RAANAP 279A: Rob & Akiva Give Life Advice
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December 28, 2024
TLDR: Rob and Akiva provide life advice this week.
In episode 279A of Rob Has a Podcast, hosts Rob Cesternino and Akiva Wienerkur delve into various life advice topics ranging from holiday stresses to navigating relationships. With their characteristic banter and humor, they tackle listeners' questions, providing insights and sprinkled anecdotes. This episode is particularly engaging as the hosts explore personal experiences that many listeners can relate to during the holiday season.
Key Themes Covered
Holiday Stressors
- The holiday season can be hectic, with Akiva mentioning that he has a week of house guests coming for the New Year celebrations while juggling birthdays for his children.
- Rob expresses the challenges of transitioning from a busy holiday season into work, especially when children are out of school, highlighting the balancing act parents face.
Life Advice Discussions
In-law Interactions
- A listener, Bobby, inquires about dealing with difficult in-laws who are controlling and demanding.
- The hosts encourage open communication with the partner about the family dynamics and suggest setting boundaries to maintain one's mental health.
Gift Suggestions for Unpleasant In-laws
- A humorous debate ensues about the best generic gifts for in-laws that one might not particularly like. Suggestions include:
- Candles
- Gift cards, which provide the recipient with the freedom to choose.
- A humorous debate ensues about the best generic gifts for in-laws that one might not particularly like. Suggestions include:
Navigating Family Calls
- A listener questions how to handle a parent who suggests activities that don't fit within their day’s plans.
- The advice is to communicate directly with the parent saying, "Please don't make suggestions unless you're coming to help us."
Career Choices and Management
- A listener grapples with the decision to manage a chaotic team at work that is known for its problematic culture.
- Rob and Akiva suggest analyzing the potential risks and benefits of taking on this role, hinting at the importance of understanding team dynamics before jumping in.
Romantic Relationships
- A listener discusses a flirtation with a colleague and whether to act on it or keep it casual.
- They emphasize being straightforward in approaching romantic interests to avoid regret, referring to the adage, "You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take."
Work and Lifestyle Choices
- Akiva shares a light moment about choosing to buy gifts for holiday gatherings while highlighting the quirks that come with family traditions.
- On navigating living situations, the hosts suggest that if a current living arrangement impacts peace of mind (like living under noisy tenants), it might be time to reconsider.
Practical Takeaways
- Communication is Key: Whether dealing with in-laws or colleagues, open, honest communication helps ease uncomfortable situations.
- Be Mindful of Social Pressures: Don’t succumb to societal expectations about home ownership or relationship statuses. Focus on personal happiness.
- Don’t Hesitate to Seek Change: If your living environment or a job situation is untenable, consider making a change rather than remaining stuck.
Conclusion
This episode of Rob & Akiva Need a Podcast is filled with practical advice, relatable anecdotes, and humor appropriate for the holiday season. Listeners are reminded that everyone faces challenges, whether in family dynamics or relationships, and that addressing these concerns with honesty can lead to healthier outcomes. Tune in for further insights next week as the duo promises more engaging discussions!
Presented by Rob Cesternino and Akiva Wienerkur, RAANAP takes a light-hearted look at life's complexities, providing listeners with both laughter and learning opportunities. Catch the next episode for more of their insightful takes on life!
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Yeah, that's right. Robin and Kevin need a podcast. Episode number two, 79. Robin and Kiva give life advice. The last Robin and Kiva need a podcast of 20, 24. And now here I am back with a guy who has loads of advice to give everybody here today. It's Uncle Keeby. Happy Hanukkah.
Happy Hanukkah. Merry Christmas. Happy holidays. Early New Year's is early for New Year's. Yeah, but it's still, I mean, it's not the Christmas season until like the Christmas season is never ending. You know what I'm going to take down my decorations like on Martin Luther King Day.
Your tree's still up. I'm still waiting for, I'm 48 hours away from when I have a week of house guests coming to celebrate the holidays. Holiday house guests on December 30th. Yep. You ever hear of the whole family coming in for new years? Sure. You have a party? Yep. For a week of fun. Kiss at midnight.
Yeah, it's a busy time. I have three children with birthdays in the next four days, so we got a lot going on here, too. Yeah, I had a lot of kids randomly. How'd you swing that? What's in March? What's in? It would have to be like very late March. I don't know. I guess. But yeah, I've got kids whose birthdays, the 29th to 31st and the 1st. Wow.
And then my wife's eighth. It's a lot of birth. All the kids are born within like six weeks of each other and my wife. It's not like Mary's birthday is in like, you know, March 28th or something. No, Mary's birthday. That day there's no children. It's not your anniversary. No, no, no. Okay.
All right, well, we're going to do something. I think we had a little production meeting before we jumped on. And Akiva had suggested that we do two parts on the life advice. And I think that it's a good idea because we can get into all of the life advice. We can make the most use of the time here today to answer your questions. People can send us in more life advice. Like if, for instance, they had a social media platform that they were rooting for, that they thought would get the most life advice. And then it didn't.
Maybe they can stack the deck this week and send in more questions for us to answer. And then next week, we'll do the mailbag because it's going to be hard, especially if we have a more complicated idea to fit it in in this other second weird holiday slash house guest week that's coming up.
Yeah, I think it's good idea. The only issue is we have all these vetoes. I feel like we're going to blow now. You want any of the questions? No, I guess we get to veto some questions. Fine. You get to veto one question. You don't like that. Okay. Good call. Fair enough. Okay. And then Akiva, last time out, so much fun over at robinakiva.com where you can listen to and subscribe to all of our podcast. We came up with some hypothetical situations that we answered. And so mostly banter though.
is a lot of banter. But yeah, I had a good time with that one, good time with the notebook two weeks ago, and let's try and have a good time today. Okay. All right. How's everything else going for you? Everything's good. I got a house full of house guests. I guess my guests leave and your guests come, you know? It's also this week, like obviously there's work on Hanukkah, but my kids don't have school. It's like every day I like bring a different kid to work, not the older ones. They are like self-sufficient. You're bringing kids to the office with you?
I do. And what they do is there's video games. So they just play FIFA, the soccer video game all day. That's so cool. I mean, do that. I mean, I never asked. I kind of just do it, but nobody's ever been like, Hey, but sometimes we have an open office where like it's kind of like, like what? I don't know. I don't know if it's exactly 100 yards. Let's imagine it's like a football field, but probably a little smaller, but you're, but it's just like straight down a bunch of desks. So it's very open. One room and then there's like another room that has video games and other stuff.
and like sometimes my son will score a goal the second grader and you'll hear like yell so loud that you get the whole office can hear yeah even from like many many feet away what does yell does it just yell like yes or is he like go yeah it's like yes go or like he's mad if yeah he doesn't do like the Andres can't or goal I don't think but a lot of times it's no if like the computer saves it or something okay so
It's hard when I'm going to have all these house gifts here and I work from home. And so this is like, I'm at my, I'm at work. And these people are going to just be all over the place. Like I come down, I want to like eat my lunch. Like I'm on a tough tight schedule. Can you lock your door at least? I cannot lock the door. I can close the door to upstairs, but I cannot lock. I don't have a lock on it.
Yeah, one thing, one thing, smart thing I did was like my new office has a lock on the door and it really helps. Although right now, I see my doors not locked because my son did just come in, swipe my phone and leave. Yeah. So can I tell you, tell me do you think this is insane security? I want to put a lock on the pantry. I want the kids, the kids, they don't, especially my older son, doesn't eat, doesn't eat the food we give him.
like is on like, I don't want that. I'm not eating that. I mean, but then eat snacks all day. It's like my wife has it like self serve, go in there, take bags of snacks, whatever, you know, whatever you want. I'm gonna put a lock on the door. I think that's a type of thing where like 15 years from now, you're gonna be paying for that in therapy. In therapy? Come on. Yeah, I think so. If my mom locked the pantry, I would be in therapy complaining about it, I feel like.
All right, well, look, okay, well, let's see. That's my life advice question. Should we put a lock on the thick? What about certain hours? What if it locks during certain hours? Yeah, it's a smart lock. It's a smart lock. I'm opening it with my thumb, but he doesn't have a code.
