3 Traits that Negatively Affect Our Thoughts & How to Gradually Break Free from Your Limitations

    enJune 30, 2023

    Podcast Summary

    • From Monk to Motivational Speaker: Jay Shetty's 10-Year Journey of Reconnecting and Finding Himself AgainLife transitions take time and effort. Reconnecting with ourselves and our surroundings is essential for personal growth and success. Avoid comparing our journey to others' highlight reels online.

      The transition from being a monk to becoming a motivational speaker and author was a 10-year journey for Jay Shetty. After leaving the monastery, he faced challenges in finding work as people didn't see his monk experience as transferable skills. He spent time reconnecting with society and relearning about current events and popular culture. This process of reintegration and reconnecting helped him find his true self again. It's important to remember that life transitions take time and can be difficult. We shouldn't compare our journeys to others' highlight reels online. Taking the necessary time and effort to reconnect with ourselves and our surroundings can lead to personal growth and success.

    • Embracing Change and Defying Society's Norms.Don't let fear and societal expectations hold you back from pursuing your dreams. Embrace change, ignore age and qualifications, and have the courage to try new things.

      Allow yourself to change and grow. Don't be afraid to switch from feeling like a failure to realizing that you're allowed to change your mind and strive for more. Don't let society's predetermined plans and timelines dictate your life. Disconnect from societal norms and live the life you want. Don't let age or qualifications limit you. The worst advice is believing you're too old, too young, or underqualified. Embrace the shift in the world where people are doing what they want when they want. Don't let others discourage you from pursuing your dreams. Trying something out is the only way to know if it will work.

    • Filtering insecurities, adopting a middle approach, and embracing well-intentioned advice for a better quality of life.Recognize and filter out insecurities, consider a middle approach for success, and embrace well-intentioned advice to transform and improve life.

      When receiving or giving advice, it is important to filter out insecurities and issues. People often project their limitations onto others, but it is crucial to recognize and not adopt them. The fear and insecurity of others should not dictate our own decisions. Taking a middle approach can be beneficial, considering both safety and passion. Transitioning gradually can provide support and create great work. It is essential to understand that when loved ones give advice, they are usually well-intentioned, even if it may seem like poor advice. Living without bitterness or negative feelings towards others is a commitment that leads to a better quality of life. Complaining, comparing, and criticizing are the cancers of the mind that should be avoided in order to maintain control and transform one's life.

    • Shifting from Negative Emotions to Positive Mindset through Mindfulness and ActionInstead of criticizing and comparing others, focus on changing thoughts and actions to improve one's state of mind and cultivate a positive mindset.

      Comparing and criticizing others is a common habit that can lead to insecurity and unsettled feelings. Instead of focusing on negative emotions, it is important to shift our mindset by changing our thoughts and actions. Emphasizing our feelings too much can be detrimental, as they are temporary and ever-changing. By being mindful of our thoughts and behaviors, we can change how we feel. Accepting and acknowledging our negative emotions is necessary, but it is more productive to focus on actionable steps to improve our state of mind. Shifting our perspective from dwelling on feelings to actively changing thoughts and actions can lead to a more positive mindset.

    • Embracing Open Doors and Overcoming Paralysis of ChoiceOpen every door and walk through the ones that stay open. Try everything and let your passion, purpose, and career path unfold naturally in front of you. Embrace new opportunities in your online journey.

      The best advice I've ever received is to start everything and open every door. Some doors will naturally close or won't open, but I should keep walking through the ones that stay open. This advice has helped me overcome the paralysis of choice and procrastination. Instead of trying to figure things out in my head, I should try everything and see what feels right and what stays open. I can't discover my passion, purpose, career path, or hobbies just by thinking about them. I need to let them unfold in front of me. This approach has been instrumental in my online journey and has allowed me to embrace new opportunities.

    • Learning from Failure and Embracing Your Unique Path to SuccessFailure is a natural part of the journey towards success. Instead of just watching others, take chances, learn from mistakes, and forge your own path to fulfillment and success.

