I feel like Valentine's is definitely one of the holidays where you make sure you give oral sex. What do you think? At least I do. Yeah, if you haven't been giving it. Yeah. A lot till then. Yeah. And you're like, it's now or never. Yeah. Yeah. But I think it's good to do it when you want it. I don't, well, here's what that reminds me of. I actually appreciate that. I think you're also right that, yeah, if you never do it and you know your partner is a huge fan of receiving it. Yeah. Why not? Or, because you always hear like, oh, they only give blow jobs and birthdays. So I think it's that. Yeah. But yeah, why not throw another one in for the old February 14? Yeah.
You're listening to sex with Emily. I'm Dr. Emily and I'm here to help you prioritize your pleasure and liberate the conversation around sex. Today is my Valentine's Day episode 2025. And really though, I got to be honest, it is giving you tips for all year round. And one of my favorites, Dr. Scott Lyons is my co-host on the pod today. You can check them out at Dr. Scott Lyons. And we got into a lot in this episode. We answered your Valentine's Day questions.
We talked about the best gifts for whatever you're looking for, some sexy ones for sure, and just some really cozy, playful ones, things to enhance and intimate conversations. We talked about people's most inspiring dates they've had for Valentine's Day, memorable moments. So you, everyone, enjoy this episode today. Can't wait to hear what you think. Happy Valentine's Day. We love you.
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So my team puts together this gift guide every year. We spend a lot of time on it. I'm not a control freak, if you will. I love to know, is this really useful for people? Is something new? Can you afford it? It's something for everybody. If you're in a relationship or if you're single, you want to buy something for yourself. Obviously, there's some
toys. Okay, here's something we have a lovers journal. Okay, so this is what I love. I love a journal that has like prompts and challenges and helps you like pause, reflect and connect on a deeper level helps to spark conversations. So I just love the card games, the journal, something that couples can do together. Yeah, right? Like helps elicit fun conversation. That's date night.
Yeah, I mean intimacy, like the depth of intimacy really comes from being curious and getting to know each other more and more and more and more, even after all these years, like if you feel like you know your partner, it's stale. You don't know everything. You don't. They're keeping secrets from you. No, we don't. We don't want to hear about your day at work again when it struggles with your
Whoever, your neighbor, your kids, or your work. This is like, go to dinner and say, so tell me about if you could have dinner next to someone that are alive, who would it be? This is why I like adventures, too. It's because shared experiences give you something to talk about. Shared movies, shared TV shows, shared laser tag.
It gives you, it gives you something to really like, we shared it and we can unpack. Yeah, your cream memories. Oh my god. And couples, they say too, when your couples are sharing an experience, you get that release of dopamine. And that also helps bond you. Cause you know what I don't want to be that couple who's sitting at dinner. We've all seen that meme where they're both on their phones and they're not talking to each other, but if you bring something like the levers journal or Esther Prowse card game. Okay. So that's a good one. We have a,
Love Struck Couples Magic Candle. This is like set the mood stuff. It's a house of tuition. Love Struck Candleweight. So we just have stuff like that on here. We have, we have an intimate blanket. Okay, so this, do you know about a sex blanket? No. Do you know about a waterproof blanket for your bed? You will be obsessed with this, Scott. So do you, cause you're, you like things neat. I do like things. So what happens when sex gets on the sheets, ejaculate, sweat,
Other crackers. Crackers. I don't know. Whip cream. Look at this sex blanket. It's from Common Confidential. It's a waterproof intimate blanket. And you put it on your bed so you just, we're having sex. I use this. I throw it down for the sex for anything. Yeah. Because then it's pretty. Like how waterproof? Like, are we talking about like golden shower waterproof? Yes.
Oh, it's the point. Wow. Yeah, you don't want to put down like a, you know, have to have to stitch a garbage bag or something. No, and my Gucci blanket. I don't want stuff on it. This is one of my favorite things on the gift guide. This is the common confidential waterproof blanket. Use code sex with Emily for 15% off your first common confidential purchase. That's actually really helpful. Wait, this is so cool. Look at this. A levitating moon lamp. Yeah.