How about that? You like that? But then you'll be getting texts all day, like dad, I have a friend over, can you, I know you're in the middle pocket, can you unlock, can you do the code? Yeah, that is annoying. That's like when we have going on with the Nintendo Switch, but okay. Let's get into our listeners. So you did something interesting here this week to solicit the feedback from the listeners. You posted different forms in different places to see where is the Reneep audience residing?
Yes. Now again, it probably was the peak of internet activity this week to be fair. A lot of holidays going on. But yeah, we posted in our Facebook group, which is 1400 strong, my Twitter. And then you, I'm not really, I'm on blue sky, but I don't know to use it yet. You posted on blue sky. Do you want to guess what the rankings were one, two, three in terms of submissions?
Um, I would guess the strongest is our Facebook group. Second strongest is, uh, X.com. And then third strongest is, uh, blue sky. Yeah. Pretty close blue sky was last, but Twitter actually slightly beat out Facebook, but I also think I'm like half shadow bands on, on our Facebook group for some reason. Cause it always says like very few people in the group saw my posts. Hmm. Maybe it takes a minute.
It's possible. Yeah. So what was first? Twitter actually narrowly beat our Facebook group. Yeah. Our Facebook group is great. So got it. Should we all have open enrollment for the end of the year in our Facebook group? Yeah, I mean, we have open enrollment. You join and how about the password is open enrollment today? Mm-hmm. Okay. Just open enrollment. Just write open enrollment all week. And then you're in. It's open enrollment week. Go to look for Reneep needs a Facebook group with 1,400 members.
Yeah, and if you're previously not allowed, it's because you didn't know the password. So there's still people waiting to get in, you know, unsubmit, resubmit with open enrollment. We'll let you write in. Yeah. Okay. All right. So Akiva, do you want to go like, should we be tracking like what type of life advice you want to go like a Twitter, a Facebook, and then a blue sky and see what types of like. It's such a good idea. Yes. It's such a good idea, unfortunately.
Unfortunately, I sort of mushed them all into one document to save us time. I thought it would be confusing. But how about at the end of each question, if you want, you can guess, and I could sort of find the answer. But I don't want the top I had. I don't have anything that we had the least amount of responses from blue sky.
Yeah, I think Blue Sky audience just hasn't matured yet. Maybe they don't even know what an app. Maybe they're not used to the forums. We've been doing this for six years at this point. Also, that you have not made a profile on Blue Sky, so that the true Akiva heads haven't come over yet.
And also, you don't have the level of followers yet on Blue Sky that you have on Twitter. So your retweet on Twitter does more damage than a straight blue sky or skied or whatever you call it at this point. Yeah. Is that what they call them? I don't know if that's official, if that's canon, that they call it that. OK. I don't like the names. I was on there for like 10 seconds and it's like it's got your name at Blue Sky. It's a very messy. They got to do something about that. Yeah.
Okay. One other thing is we had said we would do New Year's resolutions. Yeah. I don't really have one. I feel like I just did everything right this year. Let's just run it back. Can I tell you something, Giva? Yeah. I knew that everybody was coming here and was going to throw off my New Year's. I started getting in my New Year's resolutions from October.
Really? Yeah, I'm like, you know what? I'm just going to start like, I'm going to get my my diet back going. I like messing around. I'm messing around. You'll get a head start under the competition. If you start your new solution of a diet or healthy eating or whatever it is in October, you're already watching the girl on TikTok. And she's like, I think it was for girls. I think she was like, she was like, all right, girl, these were doing it. It's cute. It's our cue for.
I'm like, you know what, that's right. I'm not going to wait for, uh, this is our, I don't know, did she call it our two, our Q four glow up? I don't know what it was. Well, I have an idea then for us. What if we make our resolutions, but they're really for 2026? We just do them right now.
Yeah. Maybe it was a Q4 glow up. I don't know. She said, we're not waiting. We're just going to, we're going to start now. But I don't know if he's still here, but speaking of Q4 glow ups, uh, last year when we did news resolutions, Sam Moore said he didn't have a resolution and his resolution was to have a resolution for 2025. Mm hmm.
So I don't know if Sam is behind the, so I don't know if Sam wants to come on and, you know, we've been, the whole audience has been waiting 12 months to hear resolution. Yes. This is a thing that everybody, not just you has been thinking of. I do go private. I was getting so many questions about your New Year's resolution.
Well, you know, I did what I would typically do and thought of it about three minutes ago when I was alerted that, oh, you need to have resolution. Things I definitely thought of the last, you know, 360 days or so.
And I was thinking, resolutions are things you say at the beginning of the year that you will not keep and that will not actually happen. But they're just like, good ideas to be self-reflective. So in 2025, I'm going to say, I'm going to be more chill about things. I'm not. It's not going to happen. This is a lie. But like, it's a good idea.
But it's, please, it's not happening. Yeah. Rob, remind him, anytime he's not chill, remind him, he's going to have anything was to be more chill. So that's January 1st at what, 12 of 3 a.m? January is the time to chill. Very chill time. Very chilly. Rob's going to be chilled in January. Yeah. All this company. So Akiva that I believe actually, I think that the woman on TikTok was calling it her. Hey, we're going to do our winter arc.
I like how you thought it was Q4 glow up, which is such a... And that's both. I think it's both. I couldn't find the name of it. And I didn't exactly follow anything she was saying, but I thought she was making a good point of like, hey, why do we have to wait for January to start to work on ourselves?
Yeah. And I do like incorporating the business speak into other things like our Q1 podcast schedule is looking good. Yeah. Yeah. Hey, by the way, congratulations to Robin Akiva named Chester's sixth best podcast of 2024. Yeah. Top 10 for the sixth straight year. And I think it's our first time out of the top five. Yeah. How about this? But I'm like, how many other
Top 10 podcast list did we get on this year. So I'm thrilled. I'm very appreciative to our loyal 2x listener, Alexander Chester. Can I? Chester said that he went to a dinner of like a friend with friends and he casually revealed at the table that he listens to podcast on 2x and they thought he was like,
A crazy person. Yes, the normies. I really enjoyed the top 10. Check it out on 32 fans, the top 10. I think it's behind the patron. Yeah, be a patron like me of 32 fans. I will say this, Rob. How about this? Let's make this both of our New Year's resolution above all else. Get in the top five. Get back in Alex's top five. What do you have to like make like a lot of like like Chester, like centric content?
Well, let me have it in November. We'll like, start pandering towards him. We have him on a lot. Rob, like you and Chester need a podcast. Yeah. Because he did name 32 fans did make his top three. This is on that one. And this is serious, OK? Can we get a like somebody on our graphic arts? I'm not going to use AI. I was good. I could just get AI to do this, but I'm not going to. OK. A hero. People get upset. Mm-hmm. Don't do it.
Um, I would like, or I could spend an hour working in Photoshop myself. I'm not sure that's the most productive use of my time, but I would like somebody to make a banner congratulating, but I'm going to keep a need a podcast for being named one a top, top 10 podcast of the, and then in very small letters of like, uh, on Alexander Chester's a top 10 or top 10, 30 fans. We get that Sam. That would be awesome. Yeah. Alexander.
Does he have a name for the award?
I think it's just Alex's top 10 podcasts of the year. It's just really big, like top 10 podcast of the year. Yes, very small. Alexander Chester's 32 fans podcast or something like that. Can we get that Sam? Like when they have like a movie where it's like the movie of the year, like says, like the want to high school warrior. Yeah. So it should be like three lines, like Rob Nakeven, eat a podcast. Congratulations. Rob Nakeven, you need a podcast. Top 10 podcast of the year.
Yeah. Yeah. It's like, it's like, imagine if, you know, the old days where all the movies would submit their sort of like Oscar thing. Yeah. It's like not many different Oscars. And it's like cinematography and like, yeah, and like best casting or something. Does Top 10 podcast of the year, like, doesn't need like little asterisk next to it with like the fine print or. No, it's very little. No, it's no asterisk. No, it's no asterisk. No, it's in the Bible. We're on there. It's not. Alexander Chester, comma 32 fans podcast.
You've seen one of these before, right? Sam? Yes. You got a vision for it. Yeah. Okay. All right. Well, let's let Sam get back to it. All right. Let's get into the. Yeah. He said he'd be more chill and he made a shooting. Oh, yeah. Yeah. He made like a 20, 20 more. Sam didn't like that. Okay. How about every time? Can I, can I make a resolution? Every time my boss asks me to do something at work this year, I'm going to go like this, the gun to the head, shoot it off.