      Failure is a common part of every successful person's journey. Even those we admire and look up to have faced rejection and closed doors. It's important to study the lives of those we admire and understand their failures and setbacks. Social media often only shows us people's highlight reels, causing us to forget that everyone goes through tough times. Instead of just following and watching others, we should strive to understand them and learn from their experiences. By taking chances and living our own lives, we can find true fulfillment and success. It's crucial to listen to advice and learn from others' mistakes, paving our own unique path to success.

    • The Benefits of Slowing Down in Your CareerSlowing down in your career allows for more mindful decision-making, while being selective about career choices and surrounding yourself with a strong and supportive team leads to greater impact and success.

      Slowing down in life, especially in one's career, can be beneficial in making more mindful decisions and avoiding future issues. Moving quickly in the beginning may lead to mistakes and the wrong people entering your life. It's important to be selective and thoughtful about career choices and the people you work with. While initially, it may feel necessary to work with anyone and everyone, focusing on building a strong and supportive team becomes crucial. Slowing down doesn't mean achieving less; it can actually make you more impactful. Taking inspiration from artists like Kendrick Lamar, who takes time to create albums, shows that quality takes time and patience.

    • Unlocking Success through Patience, Perseverance, and Self-Belief.Slowing down, believing in oneself, and embracing challenges are essential for discovering hidden talents and reaching full potential.

      Slowing down and finding the right people and opportunities is important for success. It's crucial to focus on creating quality work instead of trying to keep up with others. Many people give up too quickly instead of persevering. The belief of not being good enough is a common lie we tell ourselves, leading to self-sabotage and missed opportunities. Taking risks and giving ourselves a chance can reveal our true potential. Trying new things can uncover hidden talents and abilities we never knew we had. It's important to challenge our own negative beliefs and doubts to unlock our full potential.

    • Overcoming Humiliation and Insecurity: Jay Shetty's Journey to SuccessTaking risks, believing in oneself, embracing growth opportunities, and practicing forgiveness are key elements in overcoming challenges and achieving personal and professional success.

      The key takeaway is that despite facing humiliation and insecurity in his early public speaking experiences, Jay Shetty's determination to overcome his fears and pursue opportunities has led to his successful career. This highlights the importance of taking risks, being honest about one's limitations, and embracing opportunities for growth. It is crucial to recognize that seeking validation from others is not as important as believing in oneself. Furthermore, forgiving others in one's heart is essential for personal growth and freeing oneself from resentment. This story emphasizes the power of resilience, self-belief, and forgiveness in overcoming challenges and achieving personal and professional success.

    • The Power of Forgiveness and Choosing LovePrioritizing forgiveness and choosing love brings purpose and fulfillment, while recognizing and appreciating various forms of love is essential for a fulfilling life.

      Forgiveness allows us to let go of negative emotions and make space for love and connection. It is not about forgetting or setting boundaries, but about choosing to prioritize love. Some people may struggle to embrace forgiveness because they have become accustomed to bitterness and hate. However, waking up each day with the intention to choose love brings a sense of purpose and fulfillment. The concept of having a common enemy can unite people but should not be the sole motivation for our actions. Monks teach us that love is not just something we receive, but something we express through kindness and compassion. Romantic love should not be devalued, but it is important to recognize and appreciate other forms of love as well.

    • Unconditional Love and the Realities of Romantic RelationshipsReciprocal love, developed over time, is more attainable than unconditional love in romantic relationships. Love is a skill that can be cultivated through self-appreciation and finding deeper meaning beyond appearance.

      Unconditional love may be real, but it is not always realistic in romantic relationships. Reciprocal love, where both parties do nice things for each other without keeping score, is more achievable. Unconditional love is like the love a parent has for their child. It takes time and effort to reach unconditional love, and it cannot be rushed. Falling in love too quickly often leads to disappointment. Love is not just an emotion, but a skill that can be learned and developed. To shift our mindset and develop our ability to love, we can practice finding something we love about our bodies every day, going beyond aesthetic appearances and appreciating our organs.