Oh. Doesn't it look like a moon? Yeah. Isn't that cool? That's really cool. Okay, so that's one of them. Okay. Then I know you're dying to know about this. The magic wand mini. I...
think we use a magic wand for different purposes. It is a great actual massager. Scott just used it 10 minutes before the podcast, just so you know. I was reading my IT bands. He used it for his IT bands. It's really good. The magic wand mini. The mini is travel size and it's the same freaking sensations. I literally gifted to everybody that I asked them to send me like, you come to my house, you leave with a magic wand. Get the magic wand mini, visit shop with Emily for 20% off to 30% off select products.
Have you ever traveled with a mini magic wand? And as it's going through like TSA, it accidentally turns on.
Yes. Yes. Oh, if that's totally happened to me. At one time, I was traveling home from, I think it was Germany. I was there for a sex conference. This one does. As one does. And I came home and I had so many sex toys, but not only that, I had all the sick lawn, speaking of laundry, but it was like very like BDSM-y, sexy. I should wear that. It's got all these like bondage, like I still have it, leather straps, and all the sex toys. I probably had like 14 wee vibes. It's another kind of toy and a magic wand anyway, so they stopped me.
I was like, I thought these were legal or not legal. I had to go to talk to the guy and then it did turn on as they were going through it. But I've had him turn on in the plane because I put him in my carry on and then you hear it above. Have you ever seen the ones where it has a remote?
I had a lover who were, I don't remember if it was a vibrating cockering or a butt bug or something, and I had full access to whenever, and they had to work. They wore it all day. They did. Just one day, because I overextended my welcome with it.
And just randomly through the day, consistently, there's this whole thing in psychology, intermittent stimulus, right? Makes you the most hyper-vigilant. If you don't know it's coming, but it's consistent enough, it will keep them like, it is edging. It is like nervous system edging, because they're constantly like, is it gonna happen now? Is it gonna happen now? And then they start to settle, but is it gonna happen now?
And then it happens and that's quite an explosion when you edge it and you edge it all day. I just want that's that's what I want to do. Did that just make your book again so turned on by edging all day. So yes, this is my bad. I love their company and they make.
Check this out. Okay, this is for sure, I'm wearing this. This is exactly what you're saying for date night. It is. So it comes with panties. One size fits all, like blue, I think comes with other colors. And then this is a remote control. It's a little panty vibe. You can control it with an app. So now that remote control vibes are apps in your phone. And you can do it from anywhere. Like it could be at dinner, like during our Valentine's Day date. Or I could be in Florida and you could be in California if we were in a long distance relationship. So that would go my panties.
Wow. Yeah, you could use any panties, but this has a little thing that it slides into. Do you think if I'm at the office typing that you as my office neighbor would hear the chair vibrating? It's pretty quiet. It's quiet, and it's between your legs. So it's like, put it on. I'm putting it in my panties. But I'm talking, I don't think you could hear it. It's imperceptible.
Yeah, it's pretty soft. It is pretty soft. I can definitely hear you try it now. Okay. Just stick it in there. I mean, there's a slight hum, but I'm... Oh, now that you've tucked it in now. It was tucked in now. Yeah, I've been sucked in the hum goes away.
Can you hear that I'm wearing a panty vibe during the show? I've never done that. You've never worn a panty vibe during the show? Oh my god, welcome to the new era of your show. I mean, what a good idea. It's the best idea. No, because now my nervous system is calm. I'm edging myself through the whole episode and then I have to go in the bedroom after. Is this how you regulate yourself?
Oh my God. Do you know that the organisms are very radical? Of course. I mean, yeah. Is your favorite nervous system regulation tool masturbation or sex? Well, that's, I think, no. Okay. For me, that's more of like a stress relief. When I'm feeling really, really conscious, it's like, it's still going, y'all. It's good. This is powerful. Okay. Is it? Where exactly is it placed? I mean, I know the female anatomy. I need them placed.
Do you though? I mean, where's my vulva coffee? I have done dissection labs. There it is. This is where it is. Okay, so it's on the opposite end of the clitoris. Oh no, you're putting it near the clitoris. It's right now, it's there. Okay. Wait, wait, wait. Nope, it's there. Okay. Oh, it's under the hood of the clitoris. Yep. So that's the, oh, my bod. Just real quick. Yeah. We also have an organic cotton teddy because I'm going to be honest with you. Let me just show you this. This cotton teddy is just- What is a teddy?
