Your Mindset Matters More Than Your Money

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Paul is with us in Minneapolis. Hi, Paul. Welcome to the Ramsey show. Hey, Dave. Thanks for taking the call. I have another. Should we pay off the house early out of our retirement question? Okay. Why is this one different? Well, we're my wife and I are both retired. And I'm 61. She's 58. We retired with the mortgage. And

I've got a number of different opinions from our financial guy. I've got friends that work in the finance industry. I worked for Bank in 30 years. I guess just looking for another opinion, maybe one with a little bit more credence than some of the others, I guess. How much do you own your home? It's $450,000 house. We owe 170. How much do you have in your nest egg? What's that? What's your net worth? What do you have in your nest egg?

uh... net worth is about the million in quarter we've got uh... just over a million that is investment retirement if your house was paid off of it if your house was paid off why would you go borrow on it uh... we would not then what's the difference i i guess it's just okay let me read the question maybe a better question is if we decide to do this

Process over multiple years to either tax burden. Do we just bite the bullet and take the hit and do it once or How would I do it? I've been doing this 30 years. I've never had anybody call me back and say they were pissed off because they paid off their house Fair enough So one shot or would you I'd write a check today? I mean that free I'd have been debt free yesterday if I were you and quit listening to all these idiots and

There's a lot of idiots out there running around with an opinion about your money and you're a millionaire. What's your mortgage payment? Go ahead. What's your mortgage payment right now? Mortgage payment is like 1200. Okay. You'd free up most of that, which now you can invest. So yes, you'll lose some out of that investment account, but you're going to still invest for the next 20 years.

Dude, you're just going to sleep so much better tomorrow. I mean, we're both retired, so invest is rolling not necessarily a dish at all. You have almost zero risk in this situation because you could write a check at any minute and pay it off if you got in a pinch. You don't really need the money in one way or the other. It's all about, you know, what is your end goal? When you're 85, do you want to have a mortgage?

You know, why would you keep it? There's no reason to keep it. You wouldn't go borrow on a paid-for house in order to have more money to invest. And so write a check and sleep better tomorrow. Tonight, pay it off tonight. Hit the submit button. And then when you go and you get the mortgage release in the mail, make a copy of it, take your shoes off, walk into the backyard, have a mortgage-burning party, and tell me that didn't feel good.

I mean, there's just no there's just no downside to this. Um, you know, you're a million, you're going to, you're going to be okay either way. If you don't follow our advice, if you follow those idiots advice, but if I've got a financial person that's telling me to stay in debt, I'm getting a new financial person.

period. Because, George, we studied 10,167 millionaires. The number of them that told us that they became wealthy because they borrowed on their home in order to invest was precisely zero. None of them.

leveraged their personal residence to build their wealth. None of them. And so the idea that I continue to leverage my personal residence in the name of building wealth is asinine based on the millionaire data. Well, we're seeing so much more of this because people have their record low mortgage rates. They don't want to let go of Dave. Yeah. Why would I pay off my mortgage? You know, but I got your mortgage rate B. You know what my mortgage rate is?

Zero. I don't have one. Hello. Heck of a rate. Zero. I got the best rate. Come on, man. So when it's going down, you don't have to worry about them because you don't need that anymore. It's a great feeling. Is that a worrying about what the market's doing? So yes, it hurts to write that check and lose that much money, lose quote unquote, but you never really had it if you owed it to the lender in the first place.

Paul, pay it off son, pay it off. There's a bunch of intangibles that you're not even considering in this decision. You're still acting like it's primitive math, or at least the idiots advising you are. So you're going to sleep different. Your wife's going to look at you like a hero. Never once have we had a wife said, you know, my husband borrowed deeply on our mortgage and he's my hero. Never came up.

I love the Kermit vibes she had. Miss Piggy meets Kermit. Well, it's best I can do. It's the best I can do. Anna, as with us, is it Anna or Anna? It's Anna, I'm sure. And she's in Grand Rapids. Is it Anna? Is that right? Yeah, it's with Anna. Hey, how can I help? So I recently paid off all of my gent loans and then got free. Yay! Where'd it go?

Thank you. Yeah. So I couldn't have done it without you. So I have my three, six months of expenses. I just finished that up. And I'm wondering now if I should be investing my 15% or if I should be saving for a wedding that my boyfriend and I are planning to have in about a year and a half. So I'm wondering if I'm saving for that. Okay. Perfect.

Are you guys paying for this on your own? Um, we think so. We don't really want it like that. We just want to plan for that and that if something comes, then we'll go for it. But yeah, we kind of just want to plan on doing it ourselves just in case. OK, I would set a very specific goal, a number you're trying to hit to save.

And I would try to hit that before the year and a half is over and then begin investing. You got that money set aside. You know you're not going to have to go into debt for this wedding. That is the goal here. And so that's why we're telling you say for the wedding first because what happens is you start investing 15%. The wedding was over budget. Now we got to put it on a credit card. For sure. Yeah. So what do you think you're going to spend? We're thinking maybe between, I would say probably we were thinking between 20 and 30 depending on what race are, but

Um, probably 25 is the goal we set. Okay. Well, if you, yes, that by the way, that's about an average wedding in America right now. So, um, you're not above average or not below average. You're right around there. It's 28,000 last year. So the, um,

The thing is having three grown kids that all got married, and I was involved in the budget because I was paying for it, or at least part of it anyway, all but one, all of it, but anyway, my part, the brads part, and then my son, we participate some. So have a detailed budget, not a general goal.

Lay it out. Okay, this is how much we're gonna spend on the photographer, this is how much we get on the dress, this is how much we spend on the reception, and treat it. I'm sorry, but treat it like a project. You're managing a project, you are. So you have a timeline, you have a budget, and you, you know, you stick to it, what must be true? Well, we can't have that. We gotta have this instead. If you don't have a very specific thing, then you'll line item, you'll get into a mess there. But that sounds reasonable. I would say for the wedding first.

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George Camo Ramsey personality is my co-host today. Thank you for joining us. Open phones and triple eight eight two five five two two five. Will is in Atlanta. I will. How are you? Good. How are you, Dave? Better than I deserve. What's up? About two months ago, my grandmother passed away and I received about a 1.1 million dollar inheritance. Wow.

sorry for your loss and thrilled for your blessing. What a wonderful, what a wonderful thing she did. That's amazing. You're the only grandkids. No, I'm one of two grandkids. Each of you got 1.1? Yes. Way to go, Granny. Wow. But my legacy was how do I make the I'm 23 years old?

