Kim Kardashian ON: How to Deal with Challenging Times in Parenting & Learning to Love Again

    Spending quality time with loved ones and being present is crucial for building strong relationships and creating lasting memories. Balancing work and family time can be hard, but being present and giving time is what matters most.

    enMay 22, 2023

    About this Episode

    Today, I sit down with Kim Kardashian to talk about self compassion and self love. Kim talks about her experiences as a celebrity and an influencer, how she learned to love and take care of herself more so she can have more love and compassion for others, and the challenges of being a parent of four and running a business at the same time. 

    Kim Kardashian is an entrepreneur, business mogul, and producer. She first gained media attention in her appearances in the reality television series "Keeping Up with the Kardashians," which chronicles the personal and professional lives of her and her family members. Over the years, Kim Kardashian has built a successful brand, including beauty and fashion lines, and has become known for her influential social media presence.

    You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.

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    • 00:00 Intro
    • 03:55 When was the last time someone didn’t recognize you?
    • 05:02 How often do you take a mental health check and have some time alone?
    • 07:22 How do you manage a life in public with different personas?
    • 09:38 Going out of your way to be of help and support someone in need
    • 12:50 This is what genuine compassion can do for your personally and for others
    • 16:25 Self work can be different for different people and that’s okay
    • 18:02 Putting your own happiness first is a skill that can take time to learn
    • 24:31 Surrounding yourself with people you trust is the best place to be in
    • 29:05 With parenting, everyone says the days are long, the years are short
    • 32:05 Parenting challenges is a lifetime commitment for every parent
    • 36:32 Kids can ask difficult questions and this is how you can be more open to them
    • 38:56 The journey of personal growth through helping other people
    • 40:54 Kim explains that we all make mistakes and the second chance we get makes a huge  difference
    • 44:12 “I’ve never been hard on myself, but I am competitive with myself.”
    • 47:03 How can positive peer pressure help you?
    • 52:08 The warm welcoming presence always makes people comfortable and welcome
    • 54:41 When you feel like you’re the worst mom, how do you cope?
    • 01:00:10 Living a good life and being the best example for your kids
    • 01:01:34 Kim on Final Five

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    🔑 Key Takeaways

    • Kim Kardashian's success as a businesswoman and entrepreneur is only topped by her passion for criminal justice reform. She remains grounded and values creating positive environments for herself and those around her.
    • Despite being in the public eye, finding alone time and self-expression is important. Prioritizing personal routines and learning from challenges in parenting and relationships can lead to growth.
    • Showing empathy and support for others as they grow and change is crucial in any relationship. It is important to listen to others' stories and allow them to evolve in their own unique way.
    • Trusting yourself and prioritizing your own happiness can lead to confidence, success and eliminating unnecessary stress. Choose happiness and open up new opportunities in life.
    • Prioritize your own happiness, value loyal and supportive relationships, find solutions instead of complaining, and appreciate the stability and reliability of longstanding connections in both personal and professional life.
    • Maintaining strong relationships and adapting to challenges are key to finding pride and fulfillment in the parenting journey. Prioritizing valuable relationships and taking time for them is essential, even amidst the demands of everyday life.
    • Parenting is a complex journey that requires patience, effective communication, and consistent scheduling. As children grow older, the relationship between parent and child evolves, providing opportunities for deeper bonds, meaningful relationships, and lasting legacies.
    • Kim Kardashian encourages her children to use their voices and speaks up for justice reform through her platform, making positive changes in the world.
    • Kim Kardashian's experience advocating for criminal justice reform taught her the importance of second chances and appreciating the people and things in her life. Focusing on personal growth can lead to growth in how we judge and treat ourselves and others.
    • It's important to find people who share your values and beliefs but you can't force your beliefs on anyone. Positive peer pressure can be beneficial, but people have to go through their own journeys to grow. Make people feel welcomed and heard.
    • Spending quality time with loved ones and being present is crucial for building strong relationships and creating lasting memories. Balancing work and family time can be hard, but being present and giving time is what matters most.
    • Kim Kardashian writes her children letters documenting their growth, teaches them the value of pursuing passions and working hard, and makes their well-being and future success her top priority. She strives to inspire and make them feel loved and supported.
    • Time is precious, so make the most of your relationships. Trust your instincts and don't let conflicting advice overwhelm you. Give your best effort no matter what you do, and be fully present and dedicated in all aspects of life. Pursue your passions, as they are your path to success.
    • Awareness in all aspects of life, finding purpose in difficult situations, and understanding that detachment means nothing owns you. Emotions should be acknowledged and used as an opportunity for growth rather than being suppressed.
    • Holding on to relationships is important, but heartbreak should not destroy us. Take time, be mindful, and spread kindness. Sharing insights and being present help with growth and healing.