Oh, a teddy is what we prefer to wear as women, I think, all the time. It's just like a one piece, but it's cotton and it's this one's black. It's pretty. It's really pretty. So I could just wear that around the house, if you will. So then, um, yes, please. Yes, please. Oh, and then there's just... During the office hours. Yes. Yeah. I gotta just get out of the ogs and wear my sexier stuff all day, every day. I think so. Another thing... Yeah, go ahead. I think this is the new era.
It's already happening, you guys, welcome to the new era. Welcome to the new era, everyone, where you're just wearing a teddy for office hours. That's it. That's it. Okay, then we have massage butter, also by the common confidential who make the blanket that you're going to have to sex blanket. They also have this massage butter that is just smooth and I have it right by my bed. Oh, look at that very confidential box. It's a very sexy box. It already got some lube on it, I think. Okay. Oh, wow. Oh, check this out. I love massage. This is your Valentine's Day right here. Feel this.
Okay, what's in it? And it totally feels, you know, when you like put coconut oil on your good parts, and it just feels really natural. Well, you, yeah, this feels natural. That feels really natural, actually. You could use this as an all over body massage oil. You could use it for massage. You could use it for a lubricant, for a penis.
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help with if you have any kind of pain or you want to wrap blood flow. Blood flow, it helps you just. Does it make you last longer? It can make you last longer. Interesting. Asking for a friend. Asking for a couple friends.
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Um, not all of them. Some men have something called delay. I need to rename everything in my new sex DSM, whatever manual I'm going to do because I don't love the name, delayed ejaculation. That's what it is. There's some men who can't eject. They typically delayed ejaculation is if you can't have an orgasm up until like 45 minutes during any kind of penetration and you just have a hard time orgasming. There's a lot of different reasons why that can happen for men. But if you've been with a guy who just can't ejaculate at what he wants to,
Yeah, for sure, but I don't think it's from that. I think it's, I mean, maybe it's that, but yeah, I've been with, and sometimes you're just like, come on.
Get out there. Yeah. And you're like, we've dinner reservations. Yeah, dinner reservations. Yeah, exactly. We've got something to do. Yeah. And we've got to go to bed. Yeah, we've got to go to bed. So anyway, but yes, I think that some people would like to last longer. Okay. Yeah. The thing about lasting longer is I think that if a lot of heterosexual relationships, I think there's this notion that men are like, it means something, the sex is better if I last longer. And for a lot of women, that's not that it's too long.
It's going on too long. Oh, interesting. I feel like when I was younger, I saw these like maybe SNL skits or something in movies where it was all like women at a gathering talking about like, oh, it was like 30 seconds and done. Like complaining. That's pretty much that's when someone comes in a minute. Yeah. So that those people would like to last longer for sure. And there's a lot you can do for that. I've done talked about that. I know you have. But I'm going to send it to those friends.
Yeah, those funds, but you know what's good for that is Promescent is delay spray. Oh, yeah. Have I give you one of those? No. No. We're going in the garage after. Okay, here's another thing. I want to talk about another remote control vibe that I'm super excited about. I actually love this. Ready? Ready. This is what we're doing on the next show. The Laylo couple play bundle. This is on the gift guide too. Yeah.
It comes with a Tiana 3 remote control couples massizer designed to be worn during sex or just when you're hanging out. And then there's also a couples ring, so penis ring. So they both come together in this bundle. So you'll try the penis ring. The operative term is come together. Exactly. And it also comes with a personal moisturizer and an oral sex bomb to heighten the sensation. What do you mean bomb? The ALM bomb. Yeah, it's a little hex condom. So what I love, okay, here's what I love about the bundle. This is a good Valentine's Day tip.
If you're like, I just want to get a toy, right? So I want to get the massage candle, like get this bundle because you get two toys, you get oral sex bomb, personal moisturizer and a hex condom. That's fun. I feel like Valentine's is definitely one of the holidays where you make sure you give oral sex. What do you think? At least I do. Yeah. I think that if you haven't been giving it a lot till then. Yeah. And you're like,
It's now or never. But I think it's good to do it when you want it. I think you're also right that, yeah, if you never do it and you know your partner is a huge fan of receiving it, why not? Because you always hear like, oh, they only give blow jobs on birthdays, so I think it's that. But yeah, why not throw another one in for the old February 14?
