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    About this Episode

    When you lack clarity or have uncertainty for a direction or goal, it’s going to be difficult to succeed in your actions. Today Mireille and Adam discuss the topic of clear communication and expectation, two of the most important ingredients of success. How do we create better clarity? Like so many things — clarity begins with awareness, and awareness of yourself. You have to know what you want and what you value in life. We must assume 100% responsibility for creating our own clarity in our lives. After all, “if you don’t have clarity, you are operating from assumption.”

    🔑 Key Takeaways

    • Clear expectations and empathetic communication, along with information sharing and collaboration, can result in better outcomes. Switching to video-based communication can also avoid confusion. Clarity and communication are key to coping during uncertain times.
    • Clear communication is key to avoiding misunderstandings and assumptions in relationships and teams. Building a fuller 3D model of individuals, managing oneself, and over-communicating can aid in giving grace, flexibility, clarity, and expectation framing. A little insight in advance of outcomes can go a long way in avoiding ill consequences and emotional weight.
    • Gain self-awareness by reflecting on what's important, creating a vision, and aligning decisions with values. Inner clarity leads to firm decisions, growth through challenges, and achieving amazing things.
    • Understanding oneself and taking responsibility for clarity can prevent conflicts and build credibility. Communicating clearly and taking deliberate actions towards desired outcomes is crucial. Dishonesty, even in the form of omission, can lead to misunderstandings.
    • To make a clear and meaningful decision, cut off unnecessary options and focus on what resonates with your strengths and interests. Use visualization to gain a better perspective, and take time for self-reflection to avoid settling for one-size-fits-all choices.
    • Before making important decisions about your career or life, explore how it fits with your values and who you are. Don't conform to external constructs, be your own scientist, experiment and seek wisdom within while staying true to yourself.
    • Seek clarity by examining different areas of life, make small changes consistently, seek advice from trusted individuals, be assertive with clear communication while being kind and empathetic.
    • Be clear, ask questions, communicate, challenge assumptions, seek help, and prioritize what truly matters to achieve your goals.
    • Take time to reflect on your values and explore new opportunities that align with your unique contribution to the world. Writing things down can help identify patterns and enable you to create your own influence.

    📝 Podcast Summary

    The Importance of Clarity and Clear Communication in Uncertain Times

    In times of unrest and uncertainty, clarity and clear communication becomes more important. Losing relevant data during text-based communication or when wearing masks, can cause presumptions and projections on our end. That is why clear expectations set on both sides and empathy, with support and respect, are vital to achieve anticipated results for any team or individual. Both parties need to share information, communicate collaboratively and switch to video-based mode of communication in case the conversation is generating unnecessary confusion. By understanding the importance of internal clarity and clear communication, we can cope functionally in uncertain times.

    Importance of Clarity and Effective Communication in Relationships and Teams

    Clarity is crucial in communication but can be obstructed by limited data, such as text or masks. Lack of clarity can lead to anxiety and assumptions about reality, which can be detrimental. Building a fuller 3D model of individuals in relationships can aid in giving grace and flexibility. Learning to manage oneself is key to navigating uncertain times. Effective communication is a skill that some personalities may be predisposed to, but it can be learned. Over-communication can aid in framing clarity and expectations in team frameworks. It is important to have insight in advance of outcomes to avoid ill consequences and emotional weight.

    Achieving Clarity through Self-Awareness

    Having self-awareness is the first step towards gaining clarity and knowing what you want. Without it, you may drift aimlessly or make decisions based on assumptions which can have negative results. By reflecting on what's important to you, where you want to go, and understanding your own desires, you can create a vision for the future, making decisions that fit your goals and values. This involves both knowledge (awareness) and work (knowing what you want) and requires inner clarity. Clarity allows you to make firm decisions, operate on solid ground, and take the next step confidently. By not pushing back against pressure, you can create amazing things and grow through difficult circumstances.

    The Importance of Self-Awareness and Responsibility in Achieving Desired Outcomes.

    Knowing oneself is important in order to understand how one fits into the larger picture and how they can contribute to the future. Future thinking and deliberate actions are necessary to achieve desired outcomes. Taking 100% responsibility for one's own level of clarity and setting clear expectations can prevent conflicts and assumptions. Dishonesty can be in the form of omission or commission. It's important to communicate clearly and use words as adults to avoid misunderstandings. Knowing oneself and taking responsibility for clarity can help build credibility and achieve desired outcomes.

    The Power of Clarity in Decision-Making and Visualization

    The words we choose hold significant power, and clarity is a decision we create for ourselves. To make a decision, we need to cut off other potential directions and choose a position of focus. Using visualization as a tool can help us get better clarity in our lives and in making professional decisions. It is important to prune our choices and focus on the ones that resonate with our strengths and interests. When making a decision, it's either an enthusiastic yes or a straight-up no. We need space and opportunity for self-reflection to ensure we are making choices that fit us best, rather than settling for one-size-fits-all decisions that may lead to drudgery.

    Making Professional Decisions- Trying it on in your mind

    When making professional decisions or choosing a path in life, it's important to try it on in your mind first and see if it fits with who you are and what you want. Instead of conforming or amputating parts of yourself to fit into external constructs, be your own scientist and explore and experiment with different options. Seeking wisdom from others can be helpful, but ultimately it's about finding clarity through self-awareness. It's okay for goals and dreams to change as life evolves, and prediction modeling can help in making better decisions. The key is to focus on what fits you and your values, rather than feeling suffocated by external expectations.

    Gaining Clarity and Achieving Desired Goals.

    To gain clarity and seek desired goals, it's important to put on different lenses and consider one's family, relationships, health or work. Small changes repeated over time can snowball into achieving desired outcomes. Clarity on desired goals is essential, but the how can change as movement is key. Seeking clarity requires deliberate and intentional efforts using wisdom and seeking advice from trusted people. One should not accept procrastination or surface-level obstacles, but rather delve deeper to understand the underlying causes. Being assertive with clear communication about expectations, standards, and desires is crucial while being kind, respectful, empathetic, and not fearing conflict or disagreement.

    The Importance of Clarity, Communication, and Collaboration in Achieving Goals

    Being clear about what you want is essential, even if it means being assertive. Time-boxing and putting questions out there can lead to clarity and better collaboration. Instead of assuming, always communicate and challenge your never. It can establish a blueprint for getting to a point and motivate you to be self-aware. The value of conversation and asking for help cannot be overstated, whether it's with a clinician or family. It helps look at things from a different lens and facilitates clarity. To cultivate what you care about, you may have to amputate other things.

    Aligning Your Design to Ignite Your Best Version

    Developing clarity in your life requires understanding your unique contribution to the world and engaging in meaningful service to others. By aligning with your design and cultivating the things that fit for you, you ignite your best version. Take time for reflection and consider if your current position or career aligns with your values, and be open to trying on different fields to explore new opportunities. Writing things down can help identify patterns and repetitions, and enable you to examine where you are, where you want to go, and how to get there. By being your own scientist, you can show up in the world the way you were uniquely designed to create your own influence.

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