    📝 Podcast Summary

    Kim Kardashian: From Business to Activism

    Kim Kardashian is a successful businesswoman, entrepreneur and producer known for founding Skims Skin by Kim and her passion for criminal justice reform. She has also launched a successful podcast and announced the launch of private equity from Sky Partners with Jay Simmons. Kim's family is known for their positive attitudes and welcoming personalities. Kim's mother, in particular, has a way of making everyone feel comfortable and loved. Despite her busy schedule of filming and travelling, Kim remains a down-to-earth person who values creating positive environments for herself and others.

    Kim Kardashian on Unseen Solitude and Jay Shetty's Inspiration

    Kim Kardashian talks about the importance of being unseen and finding alone time amidst the madness of her busy life. She prioritizes her morning workout routine and car ride alone where she listens to music. She also shares her admiration for Jay Shetty's podcast which encourages people to express themselves in a more meaningful way. Despite showing all her faces to the world, she believes people pick and choose what they want to take from her. Kim also acknowledges the challenges of parenting, family dynamics, and relationships and shares her tips and learnings along the way.

    The Importance of Compassion and Patience in nurturing Relationships

    Compassion and care are important in any relationship, including family. It is crucial to have patience for people as they grow and evolve at their own pace, without expecting them to reach the same level of self-awareness as you. Real love is being patient with others as they try to change and supporting them in their journey. Spending time with people and listening to their stories can expand your capacity for empathy and compassion. Self-work is not about preaching to others about the things you want to hear, but rather allowing them to grow and evolve in their own unique way.

    The Power of Self-Work: Trusting your Inner Voice and Prioritizing your Happiness

    Self-work, including methods such as meditation and exercise, differs for everyone. Trusting your inner voice and prioritizing your own happiness can lead to confidence and success. Putting yourself first does not mean disregarding others' feelings, but rather protecting your own heart and eliminating unnecessary stress. Choosing happiness can open up opportunities that may have seemed impossible.

    Choosing Yourself: The Key to Positive Changes and Opportunities in Life

    Choosing yourself can bring positive changes and opportunities in life. Focus on your own happiness instead of trying to please everyone. Loyalty and supportive relationships are valuable, and it's important to not take things too seriously and find solutions instead of complaining. Longstanding relationships can indicate stability and reliability, and it's important to value them in both personal and professional aspects of life.

    The Importance of Grounded Relationships and Adaptability in Parenting

    Maintaining strong relationships requires mutual respect and support, regardless of the different roles and challenges that may arise. Grounded relationships that are grounded in love contribute to a person's overall stability and sense of self. With parenting, there is never a right time to start. No amount of preparation can truly prepare you for the challenges and chaos that will come, but learning to adapt, understand, and appreciate each moment of the journey can bring a sense of pride and fulfillment. It is important to value the relationships that matter and make time for them, even amid the distractions and competing demands of success and everyday life.

    The Lessons of Parenting: Finding Purpose and Meaning in the Journey

    Parenting is a challenging yet rewarding job that teaches you a lot about yourself. It can bring out the best and worst in you, and sometimes it takes having multiple children to fully understand the lessons. Patience, scheduling, and communication are key, and it's important to appreciate the forever nature of parenting. As children grow older, the relationship evolves, and the struggles of the teenage years can lead to a deeper bond. Ultimately, parenting provides the opportunity to create meaningful relationships and legacies that transcend generations.

    Kim Kardashian: Parenting and Fighting for Justice

    Kim Kardashian discusses her open and honest relationship with her children, and how she helps them navigate the nuances of her fame. Despite growing up in the public eye, Kim's children have a normal life, and she encourages them to use their little voices and speak up for themselves. Kim also talks about her journey into justice reform, sparked by seeing a case on social media that weighed on her heart. Through her interest in crime and solving things, she discovered there were thousands of cases that were unfair, and she felt compelled to do something. Kim's expression of purpose is using her voice and platform to make positive changes in the world.

