3 Traits that Negatively Affect Our Thoughts & How to Gradually Break Free from Your Limitations

    Reciprocal love, developed over time, is more attainable than unconditional love in romantic relationships. Love is a skill that can be cultivated through self-appreciation and finding deeper meaning beyond appearance.

    enJune 30, 2023

    About this Episode

    Have you ever found yourself questioning your current path and wondering if it truly aligns with your purpose? 

    Are you looking for the signs that will lead you discovering your true self and finding genuine love?

    Then this podcast episode is for you. 

    I am going to share with you a transformational and life-changing conversation I had with Violetta Benson. Violetta, also known as Daddy Issues, gained popularity for her humorous memes, witty captions, and comedic videos that often revolve around dating, relationships, and everyday life experiences. 

    With mindful awareness, we uncover the three negative habits that hinder our personal growth and learn how to replace them with empowering practices. We also dive into the multifaceted nature of love and its diverse expressions throughout our lives.

    While fear holds us back from forming deep connections, there is power in being alone, and using solitude as an opportunity for self-discovery and embracing your true self. Embark on an exploration of love's different stages - finding it, letting go, and nurturing its flame.  

    From this episode, you will learn:

    - The importance of adapting to changes

    - How to avoid projecting our limitations to others

    - How to spot the negative habits that blocks personal growth

    - How to make wise and well-thought of decisions

    - The diversity of love and its many forms

    - How to create deeper and more meaningful connections

    It's time to cultivate the relationships and personal growth you deserve. 

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    Listen to the original interview & other hilarious growing up stories and self love tips on Almost Adulting

    What We Discuss:

    • 00:00 Intro
    • 02:15 When you realize that what you're currently doing doesn't truly align with your purpose, would you be open to change?
    • 06:26 What’s the worst advice you’ve ever received? Did you follow it?
    • 08:04 Why do we often project our limits, our insecurities, and our issues to other people?
    • 11:03 The three things we do negatively that we should be mindful of
    • 12:45 There are fours things we go through everyday or at any point in our lives
    • 16:36 The analogy of the doors in our life that closes and the ones that stay open
    • 24:04 Sometimes, it’s better to slow down and pause than make quick but unwise decisions
    • 28:31 Two biggest lies you should stop telling yourself today
    • 33:44 When you carry around hatred and choose not to forgive people, there’s no space to receive love and connections
    • 36:26 This is what happens when you don’t wait for love to be given, you openly give it to the people important to you
    • 39:00 The different forms of love and how we experience it throughout our life
    • 41:38 Love isn’t just a feeling or an emotion, it is a skill and a practice
    • 46:20 Is fear holding us back from forming a connection? Is it just an unformed boundary?
    • 50:18 Why being alone is a great time to get to know yourself and discover who you really are
    • 53:21 Your ego is a daily battle and this is one of the main reasons that many relationships fail 
    • 59:04 In love and relationships, we often ask the wrong questions
    • 01:03:53 The different stages of love, how to find it, how to let go, and how to keep it
    • 01:06:32 What is the Flow state and how does this help you perform better in life?
    • 01:08:39 What can you do when you’re struggling to make connections, and how do you deepen these connections?