I was just calling to find out how do I make the absolute most of this. So this is a little bit intimidating to you. Yes. Good. Good. That's a good sign. That means you're wise. If you were having a woo-hoo, at the lottery moment, it would mean you're a child. And so I'm glad you're a little bit... That's a great... It should take your breath away a little bit. This kind of fears the beginning of wisdom.

So way to go, it's a good fear. I don't want you to be panicked or anxiety ridden or anything like that, but I do want you to be aware. I just got behind the wheel of a car that is way more powerful than anything I've ever driven. And I need some driving lessons. That's what you're aware of. Good for you. So proud of you. Good, good, good, good, good. Okay. First thing is keep that mindset. Second thing is never put money in something you don't understand.

No matter who says to, including me, anywhere you read or hear to put money in something and you can't tell somebody else how it works in detail, do not put money in it.

Okay, which means you might be going a little bit slow at first because this money might just be sitting in a bank account because that's what you grasp right now. Okay. Okay. The third thing is in the Bible says in the multitude of counsel, there is safety. Money people, too many of them have a little bit of arrogance in them and they want to tell you what to do.

If you have a money person, a financial advisor, an insurance person, a real estate person, an estate planner that is telling you what to do instead of teaching you, fire them and get another one. You want someone with the heart of a teacher because it is not their job to manage the money. It's yours. Your grandmother didn't leave it to them. She left it to you.

So it is your job to sit with a mutual fund broker with an advisor and learn and learn and learn and learn and learn. And you're doing that today. You called us cause I want to learn what to do, right? That's very good, but always look for someone with a heart of a teacher. You cannot offload the nervousness of this responsibility by letting someone else make your decisions.

Okay. That makes sense. Yes. If you have to understand it and you have to have people helping you that have the heart of a teacher, that helps you understand that those two things work together and then you're going to move slow. You just move at the speed of your comfort at the speed of peace. When in doubt, don't easy enough, right?

That is very easy. Yeah. In other words, when it rear stomachs moving up towards your throat, you wonder if this would make your grandmother angry with you. Don't do it. Which is your fourth thing. Each time you make a decision with this money, ask yourself, would this cause her sitting in heaven to smile and be proud of her grandson?

Okay. And if the answer is no, don't do it because this lady had some, this lady had some sense. She left two million bucks to her, two grandkids. So I think we can use her as a filter for our decision making, honoring her legacy, honoring her memory, causing her to smile in heaven as our filter. And that's going to help you also. Does that make sense to you?

Yes, it does. Okay. So there's no magic formula on what to do with the money. I put mine in growth stock mutual funds and I pay cash for real estate. And I live 100% debt free and you probably already knew that.

Yes, I do. George does the exact same thing. Absolutely. When you look at this money as a steward or a manager of it, it changes the filter. An easy way to do this is filter it through the baby steps number one, but also filter it through three buckets, giving, saving, and spending. You should give some of this and be generous, just like your grandma was. You should spend some of it and enjoy it. You should invest probably the biggest portion of this for the future. What do you make?

I currently make about 110,000 a year. Okay, so you don't need any of this?

No. Yeah. And so here's an interesting thing. If you put it into something like a mutual fund and it makes 10%, it'll double every seven years. So you said you're 23? Yes, 23 years old. So it'll be 2.2 at 30. At 37, it'll be 4.4. At 44, it'll be 8.8. It'll be 16 million when you're 50. If you just don't touch it and invest it, it makes 10%.

Yeah. Mind blowing. I didn't get it like wired to my bank account. I just got transferred into one of the financial institutions that she was associated with.

but currently it split up about 350,000 as in personal stock choices and CDs and then 750,000 as in a managed stock account. Okay. Well, I don't play single stocks, so I probably wouldn't do that because it's more risk, but I want you to get in there and start figuring it out. And again, there's nothing to panic about, but feeling the weight of this as a responsibility to manage

is a proper philosophical spiritual stance for you. If you do that, it'll cause your decision making to be different than just some little kid who got some money and blows it all by the time he's 26. Yeah.

Okay. Cause you're not. You're already more manly than that. I can tell. Very wise. Yeah. I'm very well done. So I, I, I, I saw, I don't know if he said it, but no debt emergency fund in place. That's a good spot to be investing and to buy a property with cash, a reasonable property, enjoy some of it. And then the rest I'd be investing either in more real estate, if he's comfortable or just putting it in some good mutual funds. Just take your time. Just take your time. No rush.

Yeah, very, very calm. Well, good question, man. So put good people in your corner that have the heart of a teacher. They'll help you. If you want to know about the investing the way we do it and the way I personally do it and get someone with the heart of a teacher, click SmartVester at RamseySolutions.com. You'll find a SmartVester Pro or two or three in your area.

There are people that have the heart of a teacher and know the way Ramsey does it and they can walk you through that and teach you what you're doing in and that they're going to move you out of those single stocks. I can tell you that if once you understand you're going to move you out of those single stocks. Paul is in Cleveland, Ohio. Hey, Paul. Welcome to the Ramsey show. Hi. Thanks for having me on. How are you better than I deserve? What's up?

Um, I'm trying to, uh, I recently graduated from college and got about $20,000 to the loan debt. Um, and about 40,000 already invested, um, in my retirement account split between a Roth IRA and my company's 401k. What do you make? I'm trying to balance. What's that? What do you make? I make about $60,000 a year. Okay. You're trying to balance what? Trying to balance, uh, continuing to save for retirement and getting ahead on that. I'm 24 years old.

And just making sure that I also pay off the student loans. So I have about $10,000 set aside as an emergency fund. And I'm just trying to figure out what to do next, whether I should lump some pay down my student loans or just keep paying for retirement since interest rates are a little bit lower than what you expect to get out of the stock market.

Well, Paul, I will talk to you as if I went back in time, because I had more student loan debt than you and I made less than you. And so at 23, I was $40,000 in student loan debt. I wasn't making any progress. I was trying to play the same game you are balancing this all. Here's what you got to do. Paradigm shift. Let's try a proven plan. That means we're going to take 9,000 from this emergency fund, pay down the debt.

That's going to leave you with 11 left. Making 60, you're going to knock that out quick. Pause investing. You'll be back to investing probably in six months if you do it this way. Yeah. Investing 15%. Don't balance debt and investing. Get the debt cleared and then go, who will all go on the investing? That's what Georgia is saying. And he's right. This is the Ramsey show.