    • The Importance of Self-Love and Understanding in Building Healthy RelationshipsSelf-love and understanding are crucial for nurturing healthy relationships. By acknowledging and appreciating ourselves, learning to communicate and understand the needs of our loved ones, and expressing our own needs, we can experience a range of beautiful love.

      The key takeaway from this text is that self-love and understanding are important for building healthy relationships. We often forget to appreciate and love ourselves, including our bodies, minds, and hearts. By acknowledging the good within us, we can develop self-love as a habit. Additionally, love is a skill that requires understanding and communication. Learning to recognize the needs of our loved ones, whether they need space or attention, is a way to show love. It is also important to express how we want to be loved to others, as everyone has different love languages. By doing so, we open up the possibility of experiencing love in various beautiful ways.

    • Overcoming Fear to Build Strong RelationshipsBy openly communicating fears, setting boundaries, and making commitments, we can create a sense of security and trust in our relationships, allowing us to pursue our passions without guilt.

      Fear can hold us back from experiencing connection. It is important to turn our fears into boundaries, agreements, and commitments with our partners. By openly communicating our fears and setting principles, we can create a sense of security and trust in our relationships. This allows both individuals to feel valued and understood, reducing insecurities. Open and honest conversations about priorities and goals help to align expectations and avoid misunderstandings. Turning fear into conversation and commitment frees us from living in constant fear and allows us to pursue our passions and purpose without feeling guilty. It is essential to address fear and transform it into a positive and constructive force in our relationships.

    • The Power of Solitude: Rediscovering Yourself After a HeartbreakTaking time alone after a heartbreak helps you understand yourself better, prioritize your own needs, and build a fulfilling life without losing your identity.

      Taking time to be alone after a heartbreak can help you rediscover yourself and gain self-awareness. It allows you to understand your likes and dislikes, prioritize what's important to you, and build the life you desire. Being alone is an opportunity to focus on self-discovery and avoid losing yourself in a relationship. It's important to embrace solitude, as it enables personal growth and prevents adopting someone else's behaviors and patterns. By investing time in understanding and valuing yourself, you can create a fulfilling life and avoid losing sight of what makes you unique and interesting.

    • The Power of Self-Reflection and Building Strong RelationshipsTaking time for self-discovery and personal growth is essential for happiness. Healthy relationships require teamwork, grace, and understanding. Change begins with oneself, not with others.

      Spending time alone and developing a relationship with oneself is essential for personal growth and long-term happiness. It is not healthy to rely solely on others for fulfillment and identity. Many people fear self-reflection and self-discovery because they may not like who they are, but the beauty is that they have the power to change. Another person cannot fix or solve the dislike for oneself. In relationships, it is important to work together as a team rather than constantly trying to win arguments or point out faults. Giving ourselves and our partners more grace and understanding can lead to stronger and healthier relationships.

    • Winning Together in a Relationship: Finding Solutions and Making Agreements for Mutual Benefit.Winning together in a relationship requires understanding, compromise, and collaboration to find solutions that benefit both partners, leading to a more harmonious and peaceful environment.

      The key takeaway from this conversation is that winning together in a relationship means finding solutions and making agreements that benefit both partners. It's not about one person winning an argument at the expense of the other. It requires coming together, understanding each other's perspectives, and finding a middle ground. Winning together doesn't mean tolerating issues or sacrificing one's own feelings. It's about creating boundaries and commitments that address the problems in the relationship. By working together and finding mutual solutions, couples can avoid unnecessary conflicts and build a more harmonious and peaceful environment in their shared space.

    • The Importance of Asking the Right Questions in Love and RelationshipsIt's not about finding the perfect person, but about finding someone who is willing to make the relationship work and putting in the effort to make it work together.