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    🔑 Key Takeaways

    • Life transitions take time and effort. Reconnecting with ourselves and our surroundings is essential for personal growth and success. Avoid comparing our journey to others' highlight reels online.
    • Don't let fear and societal expectations hold you back from pursuing your dreams. Embrace change, ignore age and qualifications, and have the courage to try new things.
    • Recognize and filter out insecurities, consider a middle approach for success, and embrace well-intentioned advice to transform and improve life.
    • Instead of criticizing and comparing others, focus on changing thoughts and actions to improve one's state of mind and cultivate a positive mindset.
    • Open every door and walk through the ones that stay open. Try everything and let your passion, purpose, and career path unfold naturally in front of you. Embrace new opportunities in your online journey.
    • Failure is a natural part of the journey towards success. Instead of just watching others, take chances, learn from mistakes, and forge your own path to fulfillment and success.
    • Slowing down in your career allows for more mindful decision-making, while being selective about career choices and surrounding yourself with a strong and supportive team leads to greater impact and success.
    • Slowing down, believing in oneself, and embracing challenges are essential for discovering hidden talents and reaching full potential.
    • Taking risks, believing in oneself, embracing growth opportunities, and practicing forgiveness are key elements in overcoming challenges and achieving personal and professional success.
    • Prioritizing forgiveness and choosing love brings purpose and fulfillment, while recognizing and appreciating various forms of love is essential for a fulfilling life.
    • Reciprocal love, developed over time, is more attainable than unconditional love in romantic relationships. Love is a skill that can be cultivated through self-appreciation and finding deeper meaning beyond appearance.
    • Self-love and understanding are crucial for nurturing healthy relationships. By acknowledging and appreciating ourselves, learning to communicate and understand the needs of our loved ones, and expressing our own needs, we can experience a range of beautiful love.
    • By openly communicating fears, setting boundaries, and making commitments, we can create a sense of security and trust in our relationships, allowing us to pursue our passions without guilt.
    • Taking time alone after a heartbreak helps you understand yourself better, prioritize your own needs, and build a fulfilling life without losing your identity.
    • Taking time for self-discovery and personal growth is essential for happiness. Healthy relationships require teamwork, grace, and understanding. Change begins with oneself, not with others.
    • Winning together in a relationship requires understanding, compromise, and collaboration to find solutions that benefit both partners, leading to a more harmonious and peaceful environment.
    • It's not about finding the perfect person, but about finding someone who is willing to make the relationship work and putting in the effort to make it work together.
    • Love requires ongoing effort and understanding, both towards our partner and ourselves. It is crucial to nurture and grow our relationships by staying curious, attentive, and committed.
    • Instead of striving for perfection, focus on making progress by aligning your skills and challenges. Nurture connections with people who value you and reciprocate your efforts.
    • True love is found in those who are willing to be present with us, and we should focus on connecting with those who already love us instead of chasing love. Embracing change is essential for personal growth.
    • Acceptance and courage are key in facing change. Letting go of attachment and resistance helps us embrace each moment, knowing that we are resilient and capable of adapting.

    📝 Podcast Summary

    From Monk to Motivational Speaker: Jay Shetty's 10-Year Journey of Reconnecting and Finding Himself Again

    The transition from being a monk to becoming a motivational speaker and author was a 10-year journey for Jay Shetty. After leaving the monastery, he faced challenges in finding work as people didn't see his monk experience as transferable skills. He spent time reconnecting with society and relearning about current events and popular culture. This process of reintegration and reconnecting helped him find his true self again. It's important to remember that life transitions take time and can be difficult. We shouldn't compare our journeys to others' highlight reels online. Taking the necessary time and effort to reconnect with ourselves and our surroundings can lead to personal growth and success.

    Embracing Change and Defying Society's Norms.

    Allow yourself to change and grow. Don't be afraid to switch from feeling like a failure to realizing that you're allowed to change your mind and strive for more. Don't let society's predetermined plans and timelines dictate your life. Disconnect from societal norms and live the life you want. Don't let age or qualifications limit you. The worst advice is believing you're too old, too young, or underqualified. Embrace the shift in the world where people are doing what they want when they want. Don't let others discourage you from pursuing your dreams. Trying something out is the only way to know if it will work.

    Filtering insecurities, adopting a middle approach, and embracing well-intentioned advice for a better quality of life.

    When receiving or giving advice, it is important to filter out insecurities and issues. People often project their limitations onto others, but it is crucial to recognize and not adopt them. The fear and insecurity of others should not dictate our own decisions. Taking a middle approach can be beneficial, considering both safety and passion. Transitioning gradually can provide support and create great work. It is essential to understand that when loved ones give advice, they are usually well-intentioned, even if it may seem like poor advice. Living without bitterness or negative feelings towards others is a commitment that leads to a better quality of life. Complaining, comparing, and criticizing are the cancers of the mind that should be avoided in order to maintain control and transform one's life.

    Shifting from Negative Emotions to Positive Mindset through Mindfulness and Action

    Comparing and criticizing others is a common habit that can lead to insecurity and unsettled feelings. Instead of focusing on negative emotions, it is important to shift our mindset by changing our thoughts and actions. Emphasizing our feelings too much can be detrimental, as they are temporary and ever-changing. By being mindful of our thoughts and behaviors, we can change how we feel. Accepting and acknowledging our negative emotions is necessary, but it is more productive to focus on actionable steps to improve our state of mind. Shifting our perspective from dwelling on feelings to actively changing thoughts and actions can lead to a more positive mindset.