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Fuck. I know how amazing. I don't know why I got so excited by that. We used to have to suffer through so many things. And we didn't really talk about it all when we just thought, oh, my life is over at this age or I can't. But like, no, not true. This technology is amazing.
all the research we've been doing on women's health. They're still not enough, but we're just doing more. We're realizing that I can't tell you like five, six years ago, I probably didn't get anything for the vagina. And then all of a sudden, my UPS box is filled with vaginal serums and beauty products and everything that we would do for our face, we can also do for our vagina. So it's a good time to be alive. It's a good time to be alive.
Much more importantly. Cheers to that. Cheers to that. We'll be right back with Dr. Scott Lyons and all our top products on our Valentine's Day gift cards. Stick around.
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So another final toy that I love, so you don't know this probably, but when I started the show a long time ago, I couldn't believe that this company sent me, like, vibrators and stuff. Like, I would get them and I wouldn't have to buy them, and I got to try out all these ones. And this company called Jeju, which is, I play. In French, I do not know how to... I love your French. They knew what called them to me, but now they make this one called The Rabbit.
Oh, I do. Oh, yes. All my friends have talked about the rabbit. This one is, oh, this is a kind of a rabbit-esque, but it's a hair of flax, meaning that it is dual stimulation. Wait, you have to feel this because- I love getting greedy with stimulation. Do you? Yeah, dual stimulation or bust, and then bust.
Dual stimulation is greedy. It's super greedy. I mean, it bends and it fits. Beautiful. So I love, yeah, because their products, they're really, really soft. They. Is it behind you? Is that it? Yes, that's it. That comes in that beautiful burgundy. I love that burgundy color. I love that it bends and flex with your body that has a deep, rumbly sensations. And it's just like all of their products are really beautiful and a great gift. And you see how it comes wrapped really pretty in the box.
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When you talk about it, it makes me want to have a clearest. I know. I feel a little left out. Sometimes. I mean, we have a gladness too. Yes. And so like for those who maybe, I'm sure you've talked about it a million times, like the undifferentiated your genitals.
as one does up until eight weeks in utero. That gets the same little thing. The glan is the head of the penis is the same thing as the clitoris. Exactly. And you can, like, lots of variation. Yeah, you can jack off the clitoris too. You can, um... Totally. You seem to see different sizes of the clitoris. Exactly.
Okay, so that's fun Valentine's Day. So I'm inspired for it now. I really am. And so we're going to do Dave Love. I think that everyone's just do something, do something for yourself, hang out with your friends, go shopping, play some games, plan date night out, do an adventure with your partner. There's just so many other things you can do. We asked our Instagram audience this question. We said, what Valentine's Day gift are you giving slash hope to receive?
Ready? What is that? Yeah, a lot of these. Okay. Dirty, nasty, and passionate sex. Okay. Quiet night, sex in a hotel room. Okay.
My time and their time, meaning you're going to go down to me. You're going to take care of me. You're going to do whatever I want. And then we're going to give them their time too. Oh, I heard that as like quality time. But yes. Okay. I think that's what they mean in sex language. Yeah. Oh, I love this. No Valentine, but yet I will be my Valentine. I will give myself a sex toy. I love that. You better get that rabbit. Okay. In light of listening to your podcast, I'll be giving the gift of pleasure this year.
I love that. An orgasm. Oh, God. Well, this is depressing, but I hope my wife puts effort in for the first time ever. I beg for too long. You know what? You're on the next episode.
I hope she did. I know. I want to help. Yes. Yeah. Okay. Massage us. You're on the next episode. You're in the next episode. A promise ring. A trip to Italy. Really helping my hubby cooks from this year. It really makes you feel special. Okay. So here's the thing. I would love if she would just let her husband know because now that she's waiting in. Yeah. Yeah. Communication.
Here's the fucking thing y'all is we all want someone to mind read and find that thing that we've been desiring and craving and to somehow manifest it into reality. And the truth is it may not feel as sexy or special, but if we communicate it, if we say give them at least some clear hints, it's so much more likely that it's going to actualize in our life.