See how long I last. Yeah, okay. I mean, let's just leave it mysterious to the listeners at home to what gesture did Sam give us that caused this reaction? Okay. All right, Akiva, why don't we start with our life advice questions? Sure thing. Okay.
We got a lot of, I'll say, be honest, because the holiday season, I feel like a lot of our questions revolve around like family stuff, you know? Well, look, we're family men. That is true. I think that's, and they know, like we both have families, we've been at it for a while now. So, you know, people want to know. So let's start with some in-law questions. You okay with in-law questions, Rob?
All right. Yeah, I mostly use my wife corrects me and she's like our family. But if my family did something, yeah, wouldn't be our family. I'll tell you that. Yeah. No question. OK, so this is from Bobby. He says, this is a serious question. My fiance's father and brother are nicely put.
assholes. Okay. They're not helpful, not helpful with anything. They're very controlling and demanding and generally just not nice. My fiance, her sister and their mother are seemingly afraid of them and will never stand up for themselves at all. Yeah. We see them a few times a year. And yet it's the majority of the conversations in my therapy sessions. Do you have any advice of how to get them to stand up for themselves? Hmm.
He wants them to stand up for themselves. Yeah, unfortunately, Bobby, I don't think you can make another person stand up for themselves. This is a delicate situation because it's not your dad, it's not your brother. And so this is a little bit of a, I think that the one thing you can do is that if the guys are kind of being a-holes towards your fiance,
I think that that's the one area where now you can get involved where it's like, you know, pull them aside and say something about how you don't appreciate that because I think that you're, you know, you can't do anything about, you know, the, what was it, there's a sister and a mother also?
Yes, yes. His wife has a sister and a mother, is like one of everything. Frankly, it's none of your business. I think that the only way that you're involved here is how you are, and I don't know what they're doing, you know, but I think that if it's anything like my fiance now wife, I think it would be appreciated if there is like, if you are like standing up for them in this spot,
What do you think of that, Akiva? I think in a vacuum, of course, it's the right thing to do. I wish we had a little bit more information about like how they're aeholes because are they dangerous? Are they just kind of jerks? Do they like stiff a waiter for like, you know, for mediocre service? Do they like insult people to their face? But that being said, if they're just general run of the mill, like aeholes, but legitimately big aeholes like
You think you're here's one issue we should talk about. It's his fiance not his not his wife yet, right? Yeah. Now, that's in call for the wedding, but you need to have your ducks in a row about what like the game plan is for this before you guys get married. Does your is your wife going to side with her?
I think first is the conversation with the fiance. Is this, is this behavior bothering the fiance? Is it causing the fiance anxiety? If so, then I think then, you know, I think that you can have that conversation.
Yes, for sure. I just think like you need to, is she on your side? I think is an important question. Sure. Or is she on their side? Like, because if she's not on your side, it's actually a problem. You know, like it's not your family. There's you do you got to deal with it. Right. But if she's not on your side, I think you're screwed. I think this is going to be the rest of your life.
Now, it sounds like they don't live anywhere near each other. So honestly, count your blessings that they don't live near you and play defense and make sure that they don't ever live near you. But other than that, if she's defending them, then it's not a great sign. Also, maybe her eyes will become open at some point to the fact that they're terrible, and I'm not saying cut off ties with all of them, and it might be hard because it sounds like the parents are still married, right? And that the mom is a good person, the dad's not, and the sister's a good person, but the brother's not.
So it is tricky. But I'd also say, and Rob was sort of alluding to this, like, is it your problem at all? Like, if they just suck as people, but they're not like making your life worse, then just ignore them. You'll be happy. You only see them a few times a year. Think you could have like an everybody loves raining situation where you're, you know, you're seeing they're coming over unannounced every day.
So be happy. You only see them a couple of times a year. But yeah, if if they're, uh, if she's not on your side with this, it's a big problem. And like, you know, if you're talking about this in therapy, like, right. Yeah. Right. Best case, just ignore them. Who cares? Like they're bad people who seem 10 days a year. Like that's, you know, just a couple of percent of the year, 3% of the year where it kind of sucks. Another 97, you have this nice wife or whatever.
Just sit there at dinner and try to name all the Super Bowl MVPs in your head like Akiva does. That's right. Okay. All right. Yeah. Now I'm going to guess that one was from... That feels like a Facebook. I believe it was a Facebook question. People in Facebook have families. Yes, that's true. Facebook is famous. If you're on Facebook, chances are you probably have a family.
family, Twitter people, they don't even have family. Yeah. Yeah. They're chronically online and they have, you know, probably cats. They have cats. Most of them have cats, but yeah, they had parents, but like they stopped speaking to them. Okay. Okay. All right. We will follow up to that question. Yes. Link to the previous question is also from Bobby. What holiday gift would you get an in-law that you do not like? Candle.
I can't you think of candles like the universal. Yeah, I think that's kind of like I really do not care. You take this. I was thinking gift card gift card card is not I would love a gift card. Oh, you would. You think that's nice. It's like, yeah, that's nice. Because it's so presumptive to give me a gift. Right. Like, you know what I like better than you. Yeah. I think I agree. Like trust me. I'll get I'll pick out something good if you give me a gift card.
I'm kind of with you. Don't you think it's crazy? I was thinking of this yesterday. We have all these house guests coming and everybody is getting a gift. With my family, not that it's the greatest, but with my brother and sister, we're just giving Christmas presents to the kids.
Um, every single person that's coming is getting, is getting gifts. We're buying individually gift for like eight different people. And I would imagine receiving gifts from, and so people that I, that don't know anything about me are going to pick out my clothes. Like, isn't that better? I didn't know it's close. It's definitely going to be close. I'll be shocked if I don't have like, I mean, I'll, I'll have a fashion show. I'm going to come away from this with like four new shirts.
If they don't know what size I am, they don't know what, what, what I would wear. I'm out. Time out. If, I mean, if, if someone's buying you a shirt and they're, let's say related to your wife, they're not texting your wife and saying, no, that's crazy. They're just guessing. No, no, no. You cannot guess what size that's terrible. That's what people do. That's nuts.
It's like, it's one thing to give someone a shirt. They don't know what type of shirt you wear, your face for a certain type of shirt. They might probably don't even know that. I will post in the Facebook group the pictures of all the shirts that I'm going to get this week. I want to talk about the next week. Yeah. So I want to see all the presents. Mm hmm. But so what type of gifts are you getting them? Do you, did you sort of like, and do you, you're not giving, it's just one from you and Nicole, right? Or do you have to give a separate gift? I don't know. A gift from us. Okay. So she could make that decision.
She's making that decision and making them poorly. Like she was, she was buying somebody like a $55 sweatshirt. I was like, Nicole, what are you doing? Like she, she's like, that's a good price. Like, no, it's not. That's, no, that I've never paid $55 for a sweatshirt in my life. Yeah. Go to, tell her to go to, she'd probably get a discount at rob his website.com much cheaper sweatshirt. Mm hmm. Yeah.
What are we doing? That would be funny if you just got people rap merch that probably don't know the podcast. Yeah. Maybe I could do that for my mom. Maybe she might be like it, but nobody, none of them. Yeah. None of my, like nobody in Nicole's family or our family.
Uh, so anyway, Bobby, um, we're say, Rob is saying, um, a candle. I'm with him. I said gift card or maybe what about a gift card to get candles gift card to the candles? No, go to like, uh, these are the best stores, some of my favorite stores, Marshall's TJ Maxx. They've got like a million great gifts that are like $10 just pick something out. Oh, it's all blanket.
It's an ice bucket. Some kind of house wares. I like a gift that you also like, it's not so expensive, but you don't know off the top of your head, like this wasn't expensive. Like it could, it looks like I don't like it, but it could have cost money. Yeah, maybe it did. Yeah. When you get them like a huge gift that they can't, they like can't possibly take home because it won't fit in their bag. Well, I'm not coming to your neck. I mean, I don't know if it was fun. Well, same idea. Yeah. Can't fit far, but it's a little easier.