    Embracing Open Doors and Overcoming Paralysis of Choice

    The best advice I've ever received is to start everything and open every door. Some doors will naturally close or won't open, but I should keep walking through the ones that stay open. This advice has helped me overcome the paralysis of choice and procrastination. Instead of trying to figure things out in my head, I should try everything and see what feels right and what stays open. I can't discover my passion, purpose, career path, or hobbies just by thinking about them. I need to let them unfold in front of me. This approach has been instrumental in my online journey and has allowed me to embrace new opportunities.

    Learning from Failure and Embracing Your Unique Path to Success

    Failure is a common part of every successful person's journey. Even those we admire and look up to have faced rejection and closed doors. It's important to study the lives of those we admire and understand their failures and setbacks. Social media often only shows us people's highlight reels, causing us to forget that everyone goes through tough times. Instead of just following and watching others, we should strive to understand them and learn from their experiences. By taking chances and living our own lives, we can find true fulfillment and success. It's crucial to listen to advice and learn from others' mistakes, paving our own unique path to success.

    The Benefits of Slowing Down in Your Career

    Slowing down in life, especially in one's career, can be beneficial in making more mindful decisions and avoiding future issues. Moving quickly in the beginning may lead to mistakes and the wrong people entering your life. It's important to be selective and thoughtful about career choices and the people you work with. While initially, it may feel necessary to work with anyone and everyone, focusing on building a strong and supportive team becomes crucial. Slowing down doesn't mean achieving less; it can actually make you more impactful. Taking inspiration from artists like Kendrick Lamar, who takes time to create albums, shows that quality takes time and patience.

    Unlocking Success through Patience, Perseverance, and Self-Belief.

    Slowing down and finding the right people and opportunities is important for success. It's crucial to focus on creating quality work instead of trying to keep up with others. Many people give up too quickly instead of persevering. The belief of not being good enough is a common lie we tell ourselves, leading to self-sabotage and missed opportunities. Taking risks and giving ourselves a chance can reveal our true potential. Trying new things can uncover hidden talents and abilities we never knew we had. It's important to challenge our own negative beliefs and doubts to unlock our full potential.

    Overcoming Humiliation and Insecurity: Jay Shetty's Journey to Success

    The key takeaway is that despite facing humiliation and insecurity in his early public speaking experiences, Jay Shetty's determination to overcome his fears and pursue opportunities has led to his successful career. This highlights the importance of taking risks, being honest about one's limitations, and embracing opportunities for growth. It is crucial to recognize that seeking validation from others is not as important as believing in oneself. Furthermore, forgiving others in one's heart is essential for personal growth and freeing oneself from resentment. This story emphasizes the power of resilience, self-belief, and forgiveness in overcoming challenges and achieving personal and professional success.

    The Power of Forgiveness and Choosing Love

    Forgiveness allows us to let go of negative emotions and make space for love and connection. It is not about forgetting or setting boundaries, but about choosing to prioritize love. Some people may struggle to embrace forgiveness because they have become accustomed to bitterness and hate. However, waking up each day with the intention to choose love brings a sense of purpose and fulfillment. The concept of having a common enemy can unite people but should not be the sole motivation for our actions. Monks teach us that love is not just something we receive, but something we express through kindness and compassion. Romantic love should not be devalued, but it is important to recognize and appreciate other forms of love as well.

    Unconditional Love and the Realities of Romantic Relationships

    Unconditional love may be real, but it is not always realistic in romantic relationships. Reciprocal love, where both parties do nice things for each other without keeping score, is more achievable. Unconditional love is like the love a parent has for their child. It takes time and effort to reach unconditional love, and it cannot be rushed. Falling in love too quickly often leads to disappointment. Love is not just an emotion, but a skill that can be learned and developed. To shift our mindset and develop our ability to love, we can practice finding something we love about our bodies every day, going beyond aesthetic appearances and appreciating our organs.