It's a fucking communicate. They're not a mind reader. They're not a mind reader. They're not a mind reader. They're not a mind reader. They're not a mind reader. They're not a mind reader. They're not a mind reader. It's a way to say it's a way to say it's a way to say it's a way to say it's a way to say it's a way to say it's a way to say it's a way to say it's a way to say it's a way to say it's a way to say it's a way to say it's a way to say it's a way to say it's a way to say it's a way to say it's a way to say it's a way to say it's a way to say it's a way to say it's a way to say it's a way to say it's a way to say it's a way to say it's a way to say it's a way to say it's a way to say it's a way to say it
But I communicated it, and I actually felt really empowered. Yeah, emphasis on X. Hold the door open for folks, y'all. But I love that. We got to communicate it. Let your partner know now, don't wait to be disappointed. Let them know what you want. Yeah. OK, this is our person. I'm giving my partner a weekend getaway. We love exploring new places. So I've booked a cozy little cabin in the mountains. I know they'll appreciate the thought and the quality time together. Would you invite us? I know we want to go.
We'd be kind of fun if we showed up. We know how to play board games. Exactly. Oh, I've always wanted to receive something handmade, like a scrapbook or something that you can tell took a lot of time and effort to make. Yes. Like my boyfriend did when I was 25. Yes. He made me that album that's. Yes. Yeah. Do you know I've been making people pottery? No. Yeah, you're on the list.
I just got offended that I didn't get it, but no, I just couldn't. This is because I haven't put it in. I have to heat it up. I love that. That's a really beautiful, because you actually, something you made with your hands. It's literally, you sat there, you thought about this person, you molded the clay. That's a beautiful gift.
Yeah, I'll take one. Yeah, no, I'll get you one. They're not attractive. You don't have to. But as a kid, I just remember not having any money, but giving my parents gifts that I would make. And I just feel like they faked it, but they still appreciated it more. I think you're right. Even the art of writing a card, I think that's not a thing to do. I love that. And if you don't know how to write in this way that is maybe more romantic, use AI.
Yes. That's what it's here for. Totally. You can be like, write my partner, A Valentine. I really love the way they smell, ask how I feel. They're a great cook. They care about me and they love me, but make it sexy or make it funny. Make it into a lyrics or a poem that you can read them, yes. You can jatch it, you pee your Valentine's day. Why not? I mean, add in your own little flair, but yeah. Oh my god. Giving my partner socks with our dog on them. Like printed socks with a doggy photo.
That's cute. Have you ever gotten socks with your photo on it? Nope. Okay. I'm adding that to the list. That'd be kind of funny. Okay. With this one of that, I'm giving my mom a nice coffee maker. She's been talking about upgrading hers for a while and a single. So I know this will make her mornings even better and soften the blooming single Valentine's Day. Yeah. I love that. And if your mom's single, you could also give her a vibrator.
You absolutely remember? Yes, Emily. When I first met Emily, well, not when I first met Emily, she gave us, my ex and I, a huge box of dildos that we brought up and gave to my mother-in-law.
Yeah, and she loved each and every one of them. Cheers. Cheers to that. Cheers for making her day. I think that if you're like, oh, I could never do that. Try it. So that makes me feel really good. And she was pleased to receive that. She wasn't embarrassing. She was pleased when she received it and she was pleased later. She's pleased right now. She just got pleased five minutes ago. She's still using the toys.
She actually broke up with her longtime partner. Really? I think... After I gave her the vibrate, after we gave her... No, that's when we gave it to her, because it was around now. Okay. I'm glad. I think I always give my mom while she's a lot of vibes now.
But I just think it's a beautiful thing to think about. Your parents are human too, remember. They need love too. So getting my partner custom chocolates from her favorite German chocolate shop, chocolate shop, we did it when we first started dating. I love that because that has some history. History. Yes. That's why you got to write things down because I don't know that I would remember that. Like I don't know that I'm always the most like
I put a lot of pressure on myself to give people the best gifts, and then I don't often know what to give, and then sometimes I don't give something, but it takes a beat to think about it. Those are some nice things that people want. I know, and I hope this is just inspiring for people because I'm inspired now. What's your most memorable Valentine's Day? We had a for some. I love that. Not one, not two, not three, but for some. I love that you got greedy on Valentine's Day. I love it. Hotel room with champagne and edible lube.