    Kim Kardashian's Journey to Empathy and Self-Acceptance.

    Kim Kardashian's experience advocating for criminal justice reform led to increased empathy and a realization that many individuals lack opportunities to improve themselves. She now fights for second chances and encourages others to withhold judgment and instead focus on being happy and appreciative of the people and things in their lives. While Kim admits to being competitive, she is easy on herself and encourages others to be kinder to themselves in their internal dialogues. Personal growth in one area, like criminal justice reform, can also lead to growth in other areas, specifically in how we judge and treat ourselves and others.

    The Importance of Surrounding Yourself with Like-minded People

    It's important to surround yourself with like-minded people who share your values and morals. While it's natural to want to help others, you can't force your beliefs on someone who thinks differently. It's okay to let go and find people who align more with your core beliefs and values, rather than trying to mold them into what you want. Positive peer pressure can be healthy, but ultimately people have to go through their own journeys and lessons in order to grow. Kim Kardashian's biggest lesson from her mom is to make people feel warmly welcomed and heard.

    The Power of Creating Meaningful Family Memories with Kim Kardashian.

    The importance of creating meaningful memories with family and loved ones is emphasized by Kim Kardashian in her conversation with Jay Shetty. Through spending time together and being present, children can learn to value strong relationships and create lasting memories. Kim also discusses the struggle of mom guilt and how finding balance between work and family time is important. Despite the difficulties of parenting, she emphasizes that being present and giving time is the most important thing parents can do. Kim's close relationships with her own family serve as inspiration for creating a strong family bond.

    Kim Kardashian on Being a Positive Parenting Role Model

    Kim Kardashian shares her parenting journey and how she instills positive experiences and values in her children. She writes her kids a letter every year, documenting their growth, and includes silly memories and their favorite things. She also shows them the importance of pursuing passions and working hard. Kardashian acknowledges that being the best mom is challenging, but her kids see how much effort she puts into being a good role model. Despite occasional complaints from her kids, she continues to prioritize their well-being and future success. Through her actions, Kardashian strives to inspire her kids and make them feel loved and supported.

    Kim Kardashian's Advice on Seizing Time, Trusting Your Gut, and Pursuing Your Passions

    Kim Kardashian emphasizes the importance of being present and making the most of relationships because time is limited. Losing a parent made her realize the value of time. She also advises against taking in too much advice and trusting one's gut, as conflicting advice can be overwhelming. Kim also shares that if she had to restart, she would pursue being a lawyer to help people. She believes that effort is the key to success, and one should always give their best no matter the job or situation. Being fully present and committed is crucial in all aspects of life.

    Kim Kardashian's Journey on Valuing Life Experiences Over Material Possessions

    Kim Kardashian shares her experience of valuing material things and how life experiences have taught her that nothing is important. She learned this through experiencing multiple fires and realizing that she needed to focus on digitizing important memories rather than material possessions. Jay Shetty shares an Islamic proverb that states detachment doesn't mean owning nothing, it means nothing owns you. Kim agrees and shares that it's important to have awareness in all aspects of life, including relationships, material possessions, and emotions. She believes that it's okay to feel all the opposite emotions and go through them rather than holding them in. Kim also discusses the importance of finding purpose in difficult situations and using them as an opportunity for growth.

    Kim Kardashian on Relationships, Heartbreak, and Kindness

    Kim Kardashian believes that even though heartbreak is a part of our journey, relationships should be held on to even more preciously. She emphasizes the importance of not letting heartbreak destroy us and being at peace while also being a hopeless romantic. Kim believes in taking her time to not rush into things and being mindful of people who enter her life, especially when she has kids. She also believes in giving people second chances and fairness and thinks that spreading kindness is the solution to many problems in life. Being present and sharing insights with one another is crucial for growth and healing.

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    24:44 Difference in Scorecard Perspective

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    Benny Blanco: 3 Ways to Stop Caring About Failure & Get Out of Your Own Way

    Benny Blanco: 3 Ways to Stop Caring About Failure & Get Out of Your Own Way

    How can you overcome the fear of failure?