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Hi, guys. I'm well. Thank you. Better than we deserve. Good. How can we help? You didn't even ask, but I answered anyway. What's up? Hey, you know, I'm on autopilot, Jacqueline. How can we help? I have a beautiful, responsible 19 year old daughter who lives with us and is about to make me a grandmother. I know it's funny. I said responsible first, right? But it's

except for that one time, yeah. Yeah, okay. My question, well, financially responsible, hardworking, excellent work ethic and morally sound. My question is, how much should I be helping her throughout this pregnancy and throughout the first month? It was obviously unplanned and she's had a hard time with processing the whole thing and she is now unable to work.

I'm just kind of looking to you. It was sort of a light came on as I was driving and listening to you and I thought I respect Dave's answer. So let's run it by him. Well, I appreciate that. Sometimes when I'm facing something like that, that is

a little bit ethically or morally or, I don't even know, those aren't the right words, relationally overwhelming. It helps me to say, not what is the right answer today, but what do I do today that is the right answer for 10 years from now?

Exactly. Because we have a strong foundation with our kids of teaching them financial responsibility, you know, we go by yours for years and years. And so what what you've got is. Obviously, obviously a baby is an awesome, wonderful thing, particularly grandbabies. If I don't know how great grandbabies are going to be, I'd have been nicer to their parents. So, you know, all of that part is wonderful. So this is a bad metaphor, but I would almost say, what if she had a car wreck and couldn't work?

She ran a red light. It was her fault. And then she got hurt, right? That's not a really good metaphor because it's not as babies are much sweeter than that, right? But I mean, that's kind of how I think I probably would look at it. I'm just thinking like a grandpa right now, or like a dad. And that's where my brain has stopped. This is not a 39 year old who's done heroin for 15 years and hates me. This is a 19 year old that messed up

made a mistake that otherwise has led a, led a pretty good life is what you're describing to me. That's correct. Yeah. When our kids graduate, thank God, God didn't throw all of us out in the ditch the first time we made a mistake. So I got lots of grace and mercy in this situation. If it's me, I'm just going to take care of her like she's 17. Yeah.

But all with the idea that we're gonna lead towards a sustainable answer when she's 25. So what's sustainable for her when she's 25? Well, obviously, financial responsibility, career responsibility, mommy responsibility, living on her own and sustaining and developing a life. Whether she does that as a single mom or later on gets married to someone, right? You mind if I add one more thing in? Okay.

When they graduate in high school, we have them pay us rent immediately. And the thing is, they're great staff in college. When they graduate, they get all that money back. So it's basically savings. If they don't, we keep it. He was able to, in school, pay us rent $500 a month. And she also saved $6,000 working full time in six months. So she has $7,000 in her savings account. And really, my question was, do I even let her touch that? No. Are you guys okay, financial? Are you and your husband?

We are. We're dead three besides our house. This is not a financial lesson. This is I'm loving my daughter through a very, very tough time. She had a car wreck, you know, and that's very validating.

Yeah, that's what I would do. And I'm pretty hardcore on tough love as they call it, but this is not tough love. This is not a time for that. For me, for me, this is a little scared pregnant girl, and I'm gonna put my arms around her, I'm gonna love her, she's mine, and we're gonna get her through this. But not with the idea that she lives in your basement till she's 39, but the idea that she's gonna, because you gave her some room here to heal, and to, not not heal, but to go through this process, well, and heal, it's been traumatic, I'm sure.

Yeah. And so to go through and get back on her feet emotionally, relationally, make better choices going forward. This is not a pattern that represents her life. And so let's get back on that track that she was on. And then you got a 25-year-old that's an amazing human being with an amazing mom and everybody's happy and proud. Again, I'm not enabling into the distant future, but on the short term here,

just completely take care of her. As if she was an SCU or something. What do you think you're doing? Yeah, I'm with that. And I'm also wondering, you said she's unable to work. Is that just a short-term thing? What does that look like? It is. She developed a pregnancy disease around five to six weeks and her pregnancy before she did even process. And she became so sick that she was hospitalized.

The good news is that it does go away the moment she delivers, and she's managed now. The hospitalization helps them to manage her sickness, and so she is medicated, and she's managed at this point and able to function, but it's very unpredictable, so she's not able to get another job. Yeah, this is a 19-year-old and a baby. Take care, just take care of. Yeah.

That's what I would do. That's exactly what I'm going to do. Okay. You're a good mom. You got a good heart and you're not, you know, you've raised it. I know you're tough because you raised a kid that has work ethic. You raised a kid that's making her pay rent. You raised a kid that did this and that and this and that. And, you know, so you're not a pushover enabler mom. I don't think, I didn't hear that.

Well, I think that's where it goes into the long-term ramifications. If this is still a decade from now and we're still living like this in the basement, that's where we need to go. We need to have an exit strategy out of this, too, once she's healed up and on her feet. In my mind, this is the perpendicular opposite of someone who's 31 years old and does this and is belligerent and says, if you don't help me, you'll never see your grandkid and all that kind of stuff. I have a completely different reaction to that person than I do this 19-year-old kid.

If you're nineteen and you don't like me calling you a kid. I got socks older than you so just calm down That's the deal. I love that just means I love you all that means it doesn't mean that I'm putting you down, but I got a little more rings around the tree so nice way a little more age going here, so You know that that's the thing so you know what you're looking for in relational things period, but certainly in

financial relational things is you're looking for patterns, not singular events. And patterns cause you to endorse a situation or to avoid a situation. And that keeps you from becoming an enabler, if you're wondering out there and you're a mom and a dad. So if you've got a 37 year old that lives in your basement and will not work, that's a pattern

You need to kick said butt into the street because you're not a blessing to them. You are a curse to them. You are an enabler. You have stolen their dignity, the dignity of autonomy, the dignity of standing on your own, the dignity of hard work, the dignity of killing something and dragging it home. The only thing they know how to do is play Nintendo and it's your fault. You should be ashamed. That's a different pattern for moms and dads.

And we got that out there, because we got a group of males that aren't yet men that are stuck in their mommy's basement. And mommy's still doing their dad gum laundry. And if you don't like that, that's okay. Get you a show. This is mine. So that's how this works. Wow. Well, nothing will turn you into an adult like having a baby. So the maturity, we just hit the fast forward button right there. I'm just getting a puppy, I'll do it. But my gosh, a baby. Woo! That'll push it right there. This is the Ramsey Show.