Um, all right, we got even more sort of family stuff. Yeah. This from T.C. When my mother, who lives several states away, calls my four year old, she makes suggestions for things to do. Example, are you guys going to the park today? It's very frustrating because the idea she puts in our four year old's head. She's something. Yes. Don't fit in the plans for the day. Let's say it's raining. We have other plans. We don't want to do that. How can I get her to stop suggesting things over to the phone? Hmm.
And what relative is this? Her mother. Her mother. I mean, mom, what are you doing? Yeah. You're screwing me over. Yeah, that's an easy one. If there's a mother-in-law, I see the issue. Yeah. It's like, mom, we stop, you know, like, do not ever suggest, unless you're coming to take the kid to the park, why are you making work for me? This is insane. Yeah. Ask, what did we do yesterday? Don't ask a few about questions about the future. I like it. Or what are your plans? Yeah.
Yeah. Unless it's like, are you guys going to the Taylor Swift concert tonight? And yes, like here's tickets. Then yeah, don't, don't. Yeah. Anything that's your parent is an easier problem to fix inherently than your spouses, uh, or your, or that by nature, by proxy, your family now, that's going to be harder to fix.
I agree with that, but there's also insane parents out there. Like, there's a lot of parents that, like, think about if Bobby's wife was writing in, like, she might have the same issue with her father, her brother, like, uh, you're right. It is easier to confront the parent, but some parents are uncomfortable also. Sure.
Um, it is interesting how many people want, uh, parent or relationship advice that is really, um, most of the crux of life advice. I guess that is, that is true. Um, yeah, we do have some boss stuff actually. All right. You want one about being a boss? Okay. I like this actually. Um, this from Jane.
Just over a year ago, I took on a new role at work with a newly formed cloud IT division. Almost everyone working there was new, and we were all figuring things out for the first time. Over the years since then, my manager and I would frequently joke about how our team was the only same part of a very chaotic division. People on our sister team, in quotes, were hooking up, quitting abruptly, getting and screaming fights, accusing each other of harassment, et cetera, while our team was all calm and stable.
Okay. Okay. Fast forward to now, and I've expressed to my manager that I'm interested in getting into management myself someday. Now that the most recent manager on the sister team has left in a blaze of glory after the latest scandal, I'm being offered to try managing the chaotic team for myself as a quote development opportunity. Wow. Do I accept knowing that will be stressful, high stakes and possibly doomed to failure? Or do I decline for the sanity, but at the cost of my career advancement? Wow.
Do we have a name for this person? Jane. Jane. Jane, would you consider maybe taking a different opportunity and coaching the Jets?
Yeah, sounds like chaos. I think it's the same idea, right? It's like I want to be a head football coach, okay? I'm another opportunity. The Jets. You're Ben Johnson. Yes, the Jets are offering me a job. Well, Ben Johnson might have his pick a letter. Let's say you're Aaron Glenn. Hey, old team. I mean, never get another chance again. Yeah. The sister team of the Lions, the Jets.
famously and but i know this is sort of like a disaster area where the previous boss uh it didn't go well and uh you know the the ceo is insane uh but i think there's a lot of parallel so you know for the non-sports people bring it back i do think like i i think you're a little bit i'll be honest this is this is a pickle because
I think it's probably not good to refuse the promotion. I don't think you're going to get another promotion if you refuse this, right? They're probably not going to be like, hey, let's give this young person this really great team to manage. They're like, this is the disaster team. Let's throw her to the wolves. She's a sacrifice.
So here's what I did not hear from Jane. And this is a question that only Jane can answer. Does Jane feel like that there was a formula that was the reason why her team did not go off the cliff in the way that the sister team
went in a very negative direction. Does she feel like that she is going to be able to implement whatever the secret sauce was on the winning team? Will she be able to import that style into there? And I think that Jane has to have an honest conversation. Was it, was it her? Was it
her boss that she was working for at the winning team? Or is there some sort of like tactic that can be brought over? If the answer is, no, we just got lucky. We just had a good group of people. I don't think that she should leave and go take on the other challenges.
If she does feel like that she has a strategy that was the reason why the winning team was winning, then sure, I think she should go on and then try to implement that strategy on the chaos team.
Yeah, I think it's good advice. I also think you're in an advantage here. This very specific example we gave of a NFL coach is actually a really illustrative example because there's a very finite number of those jobs, right? Just based on what you said, IT, that is a field that, you know, there's hundreds of, if you live in the US, you live in Canada, hundreds of potential jobs in your area that you could probably, you know, that are probably enough of a like for like. So it's not like this is a very narrow field and your name is going to be dirt if this doesn't work out.
So I think ultimately you should take it. That being said, understand this is like there's at least a 50% chance like this is going to be your demise of the company because you're probably not going to go from being like a failed manager, if it fails, hopefully it doesn't, to just being another, you know, like going back to your previous position or something like that. Usually like, you know, I've seen in schools where like the principal, when I was a teacher, like,
The principal gets promoted as a news. The best teacher gets promoted. He's not a good principal. They're not like, I'd go back to teaching. They're like, you know, see you later, loser. Yeah. But to go back to the NFL analogy that we see so many teams where there's a winning team, let's take the hot coordinator from the winning team and then they bring them over and it's like, Oh, uh, they were not the reason for the success. I agree. They were not able to bring that program over.
Yeah, if you think of your boss as a mentor, like maybe he can help you. And then it'll also be like your success could be his success. That's not a bad idea. The other thing I would say is, and I don't know the level of power you have for hiring and firing, but I would if I would go in under on the condition, I would say, and you'll actually look really confident for doing this. If you know, let's say there's a 15 person team or whatever, like.
You know who the problem people are. Say like, I will only take this job on condition. I can clean house and immediately start by getting rid of all the people who were issues and then you build a team in your image. I think there's, I think there's an opportunity there because the culture is probably so rotten that I'd imagine most of the people are maybe irredeemable for your company. So you might have to clean your house. I think you got a clean house. I really think if you're going to take this job, I think if there's people. And then you can just get rid of all the problem people.
i mean idea i i don't know if they'll even let her but and again this person's pretty young i think like i don't know what what level of authority she had a person that the problem is that you're gone you're gone you're gone yeah you'd like opera but for firing oh my god is robs writing this down hold on so yeah i think is it let us know by the way anybody who's writing a now because we're doing a part two if you want to give us any more updates or or information for next week will be happy to get back to it but jane
Um, yeah, I think you have to take the job, but just know like, uh, you know, it is fraught with complications. Yeah. That's a cool question. Okay. Everyone, everyone thinks it's going to be fun being in management until like, uh, you know, uh, you realize like there's someone above you who's also manager and you're really just like, you know, a middle manager, you know, doing your job to make your person above you look good. All right. Akiva. Yes.
What's next? Yeah, more. We're done more. I'm teasing planning more here. Okay, this is from anonymous. When I go to a concert with one of my friends, I always buy tickets for both of us. And she usually pays me her half. But the last concert we went to, she didn't. She only owes me 35 bucks. So it's not a huge loss. But I'm worried about how to approach future outings. Should I suggest that we buy our own tickets, especially since the tickets are always general admission? Hmm.
So she owes her thirty five up first of all should she bring up Rob should she bring up the fact that she owes her thirty five dollars or her she should bring it up.
I think that that's, that's the, that's the rule. There's other people like, ah, I'm going to let it go. Uh, I think you can say like, when the next concert comes up like, Hey, can you get the tickets? Cause you sold me $35 from the last one. I think that if you get into like, I'll buy my ticket and you buy your ticket. I think we're headed towards a situation where, Oh, I bought my ticket. You didn't buy your ticket yet. And somebody gets stuck holding the bag of like, Oh, I bought a ticket and now it's sold out. I didn't get there. So.
I think we need to keep continuing to buy the tickets together where if one person has cold feet, then it's very hard. You both have to turn your key at the same time. I think either bring up the issue or ask them to buy the next tickets.
Yeah, I, so I remember in high school when like with my closest friends, like we would do something where like one of us would get one time, one of us would get another time. And I feel like it actually enhances the friendship. It makes you feel close. Not everyone could do that. Obviously some people, money's tight or whatever. But like, you know, it's like, yeah, trust. I think like, I'm sure you could attest to all these years of like playing in like fantasy football leagues where everybody has to put like a, you know, a hundred dollars or whatever into this, you know, trust.
for like, you know, if there's a guy who's like not putting money in the thing, like that guy isn't, you know, being part of the 10 year fantasy football league.
