Podcast Summary
Taking_control_of_emotions: We have the power to take control of our emotions by acknowledging that we are the ones allowing ourselves to be triggered, instead of blaming external factors.
Instead of blaming external factors for our emotional responses, we have the power to take control by acknowledging that we are the ones allowing ourselves to be triggered. As Rob Dial explains in the Mindset Mentor Podcast, by shifting our perspective from "someone is triggering me" to "I am allowing myself to be triggered," we put ourselves back in the driver's seat. Eleanor Roosevelt's quote, "no one can make you feel inferior without your consent," applies here as well. Our reactions are a choice, and we have the power to choose how we respond to our circumstances. The goal should be to master our emotions rather than trying to change our environment, as the latter is beyond our control. This is a simple yet profound shift in mindset that can lead to greater personal growth and resilience.
Personal reactions: Instead of blaming others for triggering us, recognize our own patterns and learn to let go of unnecessary reactions to improve meeting dynamics
Instead of blaming others for triggering us, we need to take responsibility for our own reactions. If not everyone in a meeting is reacting negatively to someone, then it's likely that our own past experiences or patterns are causing us to be triggered. For example, I used to feel the need to correct people when I was young because I thought it made me appear smart. But this pattern was unnecessary and caused me to trigger others. When we feel ourselves getting triggered, we can learn to recognize the physical sensations and tell ourselves to let it go. By doing so, we can avoid unnecessary conflicts and improve the overall dynamic of the meeting or situation.
Emotional triggers: Pausing and breathing when noticing early signs of emotional triggers can help access logic and make better decisions, but it's also important to understand deeper layers of emotional responses and work towards lasting change.
Recognizing and managing emotional triggers involves multiple levels of awareness and response. When we notice the early signs of being triggered, such as body tension or the desire to react negatively, it's important to pause and breathe to allow our heart rate and breath rate to return to normal. This can help us access our logic and make better decisions. However, it's also crucial to understand that there are deeper layers to emotional responses, and simply addressing anger or other emotions at the surface level may not address the root causes. By developing awareness of our triggers and practicing breathing and letting go of emotions, we can begin to uncover the underlying causes and work towards lasting change.
Emotion recognition: Recognizing emotions involves noticing physical sensations, thoughts, and past experiences, allowing for healthier responses and improved well-being.
Becoming aware of our emotions involves recognizing the physical sensations in our bodies, noticing the conversations happening in our minds, and exploring the roots of those thoughts. Our emotions are complex and often stem from past experiences, even if we're not consciously aware of them. By practicing self-awareness and reflection, we can gain insight into the causes of our emotions and learn to respond to them in healthier ways. For example, noticing a trigger and recognizing the body's response, identifying the thoughts leading to the emotion, and exploring the potential origins of those thoughts can help us better understand and manage our emotions. Ultimately, this process allows us to take control of our emotional responses and improve our overall well-being.
Triggers as opportunities for growth: Unresolved past traumas can cause strong emotional reactions to others' actions. By recognizing triggers as opportunities for self-discovery and healing, we can gain true freedom.
Our reactions to others can often be rooted in unhealed past traumas. During a discussion, the speaker shared how a rude coworker reminded her of her father's bullying behavior towards her family. Instead of focusing on the coworker's actions, the speaker realized that her emotional response was a reflection of her unresolved issues with her father. This realization allowed her to see the situation from a new perspective and understand that the triggering from the coworker was a gift, as it was bringing to light unhealed wounds. The speaker encourages us to view triggers as opportunities for growth and self-discovery, rather than focusing on the actions of others. By examining the root causes of our reactions, we can work towards healing and gaining true freedom.
Emotional roots: Childhood experiences can shape deeper emotional fears and it's important to look beyond surface-level emotions to understand their root causes.
Our emotions and fears are often rooted deeper than what appears on the surface. The speaker, who is a mindset mentor, shared her experience of feeling fear despite having a successful life and a recently accepted offer on a new house. She discovered that her fear was actually rooted in a deeper sense of scarcity around money, which represented safety to her. This fear stemmed from her childhood experiences of financial instability. By recognizing and understanding the root cause of her fear, the speaker was able to gain a new perspective and work through it. This experience highlights the importance of looking beyond surface-level emotions and exploring the deeper underlying causes.
Mind conversations: Identifying and affirming ourselves during stressful moments with positive affirmations can help us overcome triggers and live the way we want.
Our emotions and feelings are often rooted in conversations happening within our own minds. When we notice ourselves feeling triggered or stressed, it's important to identify the underlying conversation and affirm ourselves with positive affirmations. For example, if safety is a concern, repeating "I am safe. Everything's okay. I am in control" can help. It's also crucial to remember that we don't have to react to negative people or situations, and instead, we can choose to let things be and focus on our own thoughts and feelings. By taking charge of our own mindset and affirmations, we can overcome triggers and live the way we want. Don't forget to share this episode on social media to help spread the message and consider joining the Mindset University program for ongoing support and growth. Lastly, make it your mission to make someone else's day better.