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Hi, good Dave. How are you? Better than I deserve. What's up in your world? Well, Dave, I'd like to liquidate my portfolio and be able to put it, I want to trade on with cryptocurrency. And I just want your opinion. Do you listen to this show? Yes, I do. Okay. What are you currently invested in?

I have an investment account. I have TSFA and I have a roof account. And what has caused you to go, hey, you know what? I'm going to trade all of that to go into crypto. Because I'm losing in my portfolio drastically this year. And I just know that I don't believe I'm going to come back like for a long time.

Like, I mean, they say it'll come back, but I think it's not going to come back for 10 years. And I'm already 72. So I just feel like, um, and I've also have experienced, um, like it's not like I haven't been, I have been doing crypto trading now for a while. Have you seen the crypto market? It's a lot darker than the stock market. You're trading a paper cut for a stab. Well, I, I've made money in the crypto market. How much?

Probably about $10,000. Is that enough to retire on? No. What's in your investments currently? But I've also picked contracts that have been lower, definitely, because I haven't had money that much money to do anything with. At your age, I'm not going to go to Vegas and just put it all on black and hope for the best. That's not a great retirement plan.

That worries me. Okay. Limit. Let's pack up. Let's pack up a second. Okay. You are, you're scared because your good investments went down and right about the time I get desperate and scared is the step before I get really stupid.

desperate people and highly greedy people make the worst financial mistakes. And your fear is making you do statistically or suggesting that you do statistically the equivalent of putting this money on a wheel or a hand of poker.

because crypto is extremely volatile, extremely risky, at least 100 times more risky than your current retirement portfolio, at least. And you're telling me, Oh, I put money in the slot machine and I came out with more money than I put in. Yeah, I'm not doing it myself. I have a

a trader that's helping me, you know, like, so I never close my market in a negative position. It's always in a positive position.

Okay. Well, Maggie, you do what you want. I'm 62. Yeah. My net worth is hundreds of millions of dollars and I have precisely zero in crypto. Right. And I'm not desperate and I'm not scared. Warren Buffett said, and you have it, you know,

The idea that you have a trader doing it for you scares me for you even more because this is giving you false confidence. A, you've had some wins. B, you have someone whispering in your ear how wonderful they are and how they are going to take care of you, which is how people that are 72 years old lose everything they own.

This is how it happens. Okay, please don't do this. But I don't think that the decision is really up in the air. I think you've already made your decision. And if I told Maggie, hey, two years from now, your money's going to be back to her. It was your retirement account. I don't know that she would do it, but it's hard to see that far out ahead when you just see your accounts bleeding out. And so you just want to do anything to not be doing that. One of the wealthiest men in the world says be greedy when others are cautious and cautious when others are greedy.

And that's Warren Buffett. And he doesn't mean greedy like being a bad person, a lack of character greedy. He means be aggressive when others are cautious and cautious when others are aggressive. And crypto is no place to play.

with money that you can't afford to lose. And you're going to lose it. And then you're going to call me back and say, well, how about I had this guy who made me, you know, and he's singing a siren song. And I sure hope you don't do it, honey. I sure hope you don't do it. Oh, it sounds like this trader is probably telling her. Hey, I'm telling you this. Liquidate, give me all your money. This trader is definitely, he's talked her up big time. He's buttered her bread. And this guy's a freaking con artist. He's a crypto con man.

Well, we've also have the quote from Warren Buffett saying he wouldn't pay $25 for all of the Bitcoin in the world. Yeah. And I think he's got more money than me, you and your trader put together. So, um, you know, and I don't disagree with that at all. So it's just an extremely volatile market and that's being kind. It's crazy, crazy. It's what it is. But, um, I don't have any money on it and there's a reason.

crypto is way more down. Well, how much is it down, George? I mean, it depends on what coin. And a lot of them went bankrupt and fraud, scams, 97%. Oh, and by the way, too, Maggie, the number of people that have the number of dollars lost, not in Bitcoin or not in crypto, but in fraud associated with crypto is what

I mean, in the billions, billions, it's two and a half billion dollars at this point have been lost to Chris. And let me tell you who the number one target of that type of fraud and con is people over 65 people that are desperate and scared, empty promises. And so I'm not saying your trader is a con artist. I'm just saying there's a higher probability that he's a con artist than if he was in any other business.

because of the number of crypto con artists that are out there. People that are, this thing is drawn the worst of the worst. And so you can do what you want to do, but you made the mistake of calling here and asking, and we will give you our opinion and we are experts on our opinion. Jessica is in Michigan. Hi, Jessica. What's up? Hi, I mentioned Jessica and I am 37 years old and I'm a single mom of two.

And my question is, how do I get the momentum to, I'm on data step number one. I am about 13,000 dollars in debt between student loans. My car is completely paid off, but I'm just trying to get momentum into getting that cash shaped up for a baby step number one, because I always try to validate my purchases.

And I'm just trying to find a way to get the momentum to start validating the future. Right now, I make about a little over 38 a year. OK. What has caused you to want to do this plan in the first place? I have been visiting the Abraham the off and on for about, let's see, about 11 years. But I've really jumped into it more in the last couple of months.

One to say it was one to change my family tree. I come from a family where we've all got been so great with money and my dad died. I'll tell you how I did it, Jessica, as a fellow spender. Yeah, I looked at my kids. They were babies and we were broke because of my stupidity. Mm hmm.

And I said, I'm not doing this anymore. I'm sick and tired of being sick and tired. And every time I got ready to spend, I would ask myself, if I had to not spend this money so that I had the money to save the life of my child, could I do it? Could I find the discipline? And that was an easy answer, of course. And so I did stuff like I would practice going to Costco and buying nothing and walking out. And that was like a breakthrough for me.

because I truly thought that if you went to San Francisco, that they check your receipt on the way out, that it was federal law that you had to spend $200 or you couldn't get out, they wouldn't let you out, that's why they check it. And I was that guy. And so I just had to, I kind of had to equate it with the life of my children, which is a bit melodramatic, but it's also kind of true, because you want to change your family tree, you said.

And what does 40 year old Jessica want to look back on and say, man, I'm so glad Jessica made those decisions. And if that means, you know, taking away your debit card information from every website that you have, hiding it, having accountability with a friend, do whatever it takes.