Exactly. Yeah, of course. And by the way, I forget if I've said it on this podcast that we had a person in a fantasy baseball league, like that's like 2012ish, not pay was $50. They didn't pay. They like were ignoring me that we had a mutual. It was like a friend of a friend of a friend. But my friend said it was like 2012 when like a lot of people were losing their jobs. Remember, it was like he's going on hard financial times. I'm like, OK, and I emailed him once or twice in the next year. He never responded.
And then the, like, forgot about it. Like 11 years later, my mutual friend brought him up briefly and I'm like, does that guy have a job now? He's like, yeah, that was 11 years ago. He's doing what? So I emailed him immediately and I'm like, hey, this sounds insane. I replied to like the initial threat. I'm like, you still owe me 50 bucks from 2012. I know it's 2023 now. Yeah. Uh, can you, uh, like,
No, I didn't charge interest. But I said, like, I think it'll be good for your conscious, whatever. Like, I do think it's still stealing. You would drop that a little bit good for your conscience? Yeah, for sure. And he sent it right away. He's like, what's your Venmo? What's your name? And he sent it. And then I, like, messaged, I called up my buddy who won the league.
And I was like, hey, great news. Check your PayPal or whatever. I just sent you 50 bucks. And I told him the story. And it was great. He thought it was hilarious. He certainly did not remember it. I would still remember it. I remember all these things. I would remember if someone owed me 50 bucks or 12 years, but he didn't remember it. He got 50 free bucks. It was worth less now than it would have been in 2012. Then it was like, take your right foot to dinner. Now it's like, take yourself out to lunch.
Yeah. But, you know, but it was cool. And I could still name every single person who owes me money from one of these pools. Wow. And how they owe me money and why? Should I go on the wheel? Robin Akiva are bounty hunters. We hunt down the people. Yeah. How many people? You go through the list of all the people that owe you money from fantasy football leagues. And then we see how many we could get to pony up. One of them is like dangerous. I think we shouldn't do. Oh.
No, one of them, but one of them went to jail for seven years for a Ponzi scheme. And I feel like he has seven figure creditors in my 50 bucks for our fantasy football league. I don't think we're going to see any time soon. Yeah. But I guess he like did pay his penance. Like I feel like the seven years in jail part, I'm sure the judge at least tacked on an extra day for not paying for fantasy football.
Imagine if I went to the pile and like, it was like, he didn't pay our league dues since you brought up conscience. Okay. Yeah. All right. Yeah. So you commit a, you commit a crime. Okay. Now you have a guilty conscience. Okay. Yeah. You get, you go to jail for 10 years. Yes. You come out of the jail. Conscience healed is that, is, is your conscience that guilty conscience is it now, is that now at ease after serving your
state mandated sentence yeah i mean i think in theory should apologize let's say robbed uh... i don't know if you could apologize let's say you're at the bank i don't know if you apologize to bank but if you yeah i think like maybe apologize if you're allowed to contact the person or ever uh... but i think yeah i think you're i think like you there's if you can be forgiven or you can forgive yourself for doing something bad now what is it what if you like
Um, you know, let's say you were a thief and you stole from 30 people and finally got caught. And so really you only got penalized for one or two crimes when in reality, you know, you know, you know, you did 30. That's a little trickier, right? You weren't actually, uh, you know, penalized for the first 28. Uh, it's a good question, honestly. I don't know. All right.
But I also think just final advice for that person. I think you should let it go because I think you could harm your friendship because I think there's no good response. If you're like, Hey, you owe me 35 bucks. They're going to be like, yeah, I know I was going to get tickets. Yeah. It's like if, yeah, next that you could do that. Like next time that she brings it up, say like, Hey, I got last time if you want to do this time. Um, I might not even remember. Honestly, some people are forgetful. I'll remember every nickel. Um, but like, it could be misunderstanding. It could be misunderstanding. Okay. All right.
Akiva, what platform was that question from? That feels like a Twitter question. You think it's a Twitter question? Yeah. Well, it came in late, so I'm not even sure. So, Vam, for 10 seconds, why?
And of course, you can find the links to send in more questions that I tweeted out the blue sky link. I think that Akiva tweeted out the Twitter link. And of course, in our Facebook group, open enrollment week continues into 2025. That was a Facebook question. Oh, okay.
Uh, yes. We got a lot of questions about meeting people. Matt says, what's the best way to go about meeting women for dates? Oh, and somebody else asked a question that entertained me anonymous. We'll call him a anonymous Steve. What's the best way to ask out the cute barista at the cafe you go to in person or online?
Now, I'm not sure why anybody thought that Rob or Akiva were the right people to ask you a question. Honestly, I don't even know where you meet people of romantic interest. I feel like from when I was in the game, you would go to bars and stuff. I don't even know if people go to bars anymore.
I think people could have bars. I've heard anything like mass bar closing. I feel like just from my own lived experience, okay? I used to spend a lot of time at Mulcahis in Wontau. Sure. And then a couple of times in the last few years, I've gone to Mulcahis on Friday, Saturday night, the place is dead. There's nobody in there.
interesting. Now, it was cool 20 years ago. And now it's dead. And when I was like, you know, early 20 something, I would go to a lot of bars, but I don't feel like that a lot of 20 like, I feel like there's less 20 some things out at said bars. And it's probably healthier for them that they're probably not like binge drinking as much as I was. But good news, honestly. Yeah. Are they like, you know,
You know, on devices somewhere by themselves. Yeah, I just, I would have assumed that drinking has like not really. I think drinking is down. He's drinking down. Is there anybody? We got a lot of youth listening.
Or bars? Some of our younger listeners let us know for part two. Let's see. Our young people drinking less. Put it on the set. I think they are. Yes, there's evidence to support that young people are drinking less alcohol. According to a Gallup poll in 2023, the percentage of adults age 18 to 34 reported drinking alcohol in the past week has declined 72% in 2002 to 62% in 2023. This trend is particularly pronounced among
Gen Z with only 54% of Gen Z adults reporting alcohol consumption. Okay, interesting. So maybe, I mean, I haven't heard like a mass bar shut down, but maybe bars are going through it. Gen Z, they drink less. Interesting. Yeah. So, hmm.
So yeah, so there's still a concern. You know, I think people still do binge drink, but I just don't think people go to a lot of bars. So I think you got to be on the apps. I think, yeah, I think people meet each other. Oh, but the barista, the barista question is very specific, Rob, because I think we need it. I think we need a woman for this or something. Okay. Well, let's just brainstorm ideas. Okay. Yeah. Cuberista at the things. Okay. What it? Okay. You get like a $20 bill.
and you get like a Sharpie and you write your name on it. Or you know your phone number, your phone number on it. It's like, hey, I left you. I wanna like, here's my number and it's on, you wrote it on a $20 bill. Yeah. I was thinking, you're making me a little like, I was thinking, can it be a five? No, 20. Wow. Cause I feel like it's going to take it out of the thing.
Oh, you, can you hand the turd directly? No, you put it like a, like a make a work for it. You know, like, uh, go and fish through the, all the singles to get out of the 20. Hey, babe, there's more where that came from. To let her know. You're like flush with the cash. Yeah. Um, I don't know. I think they're just like, um, do you have a rapport with this person? I feel like there's a lot that we don't know.
Yeah, I just think like the average person doesn't really want to be hit on in their place of work. So if they're like flirting with you, then maybe it's okay. But if, if you're just like, I think she's pretty like probably a lot of other people think the same thing. She's serving, you know, 200 customers a day. I bet a lot of them think she's hot and they don't know. Of course, you, what if you hear somebody out and just take a no and move on to the other way? Okay. You order your drink and like, Hey, can I get this one for free?
See what her reaction is to that. Oh, I like that. You're testing things. Like, what does this do? What does this do? And then see if she's like, like, like, get out of here. You jerk. Like, it's like, all right, she doesn't like you. I'm just messing with you. I'm joking. I don't know if she wants that, but how about that would work. That's good. That's gold.
