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    We Know Nature Is Good for Us. Here’s How To Make Time for It, Scandinavian Style | Linda Åkeson McGurk

    enAugust 28, 2023

    Podcast Summary

    • Embracing nature daily for improved well-beingIncorporating nature into our daily lives, even in simple ways, can have a significant positive impact on our mood and overall happiness.

      Spending time in nature has significant benefits for our well-being, but it's important to find practical ways to incorporate it into our lives. The advice to get out in nature may seem obvious, but it can become overwhelming if we feel like we don't have the time to do it. Linda Kosin McGurk, a Swedish American writer, introduces the concept of "free luft sleeve" which focuses on the joy of being in the open air. This Scandinavian approach emphasizes the importance of embracing nature every day. By understanding the scientific benefits and historic roots of free luft sleeve, we can prioritize nature in our lives and experience the positive impact it has on our mood and overall happiness.

    • Embracing Friluftsliv: A Simple Pathway to Nature's Joy and WellnessFriluftsliv encourages individuals to connect regularly with nearby nature, fostering joy and wellness through non-competitive and simple activities. It also promotes conservation and aids in combating climate change.

      Friluftsliv, or open air living, is a lifestyle that emphasizes spending time outside in nature without pressure to achieve or compete. It is characterized by simple, non-motorized, and non-competitive activities that can be enjoyed with minimal means and cost, such as walking, biking, foraging, camping, and more. Friluftsliv is about connecting with nearby nature on a regular basis and experiencing joy and wellness in the process. It originated as a reaction against industrialization and urbanization, allowing people to reconnect with the countryside and fresh air. This lifestyle has been passed down through generations and is culturally ingrained, with governments supporting the creation of parks and green spaces. Friluftsliv also promotes conservation and acts as a catalyst for protecting nature and combating climate change.

    • Embracing the Outdoors: The Key to Physical and Mental WellbeingSpending time outside, challenging ourselves, and embracing outdoor activities like walking or cycling can strengthen us both physically and mentally, enhancing our overall wellbeing and connection to nature.

      Spending time outside, or "huga" as it is referred to in Danish, is crucial for physical and mental wellbeing. Huga involves challenging oneself and embracing the work part of outdoor activities like walking or cycling. It instills resilience and is recognized as a way to strengthen oneself physically and mentally. It has been taught in schools for over a hundred years because of these benefits. It is of urgent interest to Linda Åkeson McGurk because she noticed a lack of outdoor activity in the US, particularly in the winter, and wanted her children to experience the full range of seasons. Being outside in all weather conditions is important, as it helps us stay connected to nature and motivates us to protect the environment amidst climate change and pollution.

    • Embracing our Connection to Nature: A Path to a Healthier WorldRecognizing our connection to nature and prioritizing it can lead to a healthier world, both for ourselves and the planet. Creating green spaces in cities is essential for promoting mental and physical well-being.

      Our connection to nature is vital for our well-being and the health of our planet. In Nordic countries, there is a recognition that humans are part of nature, whereas in the US, nature is often seen as separate. This perspective can lead to the harmful belief that nature is solely a resource to exploit. However, without nature, there would be no humans. Therefore, it is crucial that we reconnect with nature, not just in wild places but also in our cities, where the majority of us live. City planners and local governments have a responsibility to create green spaces that promote mental health and physical well-being. Spending time in nature can reduce stress, anxiety, and depression, and even simple activities like walking can have significant health benefits. By embracing our connection to nature and prioritizing our relationship with it, we can contribute to a healthier and more harmonious world.

    • The Mental Benefits of Nature Therapy: Combating Burnout and Improving Well-beingSpending time in nature and participating in nature therapy programs can reduce stress, lower the risk of anxiety and depression, and help individuals recover from burnout, ultimately improving their overall well-being.

      Exposure to nature has numerous mental benefits, including stress reduction and lower risk of anxiety and depression. In Sweden, nature therapy programs are utilized by the public health system to treat individuals who have experienced burnout, whether it be work-related or personal. These programs involve activities like creating nature crafts, walking in the forest, and tending to gardens. Surprisingly, these nature-based programs have proven to be more effective at helping people return to work compared to traditional methods like sick leave and therapy. Additionally, spending time outdoors and being exposed to natural daylight helps regulate our circadian rhythms, which influence hormone levels, eating habits, body temperature, and alertness. Even short periods of time in nature, such as camping for a couple of nights, can reset our circadian rhythms and boost energy levels for several weeks. So, it's crucial to prioritize outdoor time, even in the wintertime, to combat seasonal affective disorder and enhance overall well-being.