    What can you do daily to care less about failing?

    Today, Jay sits down with Benny Blanco for an inspiring conversation about pursuing passions, mentorship, failure, and continuous motivation. Benny has made a huge mark on the music industry contributing to hundreds of millions of album sales worldwide. Benny has worked with A-List artists like Ed Sheeran, Justin Bieber, and Katy Perry. As a solo artist, his albums "Friends Keep Secrets" and its sequel have amassed over 11 billion streams, featuring multiple platinum hits. Beyond music, Benny has ventured into television and even released a cookbook, "Open Wide," showcasing his diverse talents and interests

    Benny shares insight on how to not let failure stop you and getting over imposter syndrome. We also go dive into Benny’s life outside of music, exploring his passion for cooking through his cookbook "Open Wide." Plus, Benny talks about his relationships, how he keeps his creativity flowing, and the small joys that make his life special.

    In this interview, you’ll learn:

    How to pursue your passion with limited resources

    How to not let failure get in your way of achieving your goals

    How to embrace the unexpected in creative work

    How to transition your passion into different fields

    How to find joy and creativity in everyday moments

    Don't miss this intimate look at Benny Blanco's life and maybe learn a thing or two about making your own multi-track masterpiece or the perfect dish to serve at dinner!

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    03:43 What’s the First Creative Thing You Put Together?

    06:15 I Never Cared About Failure

    10:33 Developing Amnesia to Failure

    14:22 How Did You Meet Your Mentor?

    18:10 “The Boy I Mentored” 

    23:42 How Do You Show Up After a Rejection?

    26:51 Love Can Be Felt Through Music

    29:56 What Do You Do When You Wake Up?   

    32:02 Why Do You Struggle with Meditation?

    33:28 Why I Went to Therapy

    38:25 The Pressure of Perfectionism

    44:49 Do You Love to Cook?

    47:20 Do You Eat Healthy?

    48:47 Finding Comfort in Food

    54:42 What’s Your Sleep Pattern?

    56:40 Friendships Built Over the Years

    59:19 Multigenerational Friendships

    01:03:44 Better Relationship After Divorce

    01:05:52 Benny on Final Five   

    01:15:57 What’s Your Vice?

    01:17:53 Do You Take Supplements?

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    Why Your Self Worth is Keeping You Stuck & How to Stop Sabotaging Your Personal Growth With Jamie Kern Lima

    Why Your Self Worth is Keeping You Stuck & How to Stop Sabotaging Your Personal Growth With Jamie Kern Lima

    How does low self-worth stop you from moving forward?

    How can you stop self-sabotage and grow personally?

    Today, let’s welcome Jamie Kern Lima. Jamie is a New York Times bestselling author, founder of IT Cosmetics, a company she started in her living room and sold to L'Oreal in a billion-dollar deal, becoming the first female CEO of a brand in its 100+ year history. She's also an active philanthropist who has funded leadership training in more than 100 prisons and shelters across the US, and has donated over $40 million in product and funds to help women face the effects of cancer with confidence. 

    Jamie and Jay ponder on the meaning of self-worth, distinguishing it from mere confidence and challenging the misguided belief that our value is tied to our physical appearance. We get to hear the detrimental effects of self-doubt and present empowering strategies to transform your relationship with rejection, offering a new perspective that fosters resilience and self-compassion. 

    And then the conversation dives deep into personal beliefs, urging us to identify and discard unhelpful misconceptions, while giving emphasis on why authenticity is crucial and its role in conjunction with other factors in achieving success. 

    In this interview, you'll learn:

    How to build self-worth

    How to distinguish confidence from self-worth

    How to handle rejection

    How to overcome self-doubt

    How to remain authentic

    Together, let's learn how to distinguish your worth from external validation, turn rejection into a stepping stone, and live authentically.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    03:17 Do You Feel Worthy Today?

    10:04 Confusing Confidence with Self Worth

    17:37 Your Weight Impacts Your Worth is a Lie 

    24:03 What Has Self Doubt Cost You?

    31:25 How to Change Your Relationship with Rejection

    37:02 The 4-Part R to Reframe Rejection

    44:00 You Need This Today

    48:13 Which Lie Are You Trying to Unlearn? 

    56:32 Authenticity Alone Doesn’t Guarantee Success

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