I would think if you've got a spending problem that Amazon Prime's not even a possibility. I'm cutting that out of my life. It's got to turn it off. If you've got a spending problem, if you're trying to say, no, I'm not going to spend. Because I mean, that's just so easy. It's easy for me, you know, and I teach this stuff for a living. So you just got to equate it with a big Y and you got to be sick and tired of being sick and tired. And then gradually, you'll reform your character. This is the Ramsey Show.

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new work that they love and create actual amazing relationships. George Campbell Ramsey personality is my co host today. The phone number is triple eight eight two five five two two five. Melanie is with us in Philadelphia. I'm Melanie. Welcome to the Ramsey show. Hi. So excited to be here. Thank you for taking my call. We're honored. How can we help?

Um, first of all, let me just say, George, I'm reading your book. It's super awesome. Oh, thank you so much. Appreciate that. Yeah, no problem. So my, my question is, so my husband and I are maybe step two, um, I'm working two full-time job. He's a school teacher and also has a training, like a personal training, um, gig on the side that he does. He rents his own facility. Um, but he's had it for four years. And my concern is that he really hasn't made any profit off of the business. He makes just enough to just

pay the bills in the business. At what point do I have that conversation that it may not be worth his time in the business? Just because it's just not bringing in. Anything that doesn't make money is called a hobby. Right. It's not a side hustle. It's a hobby. He likes work. He likes personal training so much. He's willing to do it for free.

almost. I mean, he makes some money, but not as much as I think he should, because he's been doing it. He changed in your turn in the middle of the call. Which is it? How much does he really make net profit on the thing? Probably it varies every month. So we can run range anywhere from 1,500 to like 2,500 a month profit.

Oh, well, you say after he pays his bills. He's not making much. If anything, he's not. What bills has he got? The rental on this place? Yeah, just the rental on the place. And then, you know, he has like, um, that his utilities are included with the rent and the facility and then he has like on his internet or something that he pays. Okay. So he's getting 1500 to 2500 and what's the rent? Uh, 1600.

So it's almost takes everything. So if he doesn't make 1600 in a month, he loses money. Right. Okay. Well, I don't think it's unreasonable to sit down tonight and say, honey, we've got to look at this as a business. And we need to look and see what we've got to do with your pricing and the number of clients that you have to make what you're doing over there profitable. Mm hmm.

because it's not okay that you're spending all this time over there and potentially even losing money. So let's get out the numbers and run a P&L on this thing. Just sit there tonight and run a spreadsheet on it. How long has he been doing it? He's had this place now for four years.

Okay, well, let's go back, you know, for the last 12 months, pull the revenue, and then put in 1600 a month, and then put in the internet fee a month, and let's see if we've really got a profit or not. Figure out what is hourly wages on this? Yeah, and then go ahead for another gym. You know, you made 500 bucks, and you spent 600 hours over there. Right. You might get a dollar hour.

Come on, man. As a business owner, how do you, like, at what point do you say, like, it's not viable anymore? I mean, he's supposed to be like an adult and stuff. He teaches children. Yeah. Yeah, he does. What does he teach? Health incident. Okay. And how, how, what's, what age children? And you were from kindergarten to high school. Okay. And so we would assume that they know how to do basic addition and subtraction.

Yes. And he should. If he's teaching. I mean, really. He needs, you know, you need to sit down with him and say, I need you to look at this through the eyes of a business. And let's look at it for a few minutes and let's see if you think this is worthwhile. But I don't, you don't need to tell him, he needs to cut, he ought to be able to, a logical adult male, female should be able to come to a conclusion on this.

without his wife or husband telling them i mean i will look at it and go i'm making a dollar how i know that doesn't cut it you know

I'm supposed to be providing for my family during this time. No, no, no. And you guys are in debt. And so I think that's a part of this equation is we need to actually make money right now. So here's the thing. Anytime we're in a business situation with our entree leadership clients on a side hustle or a small business idea, we do one of a couple of things. One is we have to ask ourselves, what can we change to make this viable? And if the answer is there's not a change that'll make it viable, then it's time to shut it down.

Okay. I mean, I think you guys are going to look at this and figure out. I think you're going to look at this and figure out, you put $18,000 or what is $19,000 and rent into it last year. Mm hmm. You know, and he brought in 19,500 bucks. I think that's what you're going to find. Yeah. I think so too. And you know, so, and then how many hours you spent over there, divide that into 500 and you look at him go, honey, what part of this is smart? None. Right. So, you know, you

So we, something has to change. This is not okay. We have to raise our prices, increase the number of clients, both, or we got to say, we're not doing this anymore. Okay. Yep. I'm going to have that conversation. I appreciate your opinion. I guess the other thing is, you know, do you have a basement? We do. Why don't you do it down there? Yeah. Sixteen hundred bucks a head per month instantly.

Another thing people do now is they'll go to your house and do the work out there. Oh, yeah. Yeah. And the other thing he can do is just go work at a gym that already has personal training and they hire him and pay him money. So he doesn't have any of the overhead. Yeah. So there's a lot of options. Part of the equation on the business model might be getting rid of this rent. And suddenly, yeah, you're doing in-home work and in your homework.

In other people's homes for them cut you know personal training you go visit Jim then you go visit George and they do whatever me that's the dream and they pay you money you know and. I have a gym in my house we did that for a long time and so. My wife made fun of me she said you know.

The guy's counting for you. You can't count to 10. It's what you needed in that moment. Paying that guy big money for counting. I'm paying him for accountability. Ooh. There's that. But I can count to 10. I already can do one, two. I can count. But you need a guy yelling at you other than the guy in your head.

We don't need anybody yelling at me, but, um, but we need someone just, I know if he's going to come over there, then I'm going to do the workout, right? Otherwise I might find my little butt on the sofa. You know, that could happen. And so that's, that's what, you know, it's what a personal trainer does sometimes.

We know we can Google the workout. We hire the personal trainer because we need that level of hand holding right now. Yeah, I mean, that's okay. Yeah. So, I mean, he could provide the service like George is saying charge even more to come to people's homes in person and or in your basement and or if you're going to keep the location, you got to make the location

Having the location needs to cause you to make more money than not having the location would actually make. I think you're going to get rid of this location at a minimum. This is the Ramsey Show.

