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    This Isn’t How You’ll Be Measured | Ask DS

    enAugust 29, 2024
    What was the main topic of the podcast episode?
    Summarise the key points discussed in the episode?
    Were there any notable quotes or insights from the speakers?
    Which popular books were mentioned in this episode?
    Were there any points particularly controversial or thought-provoking discussed in the episode?
    Were any current events or trending topics addressed in the episode?

    Podcast Summary

    • Impact and wisdomFocusing on impact and wisdom in life is more valuable than material success or wealth, as remembered by philosophers like Seneca, Marcus Aurelius, and Cicero.

      Our lives are not defined by material success or wealth, but rather by the impact we have on others and the wisdom we leave behind. Seneca, Marcus Aurelius, and Cicero, despite their financial prosperity, are remembered for their philosophy, inspiring speeches, and personal qualities. We should focus on these aspects of our lives, rather than solely on accumulating wealth or possessions. Listen to American History Tellers for historical insights, and the Daily Stoic Podcast for daily wisdom to help apply this philosophy in your everyday life. Wondery Plus subscribers can enjoy ad-free and early access to these podcasts.

    • Stoicism and wealthStoicism teaches that wealth is not just about accumulating material possessions, but rather understanding the value of things, living a purposeful life, and being content with what one has.

      The Stoic philosophy, as taught in the Wealthy Stoic course, offers a different perspective on wealth and success than what is commonly assumed. According to the speaker, Stoicism is not just about accumulating wealth and possessions, but rather about understanding the value of things, living a purposeful and meaningful life, and being content with what one has. As Bill Perkins wrote in his book "Die Was Zero," material wealth is not the only form of wealth, and it's not what truly matters in the end. The Stoics, who were figuratively wealthy, understood this and lived rich lives by focusing on what was enough and prioritizing their values. The Wealthy Stoic course aims to help individuals achieve this kind of wealth and happiness, and provides tools to break free from the grip of money and live a fulfilling life. To learn more and sign up for the course, visit dailystowak.com/wealthy. If you're a Daily Stoic Life member, you can access the course for free. For more information, listen to the recent podcast interview with Bill Perkins, which is linked in the show notes.

    • Reflection and application of timeless principlesReflecting on timeless principles and applying them to various aspects of life, including parenting and leadership, can lead to greater fulfillment and effectiveness.

      Key takeaway from this episode of the Daily Stove podcast is the importance of reflection and application of timeless principles in various aspects of life, including parenting and leadership. Ryan shared that he has found immense value in constantly thinking about these principles and applying them to different situations, such as when he started dating again after becoming a father. He emphasized that it's essential to identify what's truly important and to act in alignment with those values. By giving examples of individuals who excel in this area, such as effective parents and leaders, Ryan encourages listeners to reflect on their own lives and make conscious decisions based on these principles. Overall, the episode highlights the power of mindful reflection and the importance of applying timeless wisdom to daily life.

    • Public figures' mistakesReflecting on others' mistakes can teach valuable lessons, but remember not all are good role models. Examine past actions, learn, and move forward.

      Reflecting on the mistakes and experiences of others, particularly public figures, can provide valuable lessons for personal growth. However, it's important to remember that not all parents in the public eye are good role models, and it's up to each individual to learn from their own experiences and navigate feelings of guilt or shame from the past. The speaker shares that they have personally experienced moments of reflection and introspection, and have found value in examining past actions and their impact on their life. Ultimately, the goal is to use these experiences to move forward and continue growing as a person.

    • Mistakes and growthAcknowledging and learning from mistakes is crucial for personal growth and being a good person, even if it's uncomfortable to face our past mistakes.

