is challenging because of the distractions and conformist pressures in today's digital world, it is easy to get disconnected from one's core identity.Social norms and societal expectations often put pressure on people to conform and abandon their personal preferences and desires to be perceived as normal.Conformity is about aligning with the majority and a desire to be accepted and endorsed by one's social groups, which is natural but it might lead to feeling immensely dissatisfied if it goes against one's authentic self.

    Embracing Authenticity: Uncovering Your Core Values and Flow State to Achieve True Self

    Authenticity is crucial, it's the thing that truly matters beyond all other things like social groups and external pressures.To achieve authenticity one needs to make a conscious commitment to figuring out one's values, beliefs and what one stands for and it begins by looking inside oneself.It takes honesty, vulnerability and a hard look at oneself to achieve authenticity.To achieve authenticity one can try the following: Reflect on what activities, people, and situations make you feel most alive, and consider the times when you have entered into a flow state.Flow state is also known as being in the zone, when we are completely engrossed in an activity to the point where time and everything else fades away.This state of mind indicates that we are doing something that aligns with our authentic self.Reflect on the five biggest values that you want to embody that represents you and that you love the most, it could be honesty, creativity, independence, strength, faith, love, courage, determination.These values should be kept in mind because they are core to who you are and core to your authentic self.

    Uncover Your Authentic Self: The Power of Friends, Hobbies, and Passions

    Being true to oneself is important, and friends, hobbies and passions are all connected to this authentic self.Being around people with whom one can talk openly and without distractions, indulging in hobbies that make one feel alive, and discussing topics that light one's soul on fire, all brings one closer to their authentic self.Taking time to reflect on these things every few months and journaling one's thoughts can be enlightening.Additionally, speaking one's truth with unwavering certainty and standing by one's internal feelings, whether it's the way one presents oneself, the conversations one has, or the people one surrounds oneself with, is key to presenting one's authentic self.It takes practice, setting healthy boundaries with people who don't respect this version of oneself, and making small, daily actions that cumulatively build up into who one is.

    Unlock the Power of Authenticity: Discover How Trusting Yourself and Saying 'No' Leads to a Happier and More Fulfilling Life

    Posting whatever we want on social media is a way in which we can stay true to our authentic selves, but often we hold back due to fear of how others will perceive us.Authenticity is built on each minute, each action, each decision and it's important to learn how to trust ourselves and be independent.Often, we become disconnected from our authentic selves due to people pleasing or conforming with societal expectations.By taking inventory of our life and deciding what makes us happy, we can take control of the things that align with our desires and our truth.Learn to trust yourself and say no to things that don't serve you, and yes to things that do, this will help you to be more in tune with your authentic self, and you will find that you live in flow, with a good state of mind, trust your judgment and be in line with your core values and beliefs.In the end, it will lead to a happier and more fulfilling life with better relationships, connection with the environment and internal world.

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