    The Importance of Self-Love and Understanding in Building Healthy Relationships

    The key takeaway from this text is that self-love and understanding are important for building healthy relationships. We often forget to appreciate and love ourselves, including our bodies, minds, and hearts. By acknowledging the good within us, we can develop self-love as a habit. Additionally, love is a skill that requires understanding and communication. Learning to recognize the needs of our loved ones, whether they need space or attention, is a way to show love. It is also important to express how we want to be loved to others, as everyone has different love languages. By doing so, we open up the possibility of experiencing love in various beautiful ways.

    Overcoming Fear to Build Strong Relationships

    Fear can hold us back from experiencing connection. It is important to turn our fears into boundaries, agreements, and commitments with our partners. By openly communicating our fears and setting principles, we can create a sense of security and trust in our relationships. This allows both individuals to feel valued and understood, reducing insecurities. Open and honest conversations about priorities and goals help to align expectations and avoid misunderstandings. Turning fear into conversation and commitment frees us from living in constant fear and allows us to pursue our passions and purpose without feeling guilty. It is essential to address fear and transform it into a positive and constructive force in our relationships.

    The Power of Solitude: Rediscovering Yourself After a Heartbreak

    Taking time to be alone after a heartbreak can help you rediscover yourself and gain self-awareness. It allows you to understand your likes and dislikes, prioritize what's important to you, and build the life you desire. Being alone is an opportunity to focus on self-discovery and avoid losing yourself in a relationship. It's important to embrace solitude, as it enables personal growth and prevents adopting someone else's behaviors and patterns. By investing time in understanding and valuing yourself, you can create a fulfilling life and avoid losing sight of what makes you unique and interesting.

    The Power of Self-Reflection and Building Strong Relationships

    Spending time alone and developing a relationship with oneself is essential for personal growth and long-term happiness. It is not healthy to rely solely on others for fulfillment and identity. Many people fear self-reflection and self-discovery because they may not like who they are, but the beauty is that they have the power to change. Another person cannot fix or solve the dislike for oneself. In relationships, it is important to work together as a team rather than constantly trying to win arguments or point out faults. Giving ourselves and our partners more grace and understanding can lead to stronger and healthier relationships.

    Winning Together in a Relationship: Finding Solutions and Making Agreements for Mutual Benefit.

    The key takeaway from this conversation is that winning together in a relationship means finding solutions and making agreements that benefit both partners. It's not about one person winning an argument at the expense of the other. It requires coming together, understanding each other's perspectives, and finding a middle ground. Winning together doesn't mean tolerating issues or sacrificing one's own feelings. It's about creating boundaries and commitments that address the problems in the relationship. By working together and finding mutual solutions, couples can avoid unnecessary conflicts and build a more harmonious and peaceful environment in their shared space.

    The Importance of Asking the Right Questions in Love and Relationships

    In love and relationships, it's important to ask the right questions. Instead of focusing on finding the 'right' person, it's about finding someone who wants to make it work with you and who you want to make it work with. The idea of a perfect person or partner is unrealistic, and what matters is the willingness to make the relationship work. When we break up with someone, we often idealize the relationship and crave what we imagine it to be, but the reality may be different. It's essential to stop living in our heads and start navigating the real world, where beauty and signs of a healthy relationship can be found.

    The Importance of Continuous Learning and Attention in Love

    Love requires constant learning and attention. Just like we stay updated and invested in our hobbies or possessions, we should do the same in our relationships. Love means continuously discovering and understanding our partner, as well as ourselves. It is not enough to claim love without actively taking care of our loved ones. Love is not about ownership or possessiveness; it is about nurturing and growth. Moreover, it is important to love ourselves as well, as self-love is a crucial aspect of any successful partnership. By staying curious, attentive, and committed, we can cultivate a fulfilling and harmonious connection in our relationships.

    Shifting from Perfection to Progress and Cultivating Meaningful Connections

    Shift your mindset from focusing on perfection to focusing on progress. Understand that perfection doesn't exist and instead strive for the state of flow, where your challenge aligns with your skill. Avoid feeling unworthy by taking on challenges that match your skill level and avoid feeling bored by developing new skills to take on difficult challenges. Rather than pursuing perfection, prioritize aligning your skill and challenge to make progress. In cultivating meaningful connections, focus on connecting with people who want to connect with you and make efforts with those who reciprocate. Don't chase after those who don't have space for you in their lives, but instead value the love and connections from those who already appreciate you.

