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    Sam and Monica on Marrying a Brit, Losing My Mom to Cancer & Consulting a Psychic

    enJune 05, 2024

    Podcast Summary

    • Long-distance loveLong-distance relationships can thrive with determination, communication, and mutual support despite challenges like cultural differences, long distances, and personal obstacles.

      Love knows no boundaries, not even accents or long distances. The couple Sam and Monica, despite being in a long-term relationship longer than others, continue to express love and affection towards each other. Monica's determination to meet Sam led her to slide into his DMs, and their connection grew stronger with each interaction. Even though they faced challenges like Monica's mother's passing and Monica's reluctance to take Sam's last name, they continued to rely on each other and maintain their bond. Their love story is a reminder that sometimes, taking a chance and following your heart can lead to beautiful and lasting relationships.

    • Serendipity and DeterminationSerendipitous encounters and determination can lead to meaningful relationships and the pursuit of dreams. Childhood fascinations can shape our interests and preferences.

      The power of determination and serendipitous circumstances played a significant role in the speaker's relationship with Monica. Growing up with a fascination for British culture, the speaker was thrilled to meet Monica, who was flying into London from Long Island, despite being a broke college student with a long train ride ahead. Their shared love for British music, particularly The Beatles, brought them closer, and the speaker's obsession with British music and culture may have been fueled by the popularity of British boy bands like One Direction. The speaker's story highlights the importance of hard work and perseverance, as they both worked hard to pursue their dreams, whether it was in music or relationships. Additionally, the speaker's childhood fascination with American celebrities, such as Jessica Alba and Mila Kunis, shows that cultural influences can shape our preferences and interests, regardless of nationality.

    • UK food misconceptionsDespite the belief that Brits have terrible food, the speaker finds humor in mispronunciations and appreciates the UK's culinary offerings. Statistically, they may have fewer cavities than Americans due to less frequent dental check-ups.

      Despite common misconceptions, the food in the UK is appreciated by the speaker, and they find humor in people mispronouncing words. The biggest misconception about Brits, according to the speaker, is that they have terrible food. However, they believe the food in the UK is amazing. The speaker also shared a humorous experience about mispronouncing a word during a TikTok video and the pressure they felt due to the presence of cameras. Another common misconception about Brits is that they have bad teeth, but statistically, they may have fewer cavities than Americans due to less frequent dental check-ups. The conversation then shifted to their personal love story, where they met online and spent four days together in London before officially becoming a couple in 2015. They also discussed their experiences with allergies and how Claritin has helped them manage their symptoms.

    • First Nando's experienceThe first time trying a culturally significant restaurant, like Nando's, can create strong memories and connections, but misunderstandings can lead to awkward situations.

      The first time trying a beloved restaurant, Nando's in this case, can be an exciting experience, much like losing a virginity, according to the speaker's analogy. The restaurant holds significant cultural significance in the UK, and the shared experience of trying it for the first time can create strong memories and connections. However, miscommunications and misunderstandings can lead to confusion and awkward situations. The speaker's first date at Nando's did not go as planned due to a misunderstanding about the menu, but they eventually shared their first kiss on a park bench in London. The ability to travel and experience different cultures and foods in Europe is a valuable opportunity, making the experience even more memorable.

    • Long-distance relationshipsCreativity and determination can help overcome long-distance challenges, such as starting a business to work online and travel to see each other more frequently.

      Love knows no boundaries, and determination and creativity can help overcome long-distance challenges. The speaker shares a personal story of how they met their significant other in France and the difficulties they faced in maintaining a long-distance relationship due to their young age and limited resources. Despite these obstacles, they managed to make it work by starting a social media management company, which allowed them to work online and travel to see each other more frequently. The longest stretch of time they spent apart was around 4 months, but they made it a point to prioritize their relationship and find ways to make it work despite the challenges. The hardest part was dealing with trust issues and different phases in their lives, but through open communication and understanding, they were able to overcome these hurdles and eventually live together.

    • Effective communication and conflict resolutionDeep conversations and setting a rule to resolve conflicts before the end of the day can significantly improve relationships by addressing misunderstandings and arguments, and understanding each other's underlying issues and perspectives is crucial.