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Go to yrefi.com slash Ramsey. Today, that's the letter Y-R-E-F-Y dot com slash Ramsey. Might not be in all states. Today's question comes from Chad in South Carolina. He says, I work full time and I have a lawn care business on the side. Part of my business income was paid in cash and partly by payment apps like Venmo, etc. I've been paying taxes on everything except the cash and I was wondering morally and legally how I should handle that income.

Obviously, I already pay a lot of taxes and I'm trying to save money where I can. Should I feel bad about this? And if so, should I clear everything up with the IRS and pay back what's due to them? You can decide if you want to go back or not and deal with it and how far back you want to go. But income in America, regardless of how it's received, is taxed. That's the law.

And so it is a moral and ethical thing to pay taxes on money you receive as cash, period. And I pay taxes. I mean, if we get paid in cash for something here, it all goes into the revenue, and it all goes into the calculation, and we pay taxes on it, just like we do everything else.

Mechanically how you can do it is when you get paid in cash just deposit it into the business bank account And then it'll be reflected there as income and that'll help you do the totals and figure out what you're supposed to do with your quarterly estimates on your business. That's the mechanics of it So Chad one of the things I read several years ago that Really leans into this George as far as I'm concerned is

Tom Stanley, the great Tom Stanley who did the original book, The Millionaire Next Door. He and I became friends before he passed away. His daughter Sarah, we interact with her now. She still does research on millionaires and billionaires and so forth.

He did another book called the Millionaire Mindset later. There's two books by that name, but he did one by that name and, or he studied billionaires that wasn't millionaires or billionaires. And he studied people who had accumulated a billion dollars from nothing. And so these were very billions, a thousand million. And he did, he went out this one, this research a little bit different. He tried to find the,

correlating things in their life. You know, marriage, or they married one time, had they been married six times? What was their education? You know, what were the things in their life that led them to be in a position to do this? And he found 37 different items or things that he correlated and the

Then he forced ranked them in how often they appeared. So number 37 appeared the least often among the billionaires and number one appeared in every one of them. And number one that appeared in these people who became billionaires from nothing was that they had fanatical levels of integrity. Character.

Every time he interviewed a competitor, a friend, an employee, a former employee, his kids, his wife, when they spoke of this man, they always spoke of impeccable integrity, not just honesty, but integrity is a wholeness to it. He's the same on Sunday as he is on Monday. If he says this guy's falling duck, I mean, this guy is

impeccable, fanatical about his integrity. And that reinforced to me that when I don't pay my taxes, it has nothing to do with whether the taxes are just or not. It has to do with I'm not doing the right thing. It's my integrity.

It doesn't reflect on them. Anybody who has walking around since pretty much agrees that the federal government and the IRS and the income tax system is a complete moronic train wreck. It's absolutely unfair and horrible. But that doesn't say anything about my integrity.

My integrity is I'm going to follow the law exactly. It's what they said today. I'm not looking for a shortcut. And so we report every stinking dime that we take in at the Ramses because it makes a statement about me, not about them.

And then I'm going to also make another statement about me. I'm going to spend a lot of money with attorneys and CPA firms to try to figure out what I legally don't have to pay. And I'm not paying a stinking dime more than I got to on the other side of that because I hate them. But.

Still, my dislike of the tax system is not going to be reflected, not going to change me as a person of integrity, because I want to be on that list that Tom Stanley did. I want to be in that lineup with that Hall of Fame right there. If you want to build sustainable wealth and have your integrity intact, pay in taxes, Chad. That's it. It's that simple. I'll go so far as this. Let's just carry that on out a little bit.

Fanatical integrity means like when you work for someone and they pay you to work there, when you're not working, you're stealing. When you're sitting on your Facebook account for three hours while you're being paid to do work that you're not doing, that's not integrity. That's stealing. It's not cute.

Everybody does it, but everybody's broke and everybody doesn't have a good life and everybody struggles in their relationships and everybody can't deal with anything except their anxiety and their heart attacks and their obesity and everything else. So everybody you don't want to be like. So here's what's weird. Even if it's not popular with your coworkers, while you're at work, work. All

every day because that makes a statement about you. Not about them. It's not about when my bounce is toxic. Oh, kiss my butt because they wanted you to work. Now you have a toxic ball. It's a toxic work environment. They expect me to work and I can't live on Facebook. You're killing me here. That kind of snowflakes.

work while you're at work. It's an integrity issue, you know? And so it carries through every five minutes early. Get their five minutes late. Leave five minutes late. Don't be the first one screeching tires out of the dad gum parking lot every afternoon. You know, it's not that hard. That's a sign of integrity. It's a sign of integrity. And I figured out being on time is integrity. I hate that one.

Once I figured it out though, I'm trained to run on time around here. We put a little clock up on things. Staff meeting, it's got a little countdown clock. And we start at 8.30. We don't start at 8.32. We start at 8.30. And you come wandering your little butt in six minutes late. It's, you know, there's traffic. There's traffic every day. There's nothing new about that. There's traffic. Of course there's traffic.

You know, I had to get the kids ready for school every day. You know, it's not a surprise. You know, we do, you know, if I tell Sharon, I'm gonna be home for dinner at 5.30. I come walking in at 5.37. She's like, it's getting cold. Food's cold. Getting cold. You said 5.30.

And she's not a but about it. I'm not a but our team about this stuff. But these are things I had to start talking to myself about. And that type of character is the type of character that grows billionaires, Chad. And so pay you taxes, honey, every dime of them. Hope that was clear.

That is true, though. It's interesting how that carries through every part of your life, your career, your marriage, your relationships, your finances. Being the person you said you were going to be. Be the person to character. Do what I said I was going to do. Follow through. Follow through. Follow through. And, you know, God, I can't stand being late.

As it says, I didn't think they were important enough to get there on time. It's arrogance. Hey, stand it. Stinking airlines. Unbelievable, man. What's Delta mean when you look it up in the Greek? We ain't gonna be there. What it means. This is the Ramsey Show.

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What's not to love? So if you're ready to take the next steps toward your home goals, go to ramsysolutions.com slash real estate. That's ramsysolutions.com slash real estate. Thank you for joining us, America. George Campbell, Ramsey personality is my cohost. Joe is in New York City. Hi, Joe. Welcome to the Ramsey show. Hi, my parents have recently taken out two loans to remodel their home in the amount of $55,000.

and they're trying to tell me I'm responsible for it and I want to know if I should agree to this or not. I'm sorry, why would you be responsible for a loan on their house? I'm confused. Because after I left college, I moved back in with them and I've been with them for the past five years. So? That's how I see it as well.