    The Power of Being Present in Love

    We often condition ourselves to believe that love is about chasing someone, fixing someone, or saving someone. However, true love can be found in someone who is willing to sit with us, be present, and show us love. We need to unlearn the old behavior of chasing love and instead focus on connecting with the people who already love us. By doing so, we will naturally disconnect from those who don't truly love us. It is important to be self-aware and recognize the love that is already present in our lives. Change is a natural part of life, and we should embrace it rather than resist it.

    Embracing Change: Learning to Flow with Life's Phases

    Change is inevitable and all feelings are temporary. Just as seasons change, our lives go through different phases. It is important to accept and embrace change rather than resist it. Attachment and aversion can make change more difficult and painful. By labeling and judging the moments, we resist the flow of life. Instead, we should learn to accept and meet each moment with courage, clarity, and composure. Whether the experience is good or bad, happy or sad, calm or stressed, we should let it flow and be okay with whatever we are experiencing. Our relationship with change can be improved by letting go of attachment, releasing resistance, and understanding that we are built for change.

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    Tiffany and Jay have a vulnerable conversation with a candid look into Tiffany’s life, showcasing her journey from a challenging upbringing to becoming one of Hollywood’s brightest stars. Tiffany shares the emotional and often tumultuous experiences she faced growing up in foster care. Despite these challenges, she credits these early adversities for instilling in her a resilience that later became instrumental in her career. Tiffany discusses how humor became her coping mechanism and how it eventually became a tool for empowerment.

    Jay and Tiffany also talk about relationships and the lessons she has learned from her experiences. She opens up about her past relationships and how they shaped her understanding of love, vulnerability, and self-respect. We get to listen to the healing power of laughter, the importance of community, and the role of faith in overcoming life’s challenges. 

    In this interview, you'll learn:

    How to overcome adversity

    How to turn pain into humor and use it as fuel

    How to embrace vulnerability

    How to handle criticism

    How to advocate for yourself 

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    03:08 Built to Have Fun

    04:19 Emotional Hoarder

    07:16 Celibacy

    12:11 Being with the Wrong Person

    15:41 Do You Believe in Past Life?

    18:06 Who Do You Want to Date?

    20:10 Growing Your Own Garden

    22:48 Growing with a Creative Mind

    25:05 Worst Thing About Being Me

    29:11 Dealing with Online Hate

    31:36 She’s Not My Mom Anymore

    37:46 Processing and Dealing with Grief

    43:36 Resenting and Forgiving My Father

    48:46 The Phone Call with My Dad

    55:24 Let’s Understand People’s Stories

    57:59 Self Care is a Process

    01:02:15 My Father Was Sick

    01:05:07 Make Home in Your Childhood Community

    01:10:29 The Love to Entertain People

    01:18:07 What Would Little T be Proud Of?

    01:20:24 Childhood Dreams

    01:25:09 TIffany on Final Five

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    Why You Are Restricting Your Desires in Your Relationship & How to Stop Blocking Yourself from the Happiness You Deserve with Lisa Bilyeu

    Why You Are Restricting Your Desires in Your Relationship & How to Stop Blocking Yourself from the Happiness You Deserve with Lisa Bilyeu

    How do you identify when you're restricting your desires in a relationship?

    How can couples work together to align their desires and ensure mutual fulfillment?

    Today, Jay welcomes back his good friend Lisa Bilyeu. Lisa is a co-founder of the billion-dollar brand Quest Nutrition and the president of Impact Theory, a digital media company aimed at empowering content. With a strong focus on developing content that speaks to personal growth and empowerment, especially for women, Lisa has been a pivotal figure in shifting paradigms within her industry. Her show, "Women of Impact," addresses issues facing modern women, combining personal anecdotes with actionable advice.

    The core theme of this conversation is outlining a roadmap for individuals seeking to overcome insecurities and cultivate a resilient, action-oriented confidence. Jay and Lisa discuss the common misconceptions around confidence, emphasizing that it is not a prerequisite for action but a result of engaging with the world despite fears and doubts.