      It's natural to feel embarrassment or regret when looking back at past actions or words, especially when those actions have reached a wider audience. This feeling can be a sign of growth and self-improvement, but it's important to acknowledge and learn from mistakes. Apologizing and taking responsibility for our actions is a key aspect of being a good parent and a good person. It can be painful to face our past mistakes, but it's necessary for personal growth. The ability to make mistakes and learn from them is a sign of progress, and we should strive to be better versions of ourselves, even if it means facing the discomfort of our past mistakes. Our past selves may have been less knowledgeable or experienced, but it's important to remember that we've all been there and that growth and progress are part of the human experience.

    • Transience of success and fameSuccess and fame are temporary, focusing too much on external validation can hinder personal growth, prioritize the joy of creating and personal growth over external validation.

      Success and fame are transient, and focusing too much on external validation can hinder personal growth. The speaker, who is a fan of the interviewee's work, brings up the idea of not letting one's career define their entire life. He shares his observation of how books that were once popular can be forgotten, reminding us that everyone's moment in the spotlight is temporary. The speaker admits that he used to be overly concerned with external results and validation, but he has since learned to focus more on the quality of his work and less on the outcome. The interviewee adds that he tries not to dwell on how well his work is doing and instead focuses on continuing to do his best. The speaker's insightful reflection and the interviewee's wisdom serve as a reminder to prioritize personal growth and the joy of creating over external validation.

    • Navigating LossFocus on honoring loved ones' memory and continuing to live in a way that would make them proud, rather than dwelling on sadness and despair.

      Even in the face of profound loss, it's important to keep living and finding meaning in our experiences. Seneca, a Roman philosopher, wrote beautifully about navigating loss through his essays, particularly those addressed to his loved ones. His words remind us that our loved ones want to be remembered positively, and that focusing on the sadness and despair won't bring us closer to them. Instead, we should strive to find ways to honor their memory and continue living in a way that would make them proud. This idea resonates with me deeply, because I believe that even in our darkest moments, we have the power to choose how we remember and honor those we've lost. So, keep living, keep loving, and keep finding meaning in the memories you have.

    • Emotions and CommunicationAcknowledge and process emotions instead of denying them, communicate clearly and honestly, take time to reflect before responding, and express appreciation and gratitude.

      It's important to acknowledge and process emotions rather than denying them. The discussion revolved around the idea that the stilts in a play do not represent a lack of emotion or feeling, but rather an inability to act upon those feelings when they become overwhelming. It's crucial to allow ourselves to feel sadness, loss, and other emotions, and not shy away from them. Furthermore, the conversation touched upon the importance of clarity and honesty in communication. When expressing ourselves, it's essential to be clear and straightforward, as this can help prevent misunderstandings and build stronger connections. Additionally, the speakers discussed the value of self-reflection and taking time to think before responding. Sometimes, emotions can cloud our judgment, and taking a moment to process them can lead to better outcomes. Lastly, the podcast hosts expressed their gratitude for their listeners and the impact they've had on people's lives. They emphasized the importance of expressing appreciation and gratitude in our interactions with others. Overall, the conversation emphasized the importance of emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and clear communication.

    • Emergency preparationBeing prepared for emergencies and taking swift action when danger arises can make all the difference, as shown in the tragic Piper Alpha oil rig disaster.

      Importance of preparation and quick action in the face of unexpected crises. The workers on the Piper Alpha oil rig, which was the largest in the world at the time, found themselves in a deadly situation when an accident triggered a gas leak, explosion, and fire. As they waited to be rescued, they realized that their rig had become a death trap. This harrowing true story, which will be explored in the next season of Against the Odds podcast, underscores the significance of being prepared for emergencies and taking swift action when danger arises. It's a reminder that even in the most seemingly secure environments, unexpected events can occur, and being ready can make all the difference. So, whether you're on an oil rig in the North Sea or going about your daily life, always be prepared for the unexpected. Listen to Against the Odds to hear more thrilling true stories of survival. And don't forget to fill out the survey on Wondery.com/survey to tell us about yourself and get access to ad-free listening on Amazon Music or The Wondery App.

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