    • Embracing outdoor activities for a transformative effect on our well-beingStart small, unplug from screens, and find a balance between technology and immersing ourselves in nature to experience the benefits of open-air living.

      Embracing open air living can have a transformative effect on our lives. It may feel uncomfortable at first, but the feeling of well-being and satisfaction we experience afterwards is worth it. It's important to find motivation within ourselves and focus on how we will feel after embracing outdoor activities. There are no right or wrong ways to do this; we should start where we are and use what we have. It's essential to unplug from screens and immerse ourselves in nature, but it's also okay to use our phones for safety or to capture the beauty around us. The goal is to build a habit and rhythm of outdoor engagement, starting with what is accessible to us. Even small steps can lead to significant life changes. The key is finding a balance between using technology and fully immersing ourselves in the natural world.

    • Enhancing Productivity and Well-being Through Outdoor Work PracticesIncorporating physical activity, fresh air, and nature into our workday not only boosts productivity but also improves well-being, fostering a balanced and fulfilling lifestyle.

      Incorporating physical activity, fresh air, daylight, and nature into our workday can have numerous benefits for our productivity, focus, and overall well-being. In Sweden, walk and talk meetings are a common practice, as they provide a different setting for conversations, promoting a more democratic and dynamic interaction. These outdoor meetings can be seen as a way of embracing open-air life while fulfilling work responsibilities. Additionally, engaging in activities like walking meditation or taking silent retreats in nature can offer mental health benefits, relaxation, and a sense of being part of something greater. By combining outdoor experiences with work, we can enhance our productivity and create a more fulfilling and balanced lifestyle.

    • The Benefits of Nature on Health and Well-beingSpending time in nature and living closer to green spaces can improve overall health, satisfaction, and well-being, making it important to prioritize and incorporate nature into our daily lives.

      Spending time in nature, whether it's in the woods, parks, or even experiencing natural elements like rain and wind, has proven benefits for both our physical and mental health. Research has shown that living closer to green spaces is associated with better overall health and satisfaction. Additionally, the proximity to a green space within a thousand feet is a significant factor in regular usage. The study also revealed that serene and biodiverse parks, with ample natural elements, were rated as the most relaxing. Therefore, creating more of these restorative spaces in our cities can greatly contribute to improving public health and well-being, with the added benefit of being more cost-effective in preventing illnesses rather than treating them. So, let's prioritize nature and make it a part of our everyday lives.

    • The Benefits and Popularity of Cold PlungingCold plunging can improve physical and mental health by boosting the immune system, increasing circulation, reducing stress, and providing entertainment during the pandemic. Consult a physician before attempting if you have heart issues.

      Cold plunging, or swimming all year round, can have numerous physical and mental benefits. It is a form of cold water therapy that triggers the production of noradrenaline, making us more resilient to stress. Despite its initial shock to the system, cold plunging can boost the immune system, reduce the risk of airway infections, increase circulation, alleviate fatigue and pain, and improve overall wellness. Many people have also used cold plunging to treat depression and burnout. Additionally, it has gained popularity during the pandemic as a nature-based intervention for entertainment and self-care. It is important to consult a physician if you have a history of heart issues before attempting cold plunging.

    • Connecting with Nature: Inside and OutEmbracing nature can be done in various ways, from swimming in designated areas to simulating open air living, listening to nature-related shows, and finding personal ways to appreciate the natural world.

      Connecting with nature doesn't always require physically being outside. Different cultures have unique ways of incorporating nature into their daily lives, even in urban environments. For example, in some cities, there are designated areas where people can swim, and the city provides amenities like changing rooms and ladders. Additionally, people can simulate open air living by taking cold showers or standing under cold water. Furthermore, activities like listening to a radio show about migratory birds or watching a moose herd on TV can help individuals feel connected to nature even when they can't physically be outside. Ultimately, the key is to embrace nature in whatever way works best for each person, whether it's through exploring the outdoors or finding alternative ways to appreciate the natural world.

    • Embracing Bad Weather: The Benefits of Outdoor ActivitiesExperiencing different weather in outdoor activities allows us to connect with nature on a deeper level and offers a chance to disconnect from the chaos of modern life, fostering personal growth and a bond with nature.