Let's see, my most member of Valentine's Day was with my partner surprising with the candle at dinner at home. We had a picnic on the floor, just the two of us, and he cooked my favorite meal. It was simple, but so intimate and thoughtful, nothing fancy, just a night that felt really special and personal.
I love that. I know. I'll never forget the Valentine's Day when I actually brought my best friend a romantic gift, like full-on heart-shaped box of chocolates, flowers, and cute little card. I thought it was being funny, but we were so confused and didn't know if I was secretly confessing my love or just got lost in the Valentine's Day section, we laughed about it for ages. Are they now together? Well, I could say no, I bet it's in my seat. No, it sounds like they're not. Okay, so do you know that Valentine's Day is the most popular day for people to propose?
Is it? Yeah. Are you going to propose to me? So my most memorable Valentine's Day was when my now husband proposed to me. He had planned a whole thing out. It started with a scavenger hunt around the city. That's what you would want. And that is what I did. Leading to our favorite spots and ended with him asking me to marry him at the place where we had a first date. It was so romantic and I had no idea it was coming. Definitely might seem cheesy for some, but perfect for us. Not cheesy at all. Scott did it. Did I ever take the story of how I proposed? No.
It was in my 20s and I couldn't afford anything, but so I bought a ring pop.
And there was also a history, like there was a whole history around ring pops. But so I put a metal thing in the box because we brought a metal detector to a beach. And I was like, we're going to do metal detector games at the beach. So I buried a bunch of different things, like surprises, presents, and including the ring.
And he found all of it but the fucking ring. And he was like, let's just go. It's getting cold. And I was like, we really need to find all the gifts. And then I finally helped him find it. And he opened the box and it said, will you marry me? Yeah. That. Yeah. I mean, sometimes just the proposal story is way better than a relationship. Yeah. Well, that's the thing. You might as well make that part good because it might help down health in there. Hell yeah.
As long as the proposal is good. Okay, now we have all these questions too. Scott, you'll be good at this one. What's the best advice for someone who's recovering from a breakup or a heartache during Valentine's Day season? Well, someone who's doing that, let me tell you, go out with friends.
Make yourself busy, remember how fucking amazing you are, and all the things you get to offer to other people in the world, and remember that you are better off, booboo. Because honestly, if they didn't fight for you, and all the shit you had to put up with, this is actually a better Valentine's Day than whatever they might have done, bread crummy half ass, and then left you disappointed the next day, going back to their old fucking patterns. Goodbye, booboo.
So you deserve better and you're going to give yourself better. Yes. How's that? What do you think? That was perfect. Lean into your friends and your community. Buy yourself something special. Do something for you. You listen, but your ex had ended for a reason.
It's so easy to put them on a pedestal and think what it should have, I could have, would have. But when they end, they're ending for a reason and for a lesson. I love that. So we've got my girlfriend wants to try anal sex for the first time on Valentine's Day. How to go about it? Get some lube. I have a slight pause on the question, which is for the first time,
Okay, we want to do a little bit of like rehearsal before like she should try a little rehearsal like is a thing she would enjoy like you don't want to like get really how we say messy and funky on Valentine like will it ruin your Valentine's if it's not perfect.
because it's probably not gonna be perfect the first time. It's, you know, sometimes it's a little painful. There's a whole process of warming up the anus. Have you done the four play? Yeah. Have you already tried with your fingers? Have you already, you know, kind of warmed everything up? Is she used to any kind of anal play? Yeah. It's something that you guys have, have you experimented with? Because maybe it's a lot of pressure. It's a lot of pressure. It's like, oh God, and then she won't be able to enjoy if they go to dinner, or maybe, or what she's eating, or she's like, anal's coming, anal's coming.
Yeah, yeah, because there's like a whole diet thing that you got to do. Navigate it. Yeah. You want your cilium husk. You know, you know, it's a whole process. And the second person who talked to me about cilium husk today, do you think you should take it? Right now. What do you think that means? I need you to take some cilium husk. I think you should take and get ready for some anal. Okay.
Yeah, we're going to dinner. Yeah, I'm with you. But how to go about it? Because I think maybe you talk about it on this day and maybe you plan another day unless it's all what if it's all anal valentine say like it's like we're not doing anything else, but it's all about anal then make you can.