    Lisa shares how her initial need for external validation was a significant barrier to personal growth, sharing transformative moments that reshaped her understanding of confidence and self-worth. She stresses the importance of embracing imperfection and vulnerability as catalysts for genuine self-improvement and empowerment.

    In this interview, you'll learn:

    How to start building confidence

    How to validate yourself

    How to prioritize personal growth

    How to handle fear of judgment

    How to transform relationships

    Together, let's continue to  question the preconceived notions about success and happiness and to take bold steps towards a life aligned with our deepest values and aspirations.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    03:32 How Do You Define Confidence?

    06:54 Believe You’re Capable

    09:54 Admitting That You’re Unhappy

    16:13 The Frame of Reference

    19:36 Everything Is A Risk

    27:42 Non-Negotiables in Relationships

    34:41 Conversations That Don’t Break Relationships

    41:30 Who Leads, Who Follows

    49:26 Conflicting Value System

    54:57 Don’t Assume, Find a Compromise

    59:21 Growth Mindset With Your Partner

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    Matthew Hussey: 5 Reasons Why There is No Such Thing As The Right Person At The Wrong Time & How to Stop Missing Your Ex

    Matthew Hussey: 5 Reasons Why There is No Such Thing As The Right Person At The Wrong Time & How to Stop Missing Your Ex

    Does timing really matter in whether a relationship works?

    What are healthy ways to deal with a breakup?

    Today, let’s welcome back dating coach Matthew Hussey. Matthew is also a YouTube personality and writer known for offering advice on dating, love, and relationships to both men and women through his online content, seminars, and his book "Get The Guy." His approach typically combines practical advice, motivational coaching, and a bit of psychology to help individuals understand what they want from a relationship and how to get it.

    Matthew shares his insights on the complexities of love, self-discovery, and the importance of honest communication. He emphasizes on the significance of creating a peaceful relationship, distinguishing it from a boring one, and the value of embracing vulnerabilities to foster deeper connections. Matthew's reflections on his own experiences, coupled with his expertise, provide a comprehensive guide on navigating the challenges of modern dating, building meaningful relationships, and cultivating self-awareness. 

    In this interview, you'll learn:

    How to cultivate peaceful relationships without boredom

    How to deepen connections through vulnerability

    How to navigate modern dating with confidence

    How to enhance relationships with effective communication

    How to enrich love life through self-awareness

    Whether you're single, dating, or in a relationship, this episode offers valuable lessons on love, resilience, and the transformative power of embracing your true self.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    04:20 Where Does Your Idea of Love Come From?

    10:34 What Differentiates a Peaceful to a Boring Relationship?

    19:35 What Are Your Must-Haves in a Relationship?

    31:47 Tactics Are Different From Relationship Standards

    39:59 Egoic Standards Versus Setting Standards for Happiness

    51:20 Practice Having Real and Difficult Conversations

    01:04:48 The Importance of Communicating Your Thoughts and Feelings

    01:08:25 Is Your Partner the Right One for You?

    01:15:05 Dealing with the Different Phases of Heartbreak

    01:26:31 What’s Next for Matthew?    

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    7 Ways to Reduce the Time You Spend Overthinking & Make Better Decisions Quicker

    7 Ways to Reduce the Time You Spend Overthinking & Make Better Decisions Quicker

    How do you know when you're overthinking too much?

    How can you break the cycle of overthinking?

    Today, Jay will talk about the complexity of overthinking and how we can turn it around and look at things differently. Jay presents seven practical strategies to help listeners combat the grip of overthinking. These range from the psychological—to limit how many people's opinions we seek, preventing the confusion and indecision that too many perspectives can cause—to the physical, recommending activities that disengage the analytical brain and encourage mental reset, like exercise or simply moving around.

    In this episode, you'll learn:

    How to use over thinking for problem-solving

    How to manage alarmed responses

    How to use physical movement for mental clarity

    How to focus on positives and small wins

    Don't let overthinking hold you back! Start implementing these strategies today and take control of your mental space.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    00:52 Has Overthinking Slowed You Down?