Was there no room for you and they had to create an extra room for you? And you requested this? No, it was my same room from high school. In fact, when they were looking to get the home read down, I told them, no, I was part of the conversation with the contractors that came to look at the house. How old are you? I'm 31. Why do you still live at home? I have a lot of students that I'm working through right now. You need to move out. I agree with you.

You should have moved out 10 years ago. What in the world? What in the world? I mean, I know you're not obligated morally, legally, ethically, anything here. I have no idea where they got this. I don't, I don't understand the conversation even, but I also am not going to tell you to stay there one more minute. You shouldn't be there. It's not good for you. Yeah, I've been paying down my student loans like a recast. It doesn't matter. It's not good for you.

Even if it slows down your debt payoff, this is stunting your growth and it's causing this relationship to be strained, which it may already be too strained to repair. I don't know. What do you do for a living? I work with the local Department of Social Services. What do you make? 60 grand a year. Okay. So your degree isn't what? It's in environmental science.

Okay. And what do you owe on this degree? Oh, when I last booked 110. Okay. All right.

Well, it sounds like you probably are going to have to make some career choices as well. And you're probably going to pick up some part-time income and be working like a maniac because you're not making progress. You need to be paying like 30,000 bucks, 40,000 bucks a year on the loan to make it go away in two or three years. And you can't do that making 60 living in New York City.

So you're probably need a different job and you need six other jobs in addition to that and let's get your income up and get you out and get you into the world and a sustainable situation So the odd thing is is the reason you stayed there was to pay down your student loans and you haven't Tada Time to go bud

Time to go get you a better job, go get you lots of jobs, and get you a different place to live and pay down the student loans for real this time. So that was mythology. That was lie you told yourself. And you didn't mean to, but lots of people do this. But five years with very little bills, you should have made some serious progress on the debt. And it sounds like it's just you get comfortable living at home, you sort of resort to your old childhood self, and you don't make as much progress as you think.

The frustration with the 31 year old still living in your basement could boil over into a misguided toxic claim that you owe us money for us taking out debt. You know, like the parents have kind of lost their minds a little bit. And this is their resentment. This is their toxic methodology to solve a failure to launch.

Well, we can get them to pay us that way of kicking you out, but because we don't know how to do it. And we're all and we're all really frustrated. So that's probably where some of this is coming from. But it but to answer your question, no, you do not owe the money. Yes, you should be gone by the end of the month at the end of next month for sure. And you may need a new job by that time too.

And you may need a new state to live in by that time too. You need to live in an affordable area, make a pile of money and clean up the mess. Because while you were living with a place with no rent, you made no progress or no sustainable progress, no measurable progress. Tom is in Chicago. Hey, Tom, how are you? Dave and George, it is an honor to speak with you both. You too. What's up?

I've been renting a town home for many, many years and the homeowners through their property manager have informed me that they now want to sell and have asked me if I'd like to purchase it before they list it. I don't know how to handle it in that situation without it being listed.

Of course, if it were just a house that I was looking after, going after a normal situation, do I get a realtor in this situation?

Um, since it's not being listed, I don't know if I'm allowed to do that. You're allowed to do anything. It's just a matter of who's going to pay for it and whether you actually need it or not. So you need a mortgage, right? Mm hmm. And you need someone to guide you through the contracting process and the mortgage process and the appraisal process and all of that. Are they giving you a price on the property? Yes. Okay. They give me a price of 330 based on some comps.

that the property manager pulled up who is a realtor. I didn't like the cops. I didn't agree with those cops. They were in an area not very close to me. And when I looked at them, the homeless were much nicer than

and then this then this home so I don't know how to you know combat that so they have they have a real estate agent it's called a property manager so licensed real estate agent yes and they're probably going to list it with this person eventually but they're asking me before they list it yeah but it doesn't what's the benefit to you it does there's no benefit to you there's no bargain

I guess the benefit is that no one else would be able to make an offer on it. Oh, yeah, okay. I mean, if you had a transaction you were comfortable with and you can go through and get your mortgage and everything, you can go to a title company, get a contract drawn up, and do this. I think this transaction so far from happening that you probably do need a pro in your corner to help you navigate the negotiation.

and then help you navigate the closing, help you navigate the appraisal, help you navigate the getting of the mortgage and all the different things, all of the things you don't know how to do. But if you had all those things already lined up, you could, you don't have to have a real estate agent, but you can, in this case, I think you'd benefit from one and just say, if they list it typically what happens is,

The listing agent, in this case the property manager, they're going to put a 6% commission on it or something about like that. And then the agent that represents the buyer is going to split that with the selling agent typically. That's a normal transaction.

And so, you know, if you get a real estate agent to represent you and they work with the selling agent before it actually goes on the market, but a commission is still paid, it didn't cost you anything. It cost them something. Um, and it, you know, the, the, let me tell you, if you just buy it right now, I think this agent is going to get both of the commissions. They're probably going to charge that seller a full commission.

So yes, the answer is I go get a real stage. Yes. In your situation, I would. Yes. I mean, it's kind of borderline, but I think there's, I think there's a lot of A, there's another real estate agent already involved. Okay. B, you don't like the comps. So you got some negotiating to do. C, you got to have somebody walk you through the closing process and the mortgage getting process and the appraisal process. So all of those things tell me, yeah, I put a real estate agent in your corner.

It's just worth it for the stress factor at this point. Well, and the expertise to guide you through a journey that you've never been on. Now, I negotiate and save you 30 grand to where it was worth it. RamsaySolutions.com slash agent will help you find a Ramsey trusted agent in your area to help you do that. This is the Ramsey Show.

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george camo ramsi personality is my co-host today open phones a triple eight eight two five five two two five danny is with us danny is in bokeh retan high bent danny how are you i'm doing all right how are you better than i deserve sir how can we help so i have a three-year-old and a six-week old um... me and my wife would like to put some money away for them

We were wondering what the best thing would be. Okay. Well, we teach folks a thing called a process for becoming wealthy and taking care of all the different components of our life called the baby steps. You may have heard of that, you may not, but the first thing you would do is not put money aside for your kid.

The first thing you would do is to set money in an emergency fund of $1,000, a beginner emergency fund. The second thing is get out of debt, everything but the house. How much debt do you guys have? Pretty much none. We only have two credit cards, but there's no debt on them. We have about $3,000 in the emergency fund. OK, no card debt, no student loan debt.