      Effective communication and resolving conflicts promptly can significantly improve relationships. The speakers shared their experience of how they overcame misunderstandings and arguments by having deep conversations and setting a rule to resolve conflicts before the end of the day. They also highlighted the importance of understanding each other's underlying issues and perspectives. Additionally, they introduced Hiya, a children's vitamin brand that offers a healthier alternative to traditional gummy vitamins, and shared their excitement about using it for their upcoming child's nutritional needs.

    • Monica's honestyMonica's straightforward expression of feelings led the speaker to realize she was the one, contrasting his past experiences with games and back-and-forth.

      Monica's straightforwardness in expressing her feelings stood out to the speaker in their dating experiences, which ultimately led him to realize she was the one. The speaker's past relationships involved a lot of back-and-forth and games, but Monica's honesty was refreshing. The proposal took place during their anniversary trip to Monaco, where the speaker had planned a surprise with a video of their relationship memories. Despite the speaker's expectation that he wouldn't propose until at least 7 years into their relationship, he surprised her with a ring. The proposal was nearly ruined when the speaker saw a jewelry box instead of the actual ring box, but Monica was ultimately thrilled with the outcome. The conversation also touched on the speaker's love for watches and his past experience with a carbon fiber wedding ring that caused an allergic reaction.

    • Unexpected challenges in marriageUnexpected challenges and surprises are a normal part of getting engaged and married, from the proposal itself to the wedding day and beyond. Adaptability and embracing the unexpected are key to navigating these experiences and making lasting memories.

      The experience of getting engaged and married involves unexpected challenges and surprises, even during the proposal itself. For instance, Sebastian pranked Monica during his proposal by jokingly asking for her hand in marriage multiple times in a video, leaving her unsure if it was real or not. Similarly, during their first wedding, they encountered unexpected weather conditions and a group of golden retrievers, making for a memorable and unplanned experience. These unexpected events highlight the importance of adaptability and embracing the unexpected in the journey of love and marriage. Additionally, the couple's decision to have two weddings, one small and intimate and the other grand and celebratory, showcases the significance of honoring personal preferences and traditions while sharing the joy with loved ones.

    • Personal finance app, Rocket MoneyRocket Money helps simplify managing money by finding and canceling unwanted subscriptions, monitoring spending, and negotiating bills to save and grow savings. Discussed the importance of personal finance and being true to oneself.

      Rocket Money is a personal finance app that simplifies managing your money by finding and canceling unwanted subscriptions, monitoring spending, and negotiating bills to help you save money and grow your savings. The discussion also touched on the controversy surrounding changing one's last name after marriage, which garnered unexpected backlash and attention online. Despite the odd incident, the couple was able to brush it off and continue focusing on their relationship and content creation. Another interesting topic that emerged was the perception of masculinity and the assumption that expressing emotional sides makes a man less masculine. The discussion hinted that this might be more prevalent in the UK than in the US, with the example of an experience involving chivalry and disrespect towards an elderly woman. Overall, the conversation highlighted the importance of taking control of your finances and being true to yourself.

    • Bystander interventionBystanders have a responsibility to intervene in situations where they witness potential harm or disrespect towards others, especially towards vulnerable individuals. Embrace who you are and don't let others' opinions define you.

      Bystanders have a responsibility to intervene in situations where they witness potential harm or disrespect towards others, especially towards vulnerable individuals. The speaker's actions in defending an elderly woman from a creepy man's advances, despite the man's age and the presence of his son, highlights the importance of standing up for others and not tolerating inappropriate behavior. Additionally, the conversation touched on the prevalence of toxic masculinity and the negative impact it can have on individuals, particularly those who do not conform to societal norms. The speakers shared their experiences of being teased for their interests and hobbies, and how they have learned to embrace who they are and not let others' opinions define them. Overall, the conversation emphasized the importance of empathy, respect, and standing up for what is right.

    • Beliefs about life and deathPeople's beliefs and experiences shape their perspectives on life and death, with some seeking comfort in the idea of an afterlife through personal experiences and cultural influences.

