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    • Buddha's Ethical and Virtuous PerspectivePracticing Buddha's ethics and virtue creates happiness, personal fulfillment, and harmonious relationships. Self-interest includes everyone's interests, and following the Noble Eightfold Path leads to living a better life.

      The Buddhist perspective views ethics and virtue as a means of doing no harm, which leads to happiness and personal fulfillment. These concepts are not a rigid set of rules but a flexible approach to living life in a way that creates harmony with oneself and others. Being ethical is in one's self-interest, as it promotes true alignment and harmony with the world around us. The idea of kindness can be tough and hard-nosed, and the truth may not always be ethical to say. Virtue and ethics are not related to any hypocrisy, and understanding their meaning in Buddhism leads to personal awakening. Self-interest includes everyone's interests, and following the Noble Eightfold Path means living a better life.

    • The Power of Enlightened Self-Interest & Truthful ReflectionsBeing ethical and virtuous not only benefits others, but also leads to landing in the truth - the most powerful force. Wake up to reality and embrace fierce kindness and mindfulness to reveal your hidden intelligence.

      Enlightened self-interest is a win-win proposition, doing good for others is good for you. Kindness can be fierce and direct, not just nice. Waking up is about being real and seeing what's true, not just being good. The advantage of being ethical and virtuous is that you're landing in the truth, and there's nothing stronger than the truth. The strength and power of truth is much stronger than acting unvirtuously. Mindfulness can reveal more intelligence than we know in each of us. Compassionately smacking someone with your umbrella is what's needed sometimes, and it's about waking up and seeing what's true, not just being polite or nice.

    • Understanding the Noble Eightfold Path in BuddhismThe path to awakening in Buddhism involves aligning our actions, speech, and livelihood with the truth and living mindfully in our daily lives beyond the meditation cushion.

      The noble eightfold path is a beautiful understanding about what does it mean to practice and awaken in Buddhism. Right speech, right action, and right livelihood are normal components woven into our lives. The term right means to come into accord with the truth, which is the way things are and is freeing. Living according to the truth is the cutting edge for most of us. Right livelihood doesn't necessarily mean you have to strictly adhere to the legal code of a country. The path emphasizes living awakening beyond the cushion, which involves being clear about what's appropriate action. Practicing and living awakening in daily life can be more challenging than on the cushion.

    • The difference between right speech and mindful speechBeing honest and respectful in our speech is crucial to maintaining healthy relationships and practicing mindfulness can help us become more aware of how we communicate with others.

      Right speech is about being honest, direct, and not divisive. It means saying true things at the right time. Mindful speech, on the other hand, is all about being aware of the body, both yours and others, as you speak or listen. This difference underlies the greater right speech umbrella, which is essential to living our lives. We need to speak without lying, not be abusive, and be truthful at all times in our interactions. While it's easy to say, it's not easy to practice. This is because we're constantly talking to others or, at the very least, ourselves. We need to apply the principles of the right speech, which are critical to our relationships and the way we interact with others.

    • The Importance of Right Speech and Right Action in BuddhismPracticing right speech involves being aware of what you say and the impact it may have, while right action requires finding harmony with reality and avoiding actions that cause harm to others. Both are essential components of the eightfold path.

      The practice of right speech and right action is a part of the living practice of the eightfold path in Buddhism. The freedom to not say what you want to say is just as important as the freedom to say what you want to say. One way to practice right speech is to be aware of what you want to say before you say it. Another way is to not talk about anybody who's not in the room for a day. Right action is the key to finding harmony with reality. It's about finding alignment with the truth and practicing 24/7. The basics of right action include not taking life, not stealing, and not acting in ways that harm people sexually.

    • The Importance of Kindness and Ethics in Promoting Inner HarmonyActing from a place of kindness and goodness is essential for inner peace and calmness. Being real and genuine is the key to cultivating a kind heart, which ultimately leads to happiness and harmonious living.

      Being kind and ethical is not only morally right, but also protects us and promotes inner harmony. Acting from the goodness of human heart contributes to peace and relaxation. A kind heart is an innate quality of most people, but it receives less publicity than the negative aspects of our world. Realness is the key to attain goodness of heart. Self-interest drives many people to invest in meditation or other therapies to find peace, but being good is the foundation of it. Goodness of heart is essential to calm anxiety and depression. If you want calm, then one potent component of it is not being an asshole. Being kind is crucial in the long run as it promotes happiness and harmonious living.

    • The Practice of Right Action and Ethical Guidelines for a Harmonious LifeBy staying present and in harmony with what's true, practicing right action, and adhering to ethical guidelines, we can cultivate our innate goodness and bring more harmony to the world. As we learn and teach the dharma, it's important to remain humble and open to continuous growth.

      The goodness of humans is often obscured but practicing right action all day long can bring out the goodheartedness. It is important to be present and in harmony with what's true now. Ethical guidelines are designed to get us into a spontaneous engagement with life, rather than acting them out in a rote manner. Right livelihood is about bringing more harmony to the world and being truthful in the moment in our work. Teaching is a privilege practice where we can learn more about the dharma, and it is important not to take the projection as the whole truth and be a human being who's still learning and waking up.

    • The Importance of Heartfulness in LivelihoodPresence and appreciation for the goodheartedness in others' work can lead to harmonious functioning and a better world.

      Our livelihood offers something good to the world with heartfulness. It's not just technical understanding of right livelihood, but how we do what we do. Presence means saturating our consciousness with what we're aware of so we know what we're aware of by becoming what we're aware of. And there's a presence that's bigger than the individual self-ego identity. When we appreciate people for doing their jobs well, we are recognizing the goodheartedness of what they do, which they often don't recognize themselves. It's important to function harmoniously together for a better world.

    • The Path of Meditation and the Experience of PresenceMeditation is a continuous journey of discovering the infinite possibilities of awakening. Stay motivated by understanding that there is always more to learn and deepen your practice. Connect with Eugene Cash's teachings to take your journey further.

      The experience of presence is feeling one with everything, and it can be achieved by relaxing into the moment. The path and practice of meditation is beautiful because there is always more to learn, deepen understanding, and discover. Freedom is not achieved by reaching a destination but by constantly unlocking more possibilities for awakening. The key to motivation in meditation is to understand that no matter how long you have been practicing, there is still more to do that goes on infinitely. To learn more from Eugene Cash, one can access talks on Dharma Seed, join his Sunday evening class, or attend his retreats at Spirit Rock.

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    • Why people should have a lifelong pursuit or practice
    • What he thinks now about his famous 10,000 hours argument
    • Why we need to engage and investigate the views of others to be morally alert as human beings
    • And his biggest journalistic mistake



    Content Warning: Brief mention of eating disorders. 


    Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode//malcolm-gladwell-rerun


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