No. Good. What's your household income? Um, together is about 80, 85, 90. Okay. Cool. Well, once you've done baby step two, which is debt free, but the house, all that means is you need to place some scissors to cause those credit cards and cut them up. Start using debit cards so you don't accidentally slip into debt.

which people do all the time, then we would go on to baby step three, which is finish the emergency fund, and you're short on that. You got a $3,000 now account, and it needs to be three to six months of expenses. Once you have that, then you would begin investing in your retirement, 15% of your income going away for retirement, and once you got that started, then you start saving for the kids' college, which is what you're calling about. But the best thing you can do to stabilize the family for the kids

is to be out of debt and be building your investments. And then in addition to that, we can start saving for kids college. If you click on SmartVester at RamseySolutions.com, you might find a SmartVester Pro that you will find, a SmartVester Pro that we recommend. Sit down with one that you like that has the heart of a teacher.

And you'll want to learn about 529s and ESAs and putting money in mutual funds for your kids' futures. Is that what we're talking about here? Yes, sir. OK, it says on my screen something about an IUL. Yeah, we were looking at those because. But you got a friend in the insurance business. Yeah. Yeah.

Guess what? Which by the way is going to make way more commision off of that. Yeah, so IULs are awful. It's an indexed universal life. You never do investing inside of an insurance policy. It is the world's worst place to do investing. The only people in all of the financial world that recommend that you invest inside of a life insurance policy are insurance people. Nobody else does.

Nobody else believes that crap. It's so outdated, so outmoded, covered in fees, horrible product. Don't do it. Was I unclear.

Okay. And by the way, your kids don't need life insurance. Life insurance is meant to replace your income in case something happens to you. So you, your wife, you both need a good term life policy, meaning it's not for your whole life. We're talking about a 15, 20 year level term life policy, 10 to 12 times your income. If you have those in place, you can rest easy at night.

Yeah, and then if something happened, the two of you kids will be taken care of, right? Right. And you get that at sanderinsurance.com. They'll shop a gazillion companies, get you the best deal. That's who you deal with. And it's way more affordable than these IUL policy. It'll be five percent, five dollars. If your IUL is a hundred bucks, this will be five bucks.

It is literally 5%. It's horrible, man. So just stay away from that. So walk your way up into investing in real investments. And in the meantime, make sure you've got term life insurance in place and you've got the whole thing taken care of.

I'm seeing this all over social media. I don't know why, but the young people are gravitating towards these universal life policies, and here's how it's marketed. They go, you know it, you're supposed to use your life insurance while you're alive. Did you know that? And everyone's like, oh my gosh, this is brilliant. This investing policy inside of my whole life. Oh my gosh, this is amazing when I become a millionaire.

And the commissions and fees these guys are making sell in this crap is insane. And the amount of time you have to spend pulling that premium every single month in order to make any amount of money is absurd. I don't know how it's legal. The indexed universal policy is it's a newer version of an old bad idea.

is what it amounts to. And so what you're going to find if you take this product apart and look at the components of it, the insurance portion goes up every year. It's basically what we call an ART, an annual renewable term. Term insurance, all life insurance gets more expensive every year that you're alive. Period. Because you're statistically more likely to die every year of your life, right? Brilliant. So if you're 51, you're more likely to die statistically than if you're 50. Period.

Okay, end of story. Now, why would you get, how do you get then a 15 or a 20 year level term insurance? Well, it is cheaper than the average of the 15 year of increases. The ART would start out cheaper and it would end higher. And the lines would cross right in the middle, hypothetically, if it was exactly how, you see what I'm saying? So the ART would go,

It goes straight up and the 15-year would be level and it would cross right in the middle at seven and a half years. However, it doesn't do that because it is cheaper for an insurance company to produce a 15-year policy because they keep you for 15 years than it's called persistence in the insurance business than it is for them to try to get you to stay with a policy that goes up every year.

Can you imagine that if you get a bill and every year it goes up, you're probably more likely to cancel that. So that policy doesn't stay on the books, so it's more expensive for them to sell ARTs. So that result is a 15 year is way cheaper than the average of 15 years of ART. Okay, now the index universal goes up every year inside the policy, but you don't see it.

So if you've got a $400 premium, a certain portion, like if you ever look at your mortgage payment, a portion goes to interest, a portion goes to principal. The further you go along, more goes to principal, less goes to interest. This is exactly the opposite.

The further you go along, more goes to insurance, less goes because the ART is going up every year inside there, less is going to your investments. And so if you keep the stupid thing long enough, it will begin to be the point that the premium you're paying will not even cover the insurance cost. And so it starts to eat back into your savings just to keep the policy alive.

And the thing gets what we call upside down in the insurance business. And so now you've got a real piece of crap that's eating itself from the inside out. But they pitch it as this really sophisticated nuance. Listen, it's so complicated, you don't understand, just trust me. Yeah. As your insurance guy, I'm going to make you lots of money. Let me give you a clue. OK, when you drive past most cities, the skyline has banks and life insurance companies. These are the two towers in every skyline.

Santa Claus didn't build those. And those people didn't build them with wealth they inherited. They built them with money they took from you. Banks screwing you.

Life insurance companies screwing you. This has been going on for decades. Nothing new. It's not a new song, not a new dance. And just because you put it on TikTok for God's sakes doesn't make it smart. Matter of fact, that kind of dumps it down. That's a trigger word for you. I'm sorry. I shouldn't mention anything.

What we teach is that you should take the difference that if you pay a five bucks for term life versus a hundred for whole life, take the 95 bucks you would have spent and invest that and you're gonna be way better off than having touched one of these crappy policies. Oh, here, by the way, after you pay extra on this, all these years and you die, they only pay the face value. They'll pay the face value plus your savings that you've been paying extra to build. So it's like a savings account with a crummy rate of return that when you die, they keep your money.

I mean, who would bank with that? Oh, people that buy stuff on TikTok. I think Danny needs better friends. Yeah, well, it's time. No, I mean, that happens to everybody because that's how most particularly whole life, permanent life, crappy life, insurance is sold is some old friend from college suddenly remembers you. My buddy from Northwestern Mutual said, let's be done with that. Oh, that's horrible.

That happened to me. That happened to me. I bought it well. When I was a child boy, you know, sure did. I did the same stupid stuff and I have a degree in finance and I fell for that. Now he's a grown man America. He made it. This is the Ramsey Show.