      Experiencing unpleasant weather during outdoor activities, such as camping, can offer unique and valuable experiences. Linda Åkeson McGurk emphasizes that being exposed to different types of weather allows us to witness nature in diverse ways and engage with it on multiple sensory levels. She believes it is a shame to miss out on these opportunities by avoiding unfavorable weather conditions. Moreover, Linda highlights the importance of camping as a means to disconnect from the noise and chaos of modern life. She considers camping an opportunity to reconnect with a simpler way of living, where basic survival skills are necessary. Ultimately, camping can contribute to personal growth, self-esteem, and self-confidence, as well as providing a chance to bond with nature.

    • Developing Survival Skills and Connecting with NatureIn today's world, it is essential to learn survival skills for self-reliance and to disconnect from technology and reconnect with nature for personal restoration and energy replenishment.

      It is important to develop survival skills in today's world. The threat of war and the possibility of cyber attacks and natural disasters highlight the need for individuals to be prepared to take care of their basic needs. The government may not always be able to provide immediate assistance. These skills, such as building fires and finding shelter, were once common knowledge but have been lost over time. Additionally, going camping and immersing oneself in nature provides a unique opportunity to disconnect from technology and connect with oneself and loved ones. Being in green spaces is not just a luxury, but a fundamental need rooted in our evolution. Nature provides us with restorative and effortless attention that replenishes our energy.

    • The Healing Power of NatureOur connection with nature is fundamental to our well-being and can be nurtured through positive experiences and embracing its healing qualities.

      Our connection with nature is incredibly powerful and can have a profound impact on our physical and mental well-being. Simply looking at scenes in nature has the ability to heal us. This connection is partly influenced by our cultural backgrounds and positive childhood experiences in natural environments. However, negative experiences or cultural associations with nature can also shape our perception of it. Despite this, our default state is an innate bond with nature, and it is human actions that can turn people away from it. Additionally, being in nature triggers the production of oxytocin, the love hormone, which can cultivate a sense of friendship with nature. Therefore, embracing and nurturing our connection with nature is vital for our overall well-being.

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    • How she reacts when she comes across EIP’s in her everyday life
    • Whether it’s possible to have some immature characteristics without being an EIP
    • Handling your own emotionally immature tendencies  
    • Whether or not EIP’s can change
    • The limits of estrangement
    • Why she encourages “alternatives to forgiveness”


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    Jerks at Work | Amy Gallo

    Jerks at Work | Amy Gallo

    This is the third installment in our Work Life series. In other episodes, we cover topics like imposter syndrome, whether mindfulness really works at work, and whether you should actually bring your whole self to the office.


    Today's episode is one that many of us struggle with: interpersonal conflict at work. Our guest is a true ninja on this topic. Amy Gallo is a workplace expert who writes and speaks about interpersonal dynamics, difficult conversations, feedback, gender, and effective communication.


    Gallo is a contributing editor at Harvard Business Review and the author of a new book, Getting Along, How to Work with Anyone, Even Difficult People. She's also written the The Harvard Business Review Guide to Dealing With Conflict, and she cohosts the Women at Work podcast.

      


    In this episode we talk about:


    • Why quality interactions at work are so important for our professional success and personal mental health
    • Why Gallo believes one size doesn’t fit all when it comes to dealing with difficult people in the workplace 
    • Why avoidance isn’t usually an option 
    • What the research tells us about work friendships
    • Why we have a tendency to dehumanize people who have more power than us
    • Why passive aggressive people can be the most difficult to deal with
    • The provocative question of whether we are part of the problem when work conflict crops up
    • And, a taxonomy of the eight different flavors of difficult coworkers, including the pessimist, the victim, the know-it-all, and the insecure boss — with tactics for managing each. 




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    Deep Cuts: Malcolm Gladwell

    Deep Cuts: Malcolm Gladwell

    Gladwell On: the importance of flow states, why people should have a lifelong pursuit or practice, and how he personally relaxes.


    Malcolm Gladwell is the president and co-founder of the podcasting network Pushkin Industries, and the author of six New York Times bestselling books including The Tipping Point, Blink, Outliers, David and Goliath, and Talking to Strangers. He’s also the host of the Pushkin podcast Revisionist History


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    https://www.milehichurch.org/calendar/10-percent-happier-with-dan-harris/


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    In this episode we talk about: 


    • The backlash Malcolm faced from his work from home comments 
    • Pushing the noise aside when it comes to social media 
    • Lessons in kindness from a recent Revisionist History episode
    • The importance of flow states
    • How he personally relaxes 
    • Why people should have a lifelong pursuit or practice
    • What he thinks now about his famous 10,000 hours argument
    • Why we need to engage and investigate the views of others to be morally alert as human beings
    • And his biggest journalistic mistake



    Content Warning: Brief mention of eating disorders. 


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