      People have different beliefs and experiences that shape their perspectives on life and death. The speaker shares her obsession with Paul Wesley and her grandmother's shared fangirl moments, leading to a conversation about reincarnation and past lives. The speaker expresses her desire to believe in an afterlife, sharing personal experiences of dreams and communications from loved ones who have passed away. The conversation also touches on the fear of death and loss, and the comfort that beliefs in an afterlife can bring during difficult times. The speaker's thoughts on this topic are influenced by her Christian upbringing and her experiences of loss. The conversation also includes a promotion for Lumi's whole body deodorant.

    • Encounters with the supernaturalEncounters with the supernatural can provide comfort and a sense of connection to loved ones who have passed away, even during difficult times.

      The speakers shared experiences of encounters with the supernatural, which left them feeling connected to their loved ones who had passed away. During one instance, Sam described seeing his mother at his door in the middle of the night, wearing a white robe and with her hair down, an exact description given by Sarah Monica during a conversation with a stranger at a shopping mall. Another encounter involved Sarah Monica's sister feeling a hand touch her head while they were discussing their recent experiences. Both incidents left them feeling that there is something beyond this life. These events occurred during a difficult time for Sarah Monica, as she had recently lost her mother and was going through the visa interview process. Despite keeping her mother's passing private on social media, they encountered individuals who seemed to have a deep connection with them and their experiences, further solidifying their belief in the supernatural.

    • Unexpected challengesWhen faced with unexpected challenges, taking charge and finding comfort in the small things can help us cope and cherish meaningful memories

      Life can throw unexpected challenges, and while we may not be able to control every situation, we can control how we respond. The speaker shared a story about having to postpone their wedding due to a contract issue, and during that time, they received devastating news about their mother's cancer diagnosis. Despite the difficulties, they found strength in taking charge of the situation and supporting their family. The experience also led them to cherish meaningful memories, such as a tattoo of their mother's handwriting in the calendar. While the unexpected events were sad, they also highlighted the importance of resilience and finding comfort in the small things.

    • Psychic_experienceUnexpected predictions from a psychic encounter can leave a lasting impression and add intrigue to one's life, while also reminding us to be open-minded and embrace the unknown.

      The psychic experience, although initially sought out for entertainment, ended up providing surprising and accurate predictions for the individuals involved. The encounter with the psychic, who correctly guessed the name of a grandparent and made predictions about future events, left a lasting impression and added a layer of intrigue to their lives. The experience also highlighted the unexpected and unpredictable nature of life, as the individuals had no plans to move to Florida at the time but ended up doing so and loving it. The encounter with the psychic served as a reminder of the importance of being open-minded and embracing the unknown.

    • Pregnancy fears in datingFear of pregnancy can lead to worry and misinterpretations, but as relationships develop, individuals may become more open and excited about starting a family, marked by a newfound appreciation for children and long-term planning.

      The fear of having a pregnancy scare while dating can be a common experience for some people, especially if they come from families with a high fertility rate. This fear can lead to constant worry and even misinterpretations of bodily sensations. However, as individuals grow and develop in their relationships, they may become more open and excited about the possibility of starting a family. This transition can be marked by a newfound appreciation for children and a desire to provide them with a good home and environment. Couples may also find themselves making long-term plans, such as building a house, to prepare for the arrival of a child. Ultimately, the fear of pregnancy can give way to excitement and anticipation for the future.

    • Experiences and adventure in relationshipsShared experiences and adventures can deepen the connection between two people and keep relationships fresh and exciting, even after many years.

      Experiences and adventure are essential in keeping relationships fresh and exciting, even after many years. The couple in the conversation shared stories of their unique experiences, including a gondola ride and exploring a cave, which brought back fond memories and created a strong bond between them. They emphasized the importance of making the most of every moment, especially during times when they were apart. The conversation also touched on the idea that relationships require effort and adventure to keep the spark alive, and that shared experiences can deepen the connection between two people. Overall, the conversation highlighted the importance of prioritizing experiences and adventure in relationships, no matter how long they have been together.

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