What if you make her your name in the in Starbucks like Kate will you date me or something like that as your name? And then she has to call Kate. Will you date me? Hmm. I think that that's creepy. I don't think she's gonna like that. Yeah. But speaking of creepy, his other option was online. Now, do you have enough of a relationship with this person that you like you have? Don't tell me you just like found her on Facebook or because she's my, my, I suggest that or the listener.
No, the listener said, do I approach her in person or online? Now, are you like, do you know each other in Instagram? Like, what does this mean? Unless you've like exchanged some sort of like account information. If you've just now found her online, okay, that's red flag. Huge red flag. That's, you know, that's like a bull should run through it. I think like the
You're going to get banned from the coffee shop. It is true. You don't want to get banned from the coffee shop. That would be a bad thing. So I think unless you have at least 1% of a reason to ask the person out, you shouldn't. She's given you some indication that she's interested. I do like Rob's $20 idea. Worst case, a funny story. Like, hey, I blew a 20. You're giving a tip to a service worker during the holidays. Do something different.
Yeah, it is true. You have to stand out. And if she says no, just find a different place to get coffee forever. Yeah, you can never go back. But yeah. OK. Yes. And you're going to have to go someplace else if it doesn't work out anyway. It's true. What if you date for like three? What if you get married, have children, divorce? You can't go back there. She'll poison your coffee. Give you decaf. Yeah. OK. All right. Give me a give me a fun fake name for a woman.
How about, now I have to think of, I can't use people that I know from the world. How about Pearl? Pearl, great name, okay. This is from Pearl Rob, and she says, hi Robin Akiva, I'm a never married single 43-year-old woman who has been in a flirtatious relationship with a never married single 31-year-old man at work. You're friends outside of work. We go out to eat, get coffee,
And text, it's never progressed beyond flirting. Is it a bad idea to poop where you eat as they say? Also, if he is interested in me, would he have made a move by now?
Um, they work together. Pearl in this person. Now they are coworkers coworkers. Um, here's where it gets a little. Okay. Um, are they equal in, uh, on the work. Food chain. It doesn't say it's a good question to say, because you can let us know next week that this is like dicey territory here. If Pearl is, uh, this guy's supervisor, manager,
This is where it gets a little sticky. Yes. That being said, if they're not, what if they're not? Where's their not?
I think it's a home run, right? It's an obvious, you're 43, you're interested in dating, so you should go for it. If there's a younger man who's interested in you, not that it matters to a younger older, but as a younger guy, you're interested in him. It's not like, hey, we text and complain about our boss together. We go out to coffee and other stuff. Now it's possible, neither of you are super experienced, because you're saying you've never been married, you're single, maybe he doesn't have a lot of game.
Maybe he's too nervous. Same idea as you. Yeah, I very little to lose unless this is your dream job and you're and there's a reason why you think you lose it by asking out a coworker who already goes out of outside of work. So they clearly. So like, what's worst case? They say no, like.
They're going to call HR. I can imagine it's going to have to. Worst case, they're going to be like, actually, I'm not super interested or I don't date at work, like totally reasonable answer. Never bring it up again. They won't care. Oh, no, a hot girl asked me. I don't care. It's like they won't, they'll, they'll, they'll, if anything, they'll tell people to brag. Situations like this are exactly why alcohol was invented. Just go. You have a couple of drinks and then you, and then like somebody, somebody says something and then
If it like goes an awkward direction, just never talk to this person ever again. Yeah. I'll say this. In fact, we're doing part two next week. I insist unless there is an HR issue, meaning you are there. They're boss. They are your boss. You must ask them out this week and then let us know how it goes. Ask them out. Wow. You have to. They're not going to, you like the person's not going to do it. Say, Hey, what, what do you like? You mean because they already go out?
So what, can you read Pearl's message again? Do they hang out outside of work? Yeah. We, we're friends outside of work. We go out to eat, get coffee and text. Okay. Now in theory, that could be with a group, but I don't think the texting is necessarily. So I think it's the, she, it's very clear. Her issue is, it appears to be, I don't think he likes me. It's, I think it's nerve wracking to data work. Again, unless this is the only job in your industry, go for it. This is like, uh, you know, yeah, let us know.
Everybody, you know.
We're all going to, you know, we don't have unlimited time. A hundred percent. A hundred percent. And, and like you'll regret it. If you don't do it, this guy put it this way. If this guy, if you don't do it in three months or now, he's, he's like, Hey, I got to leave early from work. My girlfriend and I are going to the Bahamas. Yeah. You'll beat jealous as hell. Right? Yeah. I bet you will. 2025 is the year of YOLO. Okay. Yes. Yes. Yeah. Give it 20 dollar builder, barista. Go for it. Mm hmm. Yeah.
Let's see what happens. I'm having fun, Rob. You enjoying this? Yeah, let's keep going. Okay. All right. We're giving good advice. Yeah, yeah. We're doing great advice in the list. I came through. They got some interesting questions, honestly. Okay. All right. What's next, Akiva? Okay. This is from Give Me a Fun Guy's Name.
Jimmy. Jimmy. My daughter's first birthday is coming up next month. And my wife is stressing out about potentially throwing a party. What would you two recommend for recognizing celebrating a child's first birthday? In what way? Like, you know, it is. You want to invite their friends? Yeah. Is Jimmy. Yeah. Is this his baby number one?
Has to be. Has to be. If this was like baby number three, it would be like, we forgot our baby birthday. Yeah. Only baby number one gets a big first birthday. Of course. No question. I mean, look, do whatever you're comfortable with, but nobody's going to be like what we didn't get invited to the first birthday. You know, try to keep it just immediate family if you can.
I think the first birthday party is for you. The child won't remember it. Yeah, was he gonna see a picture on Instagram for years from now? Don't spend a lot of money. I'm like, listen, if the grandparents really want it, it'll make somebody happy. Don't fight it, but it's really silly. The kid doesn't have any friends yet, right? At least the two, you might have a best friend in from Playgroup or nursery or whatever.
don't like don't call out for the first birthday again like you're throwing yourself a party kid can barely even eat cake at one you know Nicole and I did have like a rather big first birthday party for Dominic but we hadn't really done any sort of like
party, usually they have a christening or something like that where you have a little bit more of a get together. We didn't really do that. And so we had a bigger first birthday party for Dominic, but it was nice, but nobody's going to miss it if you don't do it. And you didn't do it again for Anthony or something. No, we had a much smaller get together for Anthony's first birthday. But I think that should be instructive. They did it, and they realized that it was probably a mistake.
Yeah. So whatever you're comfortable with, nobody don't get peer pressured into the one year old birthday party. Yeah, I would agree. I think I wouldn't I would not make this a fight with your with your wife if she is really into it. But you know, if it's up to you, then don't do it. Okay.
All right, so it's New Year's coming up. We got a New Year's question for you from Mike. What are your thoughts on declining all New Year's party invites to stay home and bring in the New Year alone with my dog? The thought of traveling home from Manhattan to Long Island after midnight does not appeal to me. Even the last year, I didn't have to deal with the stereotypical NYC crowd traveling through Grand Central Station instead of Penn. Yeah. Oh.
I have COVID. That's it. Yeah. I have COVID gets you out of stuff still. You know, that's the biggest silver lining from COVID. Yeah. I was a good grandma's dying. I was. Yeah. Look, we lost a lot. It's true. But that forever.
You know, like, so I'm sure somebody in like March 2020 made some sort of like, you know, Faustian bargain is that not Fauci. Yeah. But sometimes you got it. You nailed it. Yeah. What if if I told you you would have a built-in excuse for anything in the winter months you ever never wanted to do again? Would you take it? Yeah. And at what cost is really the question. Yeah.
Yeah. It's a good question. Either I'm coming and then tomorrow, like, oh, I have COVID or is it? So yeah, I'm not feeling it this year. Oh, yeah. I think it's the most over anything in the world. I mean, I'm lame. It's amateur hour. Yeah, I'm with you. OK, so.
Don't go. Mike, stay home. Have fun. One of your favorite podcasts, them two X. You have your time. Right? Yeah. Okay. Kate has a question for us. I'm moving in with my boyfriend. Do you have any advice?
Well, it would love to know some more information here, Kate. So it's his place that he already has, or you get the sense that Kate and Bf are getting a new place together.
