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    Have some damn respect for yourself!

    enJune 04, 2024

    Podcast Summary

    • Relationship expectationsCommunicate openly about expectations and feelings in a relationship, and understand that small gestures can hold significant meaning when they demonstrate thoughtfulness and effort.

      It's important to recognize when someone is giving the bare minimum in a relationship, and understand that it's not about what they give, but rather the effort and consideration behind it. In the podcast episode, the speaker shares an example of a client who felt unappreciated because her husband only gave her flowers from the supermarket, despite her doing a lot for him. The client felt guilty for not being happy with the gesture, but ultimately realized that she wanted her partner to make an effort and show appreciation outside of his own convenience. The takeaway is to communicate openly about expectations and feelings in a relationship, and to understand that small gestures can hold significant meaning when they demonstrate thoughtfulness and effort.

    • Relationship worthRecognize and demand respect and reciprocity in relationships. Your worth isn't determined by crumbs, but by equal energy and effort from both parties.

      It's important to recognize and value our own worth in relationships. The speaker shares an experience of giving too much in a relationship, only to be met with minimal effort or appreciation from the other person. This behavior, the speaker suggests, may stem from past experiences that have distorted their reward systems, leading to a sense of entitlement and spoiling. It's crucial not to allow ourselves to be taken advantage of or gaslighted into feeling ungrateful or hard to please. Instead, we should demand respect and reciprocity in our relationships. The energy and effort we put in should be matched, and if it's not, it's essential to consider whether the relationship is worth continuing. In essence, we deserve more than crumbs in return for our time, energy, and effort.

    • Unbalanced relationshipsUnequal efforts and priorities lead to unbalanced relationships, creating an unhealthy dynamic and revealing fundamental differences between individuals.

      Unbalanced relationships are a result of unequal efforts and priorities. When one person puts in more than the other, it creates an imbalance that ultimately reveals the fundamental differences between the two individuals. The law of balance or equilibrium suggests that for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. However, when this law is not in synergy, it leads to an unhealthy dynamic. The person putting in more effort may feel good, but this can also attract negative attention and jealousy. Conversely, the person giving the minimum effort may feel content, but their actions reveal their opposition to the other person's values and priorities. Ultimately, these relationships are not in harmony, and no amount of praise or love can change that.

    • Gratitude in RelationshipsExpressing gratitude and acknowledging efforts can significantly impact relationships, but some individuals may overlook or even weaponize small gestures, emphasizing the importance of recognizing intentions and energy behind actions

      People's actions and expressions of gratitude can greatly impact relationships. The speaker emphasizes that some individuals may take more than they give, and may not express adequate appreciation for the efforts of others. This dynamic can lead to feelings of unappreciation and resentment. The speaker shares personal experiences where small gestures of gratitude were overlooked or even weaponized against them. They also highlight the importance of recognizing the energy and intentions behind actions, rather than just their size or material value. Ultimately, the speaker encourages expressing gratitude and acknowledging the efforts of others, as these small actions can have a significant impact on relationships. The speaker also cautions against getting caught up in the perceived insignificance of small gestures and instead focusing on the energy and intentions behind them.

    • Selfishness in RelationshipsSelfish behavior and emotional manipulation can lead to deep feelings of heartbreak and disappointment. It's important to question whether such behavior is acceptable and if one's expectations are too high or if they deserve better.

      Small acts of selfishness and emotional manipulation in relationships can lead to deep feelings of heartbreak and disappointment. When someone uses vulnerability as a weapon for deflection instead of being kind and humble, it reinforces negative patterns and reinforces feelings of being unmet and undervalued. This behavior often stems from past experiences of unmet needs and a focus on others' emotions over one's own. Ultimately, it's important to question whether settling for such behavior is truly acceptable and whether one's expectations are too high or if they deserve better.

    • Relying on others for validationRelying on others for validation or success in relationships can lead to disappointment and heartache, focusing on personal growth and genuine relationships brings genuine happiness.

      Relying on others for validation or success, especially in relationships, can lead to disappointment and heartache. People, no matter how powerful or influential, cannot guarantee happiness or fulfillment. A prime example is staying in a marriage with an actor, expecting them to open doors for your career. If they haven't done so after years, it's time to reevaluate the situation. Even stars have normal lives and may hold down regular jobs. Furthermore, some people may manipulate or use others for their own gain. Instead, focus on personal growth, find joy in everyday life, and seek out relationships that bring genuine happiness. Remember, your worth is not determined by others' power or success.

    • Personality Disorders, PrivilegePrivilege and extreme behaviors don't guarantee emotional stability or a healthy sense of self-importance. Personality disorders can hinder personal growth and success, leading to a self-centered worldview and detrimental behavior towards others.

      Some people, despite their privileged upbringing or extreme behaviors, may struggle with emotional stability and a distorted sense of self-importance. This was evident in the actress's actions, who used people to make her ex-boyfriend jealous and then burned bridges when she felt used. Her parents may have tried to channel her energy into acting to keep her in check, but her personality disorder and spoiled background didn't prepare her for the realities of life. The actress's attitude and behavior on set were detrimental to her career, as she alienated colleagues and failed to progress despite years of experience. Ultimately, the actress's self-centered worldview and inability to see beyond herself led to her downfall. It's essential to recognize that the world doesn't revolve around us, and we cannot live others' lives for them.

    • Self-worth and recognitionDon't accept crumbs, value yourself and strive for respect and recognition, break free from cycles of unappreciation, and honor your unique worth.

      It's important to value yourself and not accept being treated like a mere crumb by others. The speaker shares her experience of dealing with unappreciative people who only offer small gestures of recognition, while expecting immense gratitude in return. She encourages breaking free from this cycle and regaining self-esteem, emphasizing that each person is unique and deserving of respect. The speaker also highlights how leadership and societal structures can train individuals to accept crumbs instead of striving for more, and encourages everyone to honor themselves and reclaim their energy.

    • Accessibility in PodcastingPodcasters should consider accessibility for all listeners by providing subtitles or other accommodations for those with difficulty understanding fast speech or localisms.

      Passion and care should be balanced with consideration for others. The speaker expressed their love and enthusiasm, but recognized that they had overlooked the need for accessibility in their podcast. They acknowledged the importance of being mindful of audiences who may struggle with fast speech or localisms, and committed to finding a solution, such as subtitles, to make their content more inclusive. Ultimately, the speaker's message was one of love and encouragement, but it's essential to remember that how we share that message can be just as important as the message itself.

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