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A sub is concerned that her Dom’s wife is going to veto their dynamic and wonders how she can modify her behavior to make the wife more comfortable. Lina talks about which feelings we have control over (only our own) and how to give yourself grace during liminal times. 

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So you've got somebody to do 24/7 with - great! Now how the hell do you narrow down all the options and create a bespoke practice just for you? Lina walks a listener through the buffet of options, and helps guide the process of assembling a satisfying D/s plate covered in consent gravy.

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CREDITS

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This week a caller on the autism spectrum and his partner with ADD wonder if there is a link between kink and neurodivergence. Let's talk about it!

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CREDITS

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Due to unforeseen circumstances (we got COVID), in lieu of this week’s scheduled episode please enjoy this rerun of a season 2 favorite. Lina interviews a listener who got in touch to share the story of her custody battle with her sex-negative ex-husband, and the unexpected win that arrived at the end of her story.

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First Lina delivers a hot take about how women who sleep with men can become marginalized within kink, then teases out the difference between humiliation and degradation kinks while making fun of dating app bing bongs (as usual).

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We’re back! And we’re kicking purity culture in the pants!! 

Get info about the Friday 1/26 Deep Dive here!

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A sub calls in asking how to make amends for past mistakes. Spoiler alert: you do not have to walk on your knees for a hundred miles through the desert repenting. Unless you're into that.

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The words filth and perversion barely begin to scratch the surface of what's on offer in this interview with Empress Wu and her singular penchant for scenes that expand into systems that fuck gender, the body, notions of inside and outside, as well as existence itself. Here in the free preview, we discuss Wu’s journey into pro-Domme work as well as her thoughts on sex work decriminalization.

Paid listeners will receive the full hour and fifteen minute interview featuring specifics of her wild Dominance practice.

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A sub is concerned about sending the wrong message when telling Doms she doesn't have hard limits. What to do?

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Bisexual polyamorous writer Gab Alexa joins me to discuss bi-erasure, queer baiting, and her spicy time at the infamous swinger’s retreat Hedonism.

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Hey, it's your real life calling! The one where you're not sleeping on an air mattress in a musty basement bracing yourself to hear your Uncle Jim's conspiracy theories at the dinner table! You -- yes you! -- used to be kinky, and that kinkiness is a superpower!

Get 25% off on both Ask A Sub courses with code BOUNDARIES25 at askasub.com/courses. Offer expires 11/29 at 11:59pm PST.

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A listener wants to know the answer to a so-called googleable question - what the heck is a play party, exactly? Lina answers & gives tips on navigating these experiences once you find the right one.

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Get more Folsom info from this pamphlet.

Special thanks to Cactus Cult Leather, BunnyLeather.com, Sylvan and Milton, SF K9 Unit, Bay Area Open Minds, The Satanic Temple and everyone who spoke to me at Folsom! 

Get my full discussion with Alex Kacha on Patreon or Substack.

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Disco Music via Descript

Are you or a loved one affected by Goodest Girl Syndrome, aka the desire to be the absolute best in comparison to all your partner’s other partners past, present & future? Tune in for solace, solidarity, and strategies to tend your tender heart.

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This month’s Deep Dive was with boudoir photographer and all around artiste Alex Kacha. We discussed self care, the healing gaze of the camera, and of course the kinkiest shoots they’ve ever done!

Deep Dive is a monthly series where I'll bring you deep conversations with luminaries in the kink and alternative sexuality communities, always with the focus of asking them educated, insider questions about their work. Not only are these interviews fun and informational, but with your support we're creating an oral history of kink at this moment in time. Exciting stuff!

Join Patreon at $11/month to get the complete interview here, as well as access to the archives of interviews with discussions ranging from how to find a sex positive therapist, to how to navigate your local kink scene, to the scientific origins of masochism. Oh yeah, and my only public recorded convo with Mr. Dune. 

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A sub loves the play parties she attends with her Dom, but is struggling with watching him play with his primary partner. Can this cozy polycule find a way forward that honors her boundaries?

Alex Kacha Deep Dive Interview - Live Event on 10/24 at 5pm PT

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Follow KD: Instagram | Website

Follow Kink Out: Instagram | Website

Get KD’s bootblacking starter kit recs here.

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What do you do when a very special dynamic leaves your life? This week a broken-hearted brat wants to know how to move on in the wake of a great love lost. 

Join us for our next Deep Dive with photographer Alex Kacha on Tuesday, 10/20 at 5 pacific. Join patreon to attend live for just $5/month, or get the replay at the $11/month Patreon or $8/month substack.

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Cue up some disco and put on your finest assless chaps, because we’re reviewing the history of The Folsom Street Fair, then we’re taking a walking tour of the heart of leather culture in the 1970’s - San Francisco’s South of Market neighborhood and the many bars, clubs, and bathhouses that made it famous.

Check out my substack piece on the walking tour here.

Here’s the Folsom Street Fair’s website.

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If you’re reading this, you have a pelvic floor! And Dr. Rachel McCarthy-Moya is here to tell you all about it. Listen for her take on kegels (do less of them), your pelvic floor's relationship to capitalism (burn it down), and her lovely guided exercise for pelvic floor lengthening. Get the complete interview here. 

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Recommended Reading: Like A Mother by Angela Garbes

Join Patreon at $11/month to get the complete interview here, as well as access to the archives of interviews with discussions ranging from how to find a sex positive therapist, to how to navigate your local kink scene, to the scientific origins of masochism. Oh yeah, and my only public recorded convo with Mr. Dune. 

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CREDITS

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Music by Dan Molad