Well, it's definitely not her place or else she'd say, my boyfriend is moving in with me, right? So I'm going to say, getting a new place together, it's his place here. She says moving in with my boyfriend. I'm going to guess it's his place. Okay. So I think that that's probably a little bit trickier to navigate than a situation where you are getting a new place together. He is going to already have his things. I would say that my best advice for Kate to keep some harmony is that do the things,
that you need to do to make yourself feel at home, but also try to be a little respectful to the things that he already has and likes and don't completely come in and feel the need to.
make your mark on the place. Have some good communication between the two of you of what are the things he's willing to change and what are the things that are going to be upsetting for you to come in and completely overhaul.
Yeah, I like it. I also think like the, I don't know how old you are, but the longer people are single, the more they have like established patterns of just like, you know, like whether it's like, you know, schedules or quirks and eccentricities from like living alone for a long time. And also I think it's important for people to understand that you grow up probably in one house with one family, right? And so everything that you grew up with, you think is normal. And then maybe you went to college and people are like, what do you guys do that? Nobody does that.
And maybe like your roommates, your friends talked you out of a few things, but for the most part, what you think is normal is what you grow up. And unless you grow up in like a horrible scenario and you sort of like, hey, everything grew up with us was wrong. So most people grow up thinking that if your mom is an awful cook, you probably don't know that. And like, it's just because that's what you grew up with. That's like your definition of taste. And you might never not know until your friend comes over, you get married and your husband's like, hey, so.
You know, I would say like be understanding a you probably have quirks that'll be annoying to him be understanding with like whatever his quirks are and And talk about it like you know, don't don't talk about it day one don't make it awkward But after you know things get settled after a month or two You know, yeah
And also, yeah, have your own space. Try and figure out, I know if you live in, especially if you live in the city, you might not really have any space, but, you know, try and have like your own sort of like area that you can make yours that he can't get in, you know, that he can't like mess up and vice versa. Yeah. Have a little bit of a rocky start with living with my now wonderful wife,
because how long had you been together? So we had started dating in 2003, and then she moved in with me after staying at my place a bunch of times, not to brag. But we moved in together, I think it was like February of 2006.
So we had been dating for almost three years at the time that we moved in together. But I had gone to college, I had had various roommates over the course of my 26 years at that time. My wife had never lived with anybody else except for her family. And there was an adjustment period. She did not know how to live with other people besides her family.
I think that's common though. I think it's like you're, you know, you're you stay your own thing. That's what it sounds like. And I've seen the world. You know, I know how to like have a roommate that's like, you know, that and like get along with people. My wife has come from just like this like, you know, feral growing up like in this house where everybody's crazy.
Yeah, but she probably, if I had her here, she'd probably have things to say about living with you. Probably, but they would be wrong, right? Just like making a big deal over very minor things. I'm a very agreeable person to live with. Yeah, no, for sure. And respectful. Yeah, yeah, no question. And very normal. I didn't say that. No, I'm saying it's on them. If somebody else has a problem, it's probably on them.
Uh, so cake, good luck. Let us know how that goes. Um, Ryan has a question. Should I finally give into the Costco guys hype? Yeah. Let's do it. Are you in on the Costco guys? Of course. Yeah. Love the Costco guy. We're podcast guys. Of course we're going to like the podcast. Go guys, right?
Did you know, speaking of Hanukkah, which we weren't, but it is, do you know that they're Jewish? No, what? The mom and the son are Jewish. What do you mean the mom and the son are Jewish? I mean, I don't think he's Jewish. I think he's like Italian, but like the mom is Jewish. Big justice is Jewish. Big justice is Jewish. The ruler is Jewish.
The Risler is not in their family. What? The Risler is not their kid. No, it's their like friend that they adopted. They adopted the Risler. The Risler is their body. Everyone has a moment. Where do you come from? Where's the Risler's parents? The Risler, they like they teamed up. The Risler's parents are not involved in the social media stuff, I don't think.
What? Yeah, the Risler is just like their third. He's their buddy. He's like their Steve Arkel. He's like their next door neighbor. He took over. Yeah, the the Risler is, you know, the dad is AJ, right? AJ, that is a justice. Even though you think the dad should be big justice, he's a wrestler. He's big. It's kind of confusing. Yeah. But yes, that is AJ, the son. Okay. So then when, where'd they get the Risler from? They found the Risler. I think he's like a family friend or a neighbor or something. Mm hmm.
Now I wish the Rizzler is Jewish. She's definitely not. So but no way. But we take the Rizzler anything. Yeah. Now, what's their heritage? Are they Italian?
I mean, yeah, they're Italian, but the mom is sure like they post like Hanukkah stuff every day. Okay, so that they so I saw her last name. I went to her like Facebook page to investigate. She's very yeah, so she's she's Jewish the kids are the kids are Jewish kids are Jewish. Hmm. I don't think the dad is but but you know like you know they they
The question was, should he give into the hype? Yeah, like, do you like double-chunk chocolate chip cookies from Costco? Now, are the double-chunk chocolate chip cookies kosher? It's a good question. I don't think so. What about the chicken bake? Definitely not. Chicken bake, definitely not. Definitely not? Is there like bacon in there or something? I don't know. Is there chicken? Is there bacon in the chicken bake? Oh, the Costco chicken, the chicken bake, I do not believe is kosher. The double-chunk chocolate chip cookies could be kosher for all I know. I don't know. Is Costco double-chunk in your Costco?
chocolate cookie kosher. What if it is? I'll go to Costco. Let's do it. How many booms? Oh, let's see. Hmm. If it does. There's a lot of kosher stuff at Costco, but I don't, I don't know if like an open baked good would be kosher. They're probably making the same often as like the bacon. Hmm. All right. Well, look,
We're podcast guys. Of course, we're going to like the Costco guys. That's right. Okay. We'll bring the boom. Yeah. Do a deep dive this week and let us know what you think about the Costco guys.
By the way, this is funny. We got a question. I didn't even see this from Ryan that says I'm moving in with my girlfriend. What advice do you have? Do you think Ryan is dating Kate? Maybe imagine if you give different advice to to like a guy moving to my advice to Ryan. Yes. My advice to Ryan is sort of like the.
The corollary that let Kate have, these are the things that she can make into her own. And what are the things that are the non-starters for you that, hey, this is really important to me. This is where I like the coffee maker. Please don't move it. I like having this here and making sure that she does feel like she's home.
Yeah, that's a good if you're the person they're moving into. I agree. It's on. It's incumbent on you to really give her the good closet space. Like make her. 100% 100%
Yeah. We have like a big walking closet in our room. My wife obviously has it, but I thought, all right, she got the walking closet. I'd have a lot of the other space, but I also don't. But listen, I survive. I did my big project that I wanted to take care of this week was to reorganize my closet.
I feel really good. I've done it a couple of times in the last year. I also like, I move out my- People are times in a year. I'll tell you why because I have like really tall closets and I want access like in the morning so it doesn't take a long time. So I move my winter and summer stuff like things get relegated to like a worse spot.
So I have to move, I do a lot of like, there's two or three seasons where, because in the summer, I wear shorts and then I literally never touch those shorts again. And I put them away for, you know, like right now. And I let's say won't put on a pair of jeans in June, July, August, September. So where are my jeans get by you?
doesn't get that cold. I mean, at night, maybe it is, but, but the, you know, it gets really hot when it gets hot. But also at night, I'll walk around sometimes and sweat. So maybe maybe it doesn't get cold. I don't know. All right. No, outside doesn't get cold, but like your house at night, it's like, it's the house or stone so the houses can get very cold. All right.
Um, okay. This is another speaking of living situations. This is a tough one. Well, give me a fun woman's name here. Um, fun woman's name. Uh, we find if you've guessed the person's name, and I can't see no, that's probably not that fun is from Ethel. I currently rent a basement room for my landlord, Ethel says. Okay. The landlord is roughly 60 and friends with my parents. Okay. I'm a 27 year old woman.
The youngest world's youngest, Ethel. And she is a very nice lady, but the problem is she lives with her son, who is a 26 year old man. And if you're thinking, sweet, they're going to get married. No.
He's unemployed and likes to party. Every time his mom goes out of town, again, this guy's 26, which seemed to be multiple times per month. He has allowed male friends come over to drink and smoke weed. He's often partying and being loud right above where I sleep until six or seven a.m. I work at seven in the morning, so sleep is important to me. I tell my landlord when he's loud, but it's awkward because it's his, her son and she says she'll talk to him, but then nothing ever changes. What should I do?
I think we got to move. I think you made it. Sorry, sorry, Ethel. You said something. She didn't do anything. She's got to lose a tenant. I think that one is like, hey, I'm going to leave. Maybe you start there. I can't take this anymore. It needs to stop. And then I think you also need to be looking for another place.
What more can you do? Yeah, listen, even if the mom is well-intentioned, she clearly has no control over her 26-year-old loser son, right? Maybe, and not to get the parents involved, but maybe if this is like a friend of the parents, like maybe... She said it is. Yeah, maybe coming from like if that her parents like talk to the woman who's a family friend, maybe that that might, hearing it from a different source might change anything, but I think you gotta move.
Yeah, I think there's no, yes, I don't think it's a terrible like Hail Mary last option to have your parents say like, hey, Ethel's moving out because like even before you say anything, I think Ethel wants to move out. And then maybe, but I just think her son is a loser who's not going to be able to fix his behavior. This is what he does. He's unemployed and he has loud friends over until six or seven AM and you live under them. She ultimately is the landlord. She might not even care. Like maybe she loves her son and doesn't realize she's a loser. That happens sometimes or she has no control over him. Yeah.
You're there's almost no way out of the way unless this is like the most unbelievable Apartment yeah, she didn't say that she definitely did not say that so there's no real like I want to move but what you'd expect so yeah, you got to go Sorry, I thought yeah, and maybe she wants the Sun like that in the in the downstairs Yeah, maybe that's a long long con she wants to listen that look I don't want him up here in my house smoking weed Yeah, that's not a bad point
I like this question. This from David because he went to the right guys here. Yeah. He says, as a tall person, I always look comical, getting out of a car, like a freakish insect emerging from an ill-fitting egg. Can you give me some advice? Hmm. I never really thought about the problems of the super tall. Yeah. I don't even really empathize with that. Well, what kind of car is he getting out of? Is he taking like Uber's places? Like, is he in the backseat of a lot of vehicles? Is it his own car?
I think, I think like just be happier, tall and shut up, honestly. Like, think about how the world is favored towards like the very tall. Well, I maybe not the very, I think you'd like to be tall, but this. You know, you wenby, is this wenby a point of diminishing returns? How, like, wenby seven, five. That's a tall sky. I know. Seven, five. Yeah. You drop forty two on Christmas. Yeah.
I know you're like a little out on the NBA, it'll bring you back in. I've got you could dribble and shoot 30 foot threes. It's crazy.
I mean, I never know when it's on. The, you know, like, I feel like, okay, hey, it's Sunday. There's NFL like, or it's like, there's an, like, yeah, I never know. Like, if I want to follow one team, I never know what they watch when it's on. What do you get your schedule like in your Google calendar? If you're like a Knicks fan, get there. Cause the Knicks could, Knicks could win the championship. The Knicks are good. Yeah. Um, you know, if I want to commit to having like every Knicks game on my Google calendar,
Fair. That's fair. So maybe wait until like crunch time, you know, like March playoff season and then do that. Yeah. Maybe there's a better way to get like a new friend out the schedule. That's not a bad idea. Have it up there. Oh, there's an X game on. Like I'll check out the fourth quarter. So there's also like you're right now, but then after football season, they do have like Thursday nights on TNT. There's two good games. So there is a and it's fun just to watch even if the games are bad for Charles Barkley and company. Okay.
Rob Kate has a quite, there's like seven Ks who wrote it. Kate has a question. I think we, Kate is our most popular listener name. How do you make spaghetti? How do you make spaghetti? It's what Kate wants to know. Kate, get a pot, put water in it. Yeah. Put some salt in the water. Okay. Boil the water. Mm hmm. Take the spaghetti. Okay. Put it in said boiling water.
wait like five to eight minutes, stick a fork in it, pull it out and see if it's like, you know, like what spaghetti is supposed to be. Maybe you taste one, see if it's how you like it. When it gets to that point, get a strainer, pour the spaghetti into the strainer so the water goes out and then serve as desired.
There you go. You got a famous Italian chef, Rob Sistrenino, telling you how to make spaghetti. I mean, you even know how to make spaghetti. I have made spaghetti several times in my life, yes. But I wouldn't say I know how. I could follow a recipe. Yeah. I really don't cook. Like I know.
whenever I say this, people write in like, he was like a baby and a man child, but like, listen, I don't know what to cook. What do you want from me? I got lots of other skills. I don't know what those skills are yet, but I have lots of other skills, just not cooking. Yeah. And yeah, you're not a person who has like a, you know, you're not a utility man.
I got a couple of things I'm good at and I stick to those, the meat and potatoes of life. You're a specialist. You're a specialist. I work and I do a couple of other jobs and I'm helpful with the kids. Really, around the house, I can do a few things. I can wash a dish, even though we have dishwashers and throw out a garbage, even though now I got kids old enough I can make them do that.
You know, if you're looking for someone with a lot of skills, like go date Liam Neeson. I don't cook Evie. Liam Neeson, because he has a certain... You've got a special set of skills, yeah. But that's like you. You two have a unique set of skills. Yeah, they're just not as unique, maybe, unless that. Yeah. Heidi says, I've recently become addicted to the Seinfeld Posture Recap podcast. Wow. I've missed some ignoring new shows that I watch. I love that. In favor of listening to eight-year-old podcasts about a 30-year-old TV show, please help.
Yeah. No, I, we won't help you. Tell your friends. That's right. Yeah. Yeah. Imagine if that show got popular now, they'd be incredible. Yeah. That'd be pretty, it'd be like suits, like blowing up of like people just like the new hottest podcast is actually from 2014. Now I would like it. If something happens to me, God forbid, they blow up the Seinfeld podcast after my demise. Why?
I'm saying like, no, like make it popular. I think it's all up in a good way. Yeah. Imagine Renav got really big. And people are like, wow, I didn't know this was like the six best podcast. Well, I think that both of those podcasts, I think that what's interesting is that it is a journey that unlike, you know, some of the other, like nobody's like, oh, I'm listening to like the old, you know, survivor podcasts, like that these podcasts will definitely do that story. Yeah. Yeah.
Yeah, for sure. We tell a story. Sam Moore just wrote in the chat here and said, the resource real name is Christian Joseph. So I'm not feeling great about his chance of being Jewish. Well, Joseph was a joke, but yeah, Christian. So I believe he was. We don't have to get into that. All right. How many more we got? How many more cake questions? Are there any more cakes? Well, just any woman that wrote in, I'm just going to call Kate. How about that? OK. OK.
Here we go. This is from a guy, though. We'll call him Richard. I work at a job that pays for my housing, but it's an apartment on a college campus. So I assume this person works for a college. The job pays decently, and I'm genuinely happy with it. However, I'm getting to my mid 30s, and I feel like I should own a home by now, like most of my peers. With my job being with it is, and with the atrocious housing market, my motivation is severely lacking. I'm not sure if it's your motivation, but we'll keep going here.
How long until I give into the pressure of society and finally buy a house? For context, I'm a single-ish fella with no desire for kids. I'd like to see the person he's single-ish for read that and say, oh, really, we're single-ish, huh? So they have a pretty solid housing situation on a college campus, and he wants to know, should he make the next step? He's in his mid-30s, he's single, wants to buy a house potentially.
I feel like, unless it's important to you to have a house, like don't buy a house because society wants you to have a house. If you've got a good living situation, you know, press that advantage, keep it going. Save, you know, save your money, you know, make investments, you know, at the point that you want to have a house. I mean, you could always rent a house. I mean, like having a mortgage is something that is exciting to you. If it's not, like then,
You know, if you don't see yourself living in one spot, especially if you don't have a family or like kids and stability and stuff like that, then I don't think that you should do anything different.
Yeah, I'm with you. I think your reasons is like, first of all, do you have the money? If you have the money to buy a house, I think you should, because the housing market is not like, it's not going to be like, hey, we're going back to 1980 prices now. That will, the houses will always go up, you know? Not always. I mean, you could have like like 2007, like where, you know, the housing market could crack. I don't know if it would happen. Sure. But maybe his finances would crash then. