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Everyone is feverishly preparing for The Feast of The Ass on January 14! Consequently, many of you have questions, such as "What is the proper Feast of the Ass greeting?" And "Shouldn't the official Feast of the Ass dessert be the Tunnel of Fudge?" As always, Dan has the answers.  A woman's brother just got engaged...again. This is the third time, and he has been dating his current girlfriend for a scant 6 months. What's more, the fiancé has been pestering the caller to be best friends, texting her all day long. The caller has been through this before. Is she a jerk for feeling a little skeptical about her's brother's relationship?   On the Magnum, it's the return of the Funny Dom! Our favorite Australian sadist is back to help a woman and her boyfriend concoct the perfect mix of BDSM, femme-domming and to get some dang dishes done besides.  And, a cautionary tale: when you're flying on Molly, and you coquettishly ask "What could I do to be sexier for you?" Beware! He just might answer honestly.  Q@Savage.Love        206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Hims, providing affordable access to ED treatment, online. Start your free online visit today at Hims.com/Savage. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 25% off site-wide with a mattress order + 2 FREE Dream Pillows! Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, reviver of Midieval Catholic holidays, and creator of the It Gets Better Project.From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

January 07, 2025

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Happy New Year! Here's the interview we did with Esther Perel back in September. We hope you like it.

January 03, 2025

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Here's a little friendship drama to start the New Year: A woman and her pal "Jill" are going on a skiing trip in Japan with a group of people. Two of the men approached Jill to tell her they each had crushes on the caller, and asked her to broker a connection. Jill wants nothing to do with this, and the caller is bewildered. Why is Jill so angry? And how should she proceed?  A man has a 22 year-old nephew who he suspects is gay. The lad is immersed in conservative Christian culture, and if he is gay, has let no one know. Should the caller broach the subject and try to inspire him to find a version of Christianity that will accept him? Or keep his avuncular mouth shut?  On the Magnum, Dan welcomes back Tawny Lara, aka The Sober Sexpert, and the author of Dry Humping: A Guide to Dating, Relating, and Hooking Up Without the Booze. She is on to talk about partying like a sorority sister without all the champagne or cocaine. And she encourages an embrace of Damp January- you know, drink a little less maybe?  And, woman has been hooking up with a man for a few months, having great sex. But he never lets her sleep over at his place, and she's never met his friends. Then he dropped the bomb that he is about to become a baby daddy. Their relationship will surely change. But should she disregard the red flags here?  Happy New Year one and all! Q@Savage.Love   206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

December 31, 2024

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Happy holidays micro listeners!  We are releasing this interview with Ezra Klein from February of this year as a thank-you for listening.  From Dan, Nancy and the Tech-Savvy At-Risk Youth™ - we wish you a sweet holiday season.

December 27, 2024

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Dan Savage is bringing back a forgotten Catholic holiday. On January 14, let us all celebrate the Feast of the Ass.  A woman's beloved twin sister isn't dating, isn't getting on the apps, isn't looking for a relationship. Should the caller keep trying to set her up with great guys from work? Or leave her be?  A woman used to be a sex worker when she was younger. She has since built a new career, and loves her life. She got into BDSM, and when she told her new dom about her past, he lost his mind. He feels her sex worker history takes away his power. He demanded that she fill out a questionnaire spelling out her entire sexual history. The list goes on and on and on. Why does her past matter to him? What should she do about it?  On the Magnum, take a sexy, sexy journey back to medieval times, to hear about the origins of Christmas, St. Valentine's Day and the Feast of the Ass. Basically, the medieval church knew how to party. Those of you who are horny to hear about the counter reformation are going to GET OFF on this convo. Dr. Janega is a hoot, and she and Dan belong together.  And, lube lube lube! This caller is sick of hearing that women just need to lube up when they aren't wet enough for sex. If they aren't wet, it means their lover hasn't done the job yet. Right? Right??!!! Right.  Q@Savage.Love       206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Adam & Eve. Right now, go to AdamAndEve.com/Savage and pick any 4 sex toys for just $20! This is such a great deal- go to AdamandEve.com/savage without delay This episode is brought to you by Dipsea: an app full of hundreds of short, sexy audio stories designed by women for women. Get an extended 30 day free trial when you go to dipseastories.com/savage.  This episode is brought to you by Feeld, a dating app where the open-minded can meet the like-minded. Download Feeld on the App Store or Google Play. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

December 24, 2024

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A gay man discovers his boyfriend is a liar and hiding a live-in partner; A straight man gets dumped for following thirst trap accounts on Instagram; A polyamorous woman's relationship has restrictions over kissing children due to herpes fear; Dan Savage offers advice. HPV vaccine's success and anti-vaccine sentiments in Health & Human Services are discussed.