      In love and relationships, it's important to ask the right questions. Instead of focusing on finding the 'right' person, it's about finding someone who wants to make it work with you and who you want to make it work with. The idea of a perfect person or partner is unrealistic, and what matters is the willingness to make the relationship work. When we break up with someone, we often idealize the relationship and crave what we imagine it to be, but the reality may be different. It's essential to stop living in our heads and start navigating the real world, where beauty and signs of a healthy relationship can be found.

    • The Importance of Continuous Learning and Attention in LoveLove requires ongoing effort and understanding, both towards our partner and ourselves. It is crucial to nurture and grow our relationships by staying curious, attentive, and committed.

      Love requires constant learning and attention. Just like we stay updated and invested in our hobbies or possessions, we should do the same in our relationships. Love means continuously discovering and understanding our partner, as well as ourselves. It is not enough to claim love without actively taking care of our loved ones. Love is not about ownership or possessiveness; it is about nurturing and growth. Moreover, it is important to love ourselves as well, as self-love is a crucial aspect of any successful partnership. By staying curious, attentive, and committed, we can cultivate a fulfilling and harmonious connection in our relationships.

    • Shifting from Perfection to Progress and Cultivating Meaningful ConnectionsInstead of striving for perfection, focus on making progress by aligning your skills and challenges. Nurture connections with people who value you and reciprocate your efforts.

      Shift your mindset from focusing on perfection to focusing on progress. Understand that perfection doesn't exist and instead strive for the state of flow, where your challenge aligns with your skill. Avoid feeling unworthy by taking on challenges that match your skill level and avoid feeling bored by developing new skills to take on difficult challenges. Rather than pursuing perfection, prioritize aligning your skill and challenge to make progress. In cultivating meaningful connections, focus on connecting with people who want to connect with you and make efforts with those who reciprocate. Don't chase after those who don't have space for you in their lives, but instead value the love and connections from those who already appreciate you.

    • The Power of Being Present in LoveTrue love is found in those who are willing to be present with us, and we should focus on connecting with those who already love us instead of chasing love. Embracing change is essential for personal growth.

      We often condition ourselves to believe that love is about chasing someone, fixing someone, or saving someone. However, true love can be found in someone who is willing to sit with us, be present, and show us love. We need to unlearn the old behavior of chasing love and instead focus on connecting with the people who already love us. By doing so, we will naturally disconnect from those who don't truly love us. It is important to be self-aware and recognize the love that is already present in our lives. Change is a natural part of life, and we should embrace it rather than resist it.

    • Embracing Change: Learning to Flow with Life's PhasesAcceptance and courage are key in facing change. Letting go of attachment and resistance helps us embrace each moment, knowing that we are resilient and capable of adapting.

      Change is inevitable and all feelings are temporary. Just as seasons change, our lives go through different phases. It is important to accept and embrace change rather than resist it. Attachment and aversion can make change more difficult and painful. By labeling and judging the moments, we resist the flow of life. Instead, we should learn to accept and meet each moment with courage, clarity, and composure. Whether the experience is good or bad, happy or sad, calm or stressed, we should let it flow and be okay with whatever we are experiencing. Our relationship with change can be improved by letting go of attachment, releasing resistance, and understanding that we are built for change.

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    • 46:50 Take a Pause to Reconnect with Yourself
    • 50:22 The Duality of What We Value
    • 55:44 How Do You Pick Yourself Up?
    • 59:40 What Life Lesson That Changed You?
    • 01:04:41 Lesson Learned the Hard Way
    • 01:07:48 Rob on Final Five

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    Why Love Is Not Enough & 5 Things to Focus On More in Dating & Relationships

    Why Love Is Not Enough & 5 Things to Focus On More in Dating & Relationships

    Do you and your partner share values?

    How do you support each other emotionally?

    Today, Jay taps into the  idea that love alone is not sufficient to sustain a healthy relationship. While love is important, other elements such as shared values, emotional maturity, consistent patterns of behavior, and trust are crucial for long-lasting partnerships. Societal norms often romanticize love, leading people to overlook these essential factors.