    07:53 The Science Behind Overthinking

    10:50 #1: Overthinking as a Problem-Solving Approach

    14:24 #2: Don’t Ask Too Many People For Their Opinion

    18:19 #3: Avoid Responding While You’re Feeling Alarmed

    19:17 #4: Move Your Body When Your Mind Is Stuck

    20:32 #5: Focus on the Good Thing and Small Wins

    22:05 #6: Spontaneous Drawings Relieve Psychological Stress

    24:23 #7: Go Back to Analog

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    Orlando Bloom: 3 Reasons Why You Need to Allow Yourself to Make Mistakes & Shift Your Perspective on Fear

    Orlando Bloom: 3 Reasons Why You Need to Allow Yourself to Make Mistakes & Shift Your Perspective on Fear

    Do you stop yourself from making mistakes? 

    Do you want to shift your perspective on fear? 

    Today, let’s welcome the one and only Orlando Bloom. Orlando gained widespread fame for his roles in some of the most popular films including The Lord of the Rings trilogy and Pirates of the Caribbean series. He will be seen starring in Peacock's limited adventure docuseries, To The Edge, which he also produced. Off-screen, Orlando is known for his humanitarian efforts, including his work as a UNICEF Goodwill Ambassador.

    Orlando shares insights from his life as an actor, adventurer, and someone deeply involved in spirituality. He talks about how meditation and mindfulness help him stay balanced despite the hectic nature of being a celebrity, his views on masculinity, the importance of embracing both masculine and feminine qualities, and striving for balance and introspection in life. We also get to hear stories about facing and overcoming fears, embracing vulnerability, and the lessons he's learned from these challenges. This episode isn't just about getting to know a renowned actor but diving into the personal journey of a man who is constantly looking for deeper meaning and connections in life.

    In this interview, you’ll learn:
    How to overcome fear
    How to maintain balance in a hectic life
    How to incorporate mindfulness into everyday activities
    How to explore and embrace different aspects of your personality
    How to use life's challenges as growth opportunities

    Tune in now for a discussion full of insights on overcoming fears, embracing spirituality, and pursuing personal growth.  

    With Love and Gratitude,
    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:
    02:28 Working in an Unscripted Space
    06:09 What’s Your Earliest Childhood Fear?
    08:35 Practicing Buddhism
    13:49 The Lotus Sutra
    20:16 The 8 Wins
    26:28 Trusting Your Life and Becoming Capable
    36:33 Being Present While on the Edge
    44:48 Any Moment Could Be Your Last
    45:43 The Deepest Mirror You’ll Ever Have
    48:58 What Did You Learn from Your Past Relationships?
    51:22 Introducing Buddhism Practice to My Kids
    55:33 Whatever You’re Saying, You Become
    01:02:22 Loving the Parenting Journey
    01:07:16 The Impacts of Your Decisions
    01:09:13 Opportunities Through Obstacles
    01:17:40 Buddhism Is My Anchor
    01:18:59 The Fear You’re Currently Overcoming
    01:26:04 Orlando Bloom on Final Five

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    4 Ways to Know if It Is Time To End Your Relationship (When the Signs Are Not Clear and Things are Not Bad)

    4 Ways to Know if It Is Time To End Your Relationship (When the Signs Are Not Clear and Things are Not Bad)

    Do you find yourself often thinking about breaking up?

    Do you and your partner have unresolved conflicts that keep resurfacing?

    In this episode, Jay tackles the tough emotions and uncertainty many face when considering a breakup. He talks about why people stay in or leave relationships, touching on key factors like emotional closeness, personal investment, and the impact of family responsibilities. Jay also discusses how to ensure emotional security and the risks of staying for financial reasons or out of obligation. 

    In this episode you’ll learn:

    How to recognize emotional investment

    How to assess emotional security

    How to consider financial implications

    How to navigate emotional intimacy

    This honest conversation provides you with the insights to evaluate your relationship more clearly, helping you decide whether to work on it or move on, based on a deeper understanding of your feelings and the relationship's dynamics.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    01:10 When to End Your Relationship

    04:48 10 Reason Why People Stay in a Relationship

    12:44 Top 10 Reasons to Leave Your Relationship

    18:14 The Three Cancers of the Mind

    24:44 Difference in Scorecard Perspective

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