December 17, 2024

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A trans guy just can't break into gay male spaces. He feels ridiculed and rejected, and ends up sitting in a corner alone while the sweaty dance party goes on around him. He used to be confident before his transition. How can he get a little of that male swagger and bed a hot twink?  A female used to date "bad boys"- the kind of guy who turned her on sexually but made terrible partners. Now she's with a sweet man who treats her well, but the heat isn't there. Can she train him to turn her on?Can she train herself to be turned on by him?  On the Magnum, what happens when you invite chatty, blabby podcasters to your sex party? Will they kiss and tell...everyone? Dan brings on comedian Ashley Ray to talk about this, and her obsession with the ancient JonBenét Ramsey murder. The plucky comedian has studied the case intensively and her long Substack piece about the crime and its coverage roped in a curious Dan Savage. C'mon amateur sleuths! Let's crack this case already!  And, a woman with a few lovers met a new guy who introduced her to kink, and opened up a whole new erotic world for her. Then he unceremoniously ghosted her. Now, when she tries to explore this kink with others or even on her own, she breaks down sobbing. It feels like she got rejected by the kink itself. How can she take the good of what the guy gave her and leave the feeling of rejection behind? Q@Savage.Love       206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Liberator: makers of pillows, shapes and furniture for new exciting sex. Just for Black Friday, they’re offering an additional 10% off site-wide; exclusively for our listeners! Stack that on top of their incredible Black Friday deals for the best savings of the year. Go to Liberator.com, and use promo code ‘SAVAGE.’ This episode is brought to you by Hims, providing affordable access to ED treatment, online. Start your free online visit today at Hims.com/Savage. Foria is an all natural health & sexual wellness company with product lines using the power of plant actives & CBD to effectively enhance intimacy, sexual pleasure, daily wellbeing, and relief from discomfort. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ForiaWellness.com/Savage Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the mid-1800s.

December 10, 2024

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A father seeks advice on explaining why pejorative use of 'That's so gay' is hurtful to LGBTQ+ people, a man deals with a painful sexual relationship, a discussion about masochism and pain-as-pleasure explores the imagination behind sadism, a married man with kids ponders if he's experiencing a spiritual awakening or mid-life crisis.

December 03, 2024

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A straight man confesses to sexually fantasising about women on Discord, a lawyer discusses queer and trans rights and surrogacy, two individuals express their shared dislike of gin, a polygamous trio grapples with jealousy, and advice is given on maintaining boundaries in relationships.

November 26, 2024

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A caller seeks advice on handling her boyfriend's race play during travels. Tracy Schorn (Chump Lady) discusses cheating and divorce. Another caller grapples with a fractured relationship due to a family argument at a holiday gathering. The callers seek perspective on their issues.

November 19, 2024

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An individual discusses a botched threesome experience and feelings of insecurity. A woman in an open relationship has trouble explaining her partner's frequent absences to her daughter. The podcast also features therapist Jeff Guenther providing advice on grief and self-care, as well as answering sex questions. Additionally, a woman is ending a friendship.

November 12, 2024

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A man seeks advice on injecting saline for a homemade breast enlargement, a distressed woman's feline companion demands unconventional treatment, a professional cuddler discusses penis anxiety during Soft Cock Week, details about a masturbation club and kinky Salt Lake City parties are shared.

November 05, 2024

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Two men, one living in his own house while building it with help from laborers, find out a laborer is having sex with his girlfriend without permission; Dan Savage and Cody Daigle-Orians discuss ace issues and their book 'The Ace And Aro Relationship Guide' on the Magnum; Gay tourist causes outrage by taking pictures of men in public.

October 29, 2024

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The first caller is dating a man from Ghana with a wife and kid back home; she contemplates whether to wait for him. Another caller, in a monogamous relationship, is dabbling in burlesque and seeking understanding for boundaries with her husband. The third issue revolves around a woman struggling to address hygiene concerns with her girlfriend.

October 22, 2024

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A lesbian couple contemplate visiting a sex club for spice without cheating; an anxious man learns his potential girlfriend had a friends-with-benefits past with him but is now platonic; a woman struggles to free her abused self from her ex, who can't care for the shared dog.

October 15, 2024

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An NB person got sick with COVID-19 after contracting it from their boyfriend. The boyfriend agreed to drop off food but refused to enter their home for fear of exposure. A woman's father died days after a three-year affair was discovered, leaving the family grieving and angry. A long-term couple is navigating an open relationship as one partner is demisexual while the other enjoys casual encounters.

October 08, 2024

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A man and woman have relationship troubles due to differing kinks, and a police-involved flirting incident with another person; comedian Caleb Hearon discusses masculinity and performs arbitraton for a couch dispute; threesome condom etiquette debated.

October 01, 2024

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Dan discusses personal dilemma about continuing a relationship with a man who failed to honor promised safe sex and didn't contribute for Plan B, while also being great in bed. Psychotherapist Esther Perel is the guest, providing insights on infidelity, monogamy vs. eroticism, and other aspects of relationships. A caller also challenges Dan on his view about massages.

September 24, 2024

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A man lying about a kiss makes his partner ill; a couple planning nursery for adult babies, cuckold relationship with femme-dom twist discussed, and myth debunked about vasectomy affecting semen taste.

September 17, 2024

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This podcast discusses relationship issues such as a man needing to kiss his girlfriend despite her dislike for it, a man being jealous of his mother, and a couple having three-ways after 30 years of marriage causing excitement beyond their relationship. Additionally, Dr. Barak shares political giving strategies, and the host speaks with Jill Filipovic about millennial/boomer divide.

September 10, 2024