    Jay discusses the significance of understanding and respecting each other's values, as well as recognizing and addressing patterns of behavior. Emotional maturity, which involves managing and expressing emotions healthily, is highlighted as a key component of a stable relationship. Support and partnership are deemed more critical than love alone.

    In this episode, you'll learn:

    How to communicate your value to your partner

    How to develop emotional maturity

    How to support your partner's emotional growth

    How to build trust in your relationship

    Remember, love is important, but building a relationship on trust, values, and emotional maturity is key.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    01:07 Do They Love Me?

    04:42 #1: Love Makes Us Forget the Importance of Values

    08:56 #2: Love Makes You Forget Patterns of Behaviour

    16:09 #3: Love Makes You Forget How They Treat You

    19:29 #4: Love Versus Support

    21:46 #5: You Forget the Importance of Trust

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    Jonathan Haidt: Why Social Media Has Caused a Collapse in Mental Health & #1 Way to Solve Your Anxiety

    Jonathan Haidt: Why Social Media Has Caused a Collapse in Mental Health & #1 Way to Solve Your Anxiety

    How are smartphones linked to anxiety?

    What mental health issues are linked to excessive social media use?

    Today, let's welcome Jonathan Haidt is a renowned social psychologist, professor at New York University’s Stern School of Business, and a widely published author. He is known for his research on morality, culture, and the psychology of happiness. Jonathan's influential books include "The Righteous Mind: Why Good People Are Divided by Politics and Religion" and "The Coddling of the American Mind." His latest work, "The Anxious Generation," examines the profound impact of social media on young people's mental health.

    Jonathan highlights the unprecedented global collapse of mental health among youth, describing it as more significant than the COVID-19 pandemic, with girls being particularly affected by anxiety and depression, and boys showing significant social development issues.

    The conversation also addresses the academic debate regarding the root causes of this mental health crisis, with Jonathan presenting compelling data and experimental evidence to support his view that social media is a primary driver. He offers actionable solutions, including delaying smartphone and social media use until later ages, implementing phone-free school policies, increasing outdoor play, and advocating for collective action by parents and communities. 

    In this interview, you'll learn:

    How to create a healthier digital environment for kids

    How to implement age-appropriate tech usage

    How to encourage outdoor play and physical activities

    How to talk to children about the risks of social media

    How to foster resilience and emotional strength in kids

    How to create a supportive community for parents

    Together, let's take a comprehensive look into the mental health crisis the youth is facing today and take note of the practical strategies for creating a healthier environment that supports their well-being.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    • 00:00 Intro
    • 01:55 Global Synchronized Collapse of Mental Health
    • 08:12 Social Media is for Adults to Network
    • 10:20 The Science Behind Anxiety
    • 14:51 Variation of Emotions is Necessary for Kids
    • 17:45 Play Helps Kids Learn
    • 19:12 How to Make Playtime More Effective?
    • 22:59 The Effects of Technology on Different Genders
    • 29:24 Going Through Puberty on Social Media
    • 32:08 How Parenting Has Changed with Technology
    • 34:27 Efforts to Regulate Smartphones Use for Children
    • 44:21 Women Are Always Judged for Their Looks
    • 49:26 Verified Social Media Account
    • 56:58 Why Tap Into Our Spirituality
    • 01:03:56 What is Happening to Us?
    • 01:11:31 The Greatest Distraction of Human Value
    • 01:16:23 Jonathan on Final Five

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    If You've Been Feeling Drained... Listen To This (9 Steps To Recover And Avoid Burnout)

    If You've Been Feeling Drained... Listen To This (9 Steps To Recover And Avoid Burnout)

    Do you often feel exhausted or burnt out?

    Are you struggling to manage your stress levels?

    Today, Jay talks about exhaustion, burnout, and stress, highlighting their prevalence with statistics showing that a significant portion of young adults and women report feeling drained. He introduces a practical approach to tackle these challenges, encapsulated in the "triple A" formula—Accept, Action, Attention—which encourages acknowledging negative feelings, taking actionable steps to address them, and paying mindful attention to one's mental state

    Jay also introduces the concept of "reset periods," whether it's an hour, half-day, or full day, to allow for complete mental and physical rejuvenation. The importance of self-compassion is also emphasized, encouraging individuals to replace inner criticism with supportive self-talk, which can significantly improve overall well-being.

    In this episode, you'll learn:

    How to break negative thought cycle

    How to manage your energy levels

    How to use stress strategically

    How to practice self-compassion

    How to get out of stressful situation

    Don’t let exhaustion control your life—take action today and start feeling refreshed and empowered. Listen now and share with someone who needs a boost!

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    01:06 Do You Feel Drained?

    03:10 #1: Learn to Break Repetitive Thoughts

    06:27 #2: You Don’t Need to Be on Full Energy All the Time

    10:20 #3: Learn to Say NO

    14:05 #4: Be Strategic with Your Time

    17:02 #5: Have a Reset Day

    18:35 #6: Be Kind to Yourself

    19:59 #7: Allow Yourself to Vent and Let It Out

    21:24 #8: Get a Restful Sleep 

    23:00 #9: Wash Your Mind the Night Before

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    Taylor Hill: How to Navigate Emotional Challenges & Ways to Practice Gratitude in Lifes’ Unexpected Hard Times

    Taylor Hill: How to Navigate Emotional Challenges & Ways to Practice Gratitude in Lifes’ Unexpected Hard Times

    How does gratitude aid during emotional struggles?

    How does focusing on positives improve our emotional well-being?

    Today, let's welcome supermodel, content creator, actor, and philanthropist Taylor Hill. Discovered at the age of 14, Taylor has worked with fashion houses and luxury brands around the globe and has graced the covers of prestigious fashion magazines, including Vogue. Beyond her modeling career, Taylor is the founder of Tate and Taylor, a media content platform and community inspired by her late Labradoodle, Tate. 

    Taylor speaks candidly about her emotional journey with her late Labradoodle, Tate and the profound bond she shared with him,  describing how he was more than just a pet – he was a soulmate and a source of unwavering support. She also opens up about the challenges and triumphs of starting her modeling career as a teenager, highlighting the pressures and responsibilities that came with her rapid rise to fame.

    Inspired by her journey with Tate, Taylor founded Tate and Taylor, a media content platform and community for pets and their humans. She explains the mission behind this venture, which aims to support pet owners and raise awareness about animal welfare.

    In this interview, you'll learn:

    How to handle emotional challenges

    How to manage early career success

    How to stay fit mentally and physically

    How to manage grief and loss

    How to pursue your purpose

    How to find joy and gratitude everyday

    Taylor's story is a testament to the strength of the human spirit and the healing power of unconditional love, an inspiring message for anyone facing their own struggles and searching for meaning in their experiences. 

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    • 00:00 Intro
    • 03:50 Earliest Childhood Memory
    • 09:30 Modeling at 14 
    • 12:52 Going to School Wasn’t For Me
    • 15:26 Victoria Secret Model
    • 18:18 Audition Process for Models
    • 20:20 Having the Right Team
    • 24:52 Discipline of a VS Model
    • 33:32 VS Comeback
    • 38:55 Experiencing Burnout
    • 42:12 Losing Tate
    • 51:33 The Signs and Symptoms
    • 01:13:01 Healing From Losing Your Pet
    • 01:19:40 Pregnancy and Miscarriage 
    • 01:44:52 Alone Time While Grieving
    • 01:53:02 Emotional Support From Your Partner
    • 02:04:01 Everyone’s Journey is Different
    • 02:10:39 Building the Tate and Taylor Brand
    • 02:20:52 A Brand for a Cause
    • 02:24:48 Taylor on Final Five

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