Get ready, like have some rehearsals, try toys out before. Get one of the sex blankets. Definitely get a blanket. Definitely look at, you know, have the discussion is, are we gonna douche? Are we gonna go through that process? Are we gonna go all natural, no doucheing? Like that's a conversation to have. It's important to have a communication, y'all. I would say try sex toys out, get the lube that feels good. Right, we love some silicone lube too. Yes, what's your favorite lube for anal?
I would say I love some Uber Lube and Pure makes a great lube. PJ, you are. Yeah, they do. They do make great lube. It's German, right? Yeah, it's a German brand. That's a German sex conference when they found all my sex toys. Yeah, I discovered that brand in Germany. Oh, you did. Yeah, because they're German brands. That's great. They're everywhere, though. They're very popular brand in Europe. Yeah, very popular. They have a backdoor specific. No point in saying it. Yeah. I thought you were saying, well,
No, no, no, they have a lube called Backdoor. I think, babe, I gave you like, that's... You didn't know I have a closet of it. I gave you so many of those. Do you give it to them? Yes! And I gave it away. Okay, you had an orgy. No! Didn't you? No, we didn't have an orgy. Oh, didn't you bring it to the Fire Island? No, I brought it to Fire Island and handed out in my... Yes, I don't mean your... Maybe I was just imagining all the bottles of... Other people had orgies. Yeah, I was imagining, like, I gave you like...
You gave me a gallon of lube. I figured they would be good for like a sex, funny sex thing. In my mind, that was my fantasy about your lube. Thank you for your fantasy. But I thank you for graciously accepting the lube.
Yeah, TSA was curious about it for sure. Yeah. My suitcase was way over weight from the loop is heavy. It is. It can't be a such job when you get gallon jars. Yeah. Yeah. Do you know, my vision is when I go cross country on my tour is to have an air stream. Yeah. And in the back of it, there's just, you know, you would refillable like you bring your water bottles or your your lube bottles and just people can pump and just fill that refill their loops.
Do we come to that? Come see me clearly, bottle. What do you think? If you bring our bottles. I just had this whole foods moment where you bring soap jar only the hippiest of fucking towns and you pump it, pump it, pump your glass mason jar full of soap.
You know, I'm into it. We feel their loops. Hey, don't come see me. You're a little dispensary. Wow. Yeah, it's legal. I think for now. So the other thing we haven't talked about is massage candles. To me, no brainer. If you all everything, you don't know what to get your partner. Get them a massage candle. Jeju makes this incredible massage candle.
Do you know what a massage candle is? Oh, hell yeah. You light it like the most like a regular candle, but then you blow it out. It becomes delicious, warm massage while you rub over your partner's body. JU makes one that I love. I give it to everybody. To me, that's just like that and a card could be your gift because that is the gift that's just like playful and sexy and also gives you ambiance. It smells great. It's also like an invitation, like, right? Like you give the gift and then you're like, shall we?
Yeah, let's try it. Let's try it. It's a activity. Yeah. I love that all of these gifts, a lot of them are activities. Yeah. And the other thing I want to say about that is that one of the most common things that couples want to play with when they want to sort of explore kinkier sacks is temperature play. Oh. And so the thing about massage candles is it's like, you know, you could put a blindfold on your partner and then you pour the warm oil on them and it feels amazing. So it's very active.
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Okay, everyone. Happy Valentine's Day, you lovers. Have the most incredible day. Remember, it is a day of love. It's a day of connection. So whether you're connecting with yourself, your friends, your lover, we're off for it. Dr. Scott Lyons, thank you for being my incredible Valentine's Day co-host today. Where can people find you? You can find me at drscotlions.com or on any of the socials, Dr. Scott Lyons. And your podcast? And my podcast, The Gently Is Human, where we did an episode two. We did an episode so hot. Okay, everyone, we love you.
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All right, Valentine's Day is coming, and if you're wondering what to get, don't worry, I got you. I put together a special Valentine's Day gift guide filled with my top picks for pleasure or connection, and of course, unforgettable nights that you can have all year round. Whether you're shopping for a partner, a friend, or yourself, because, you know, self-love always in season, these are the absolute best gifts to have. Head to sexwithfamily.com and check it out now or just click the link in the show notes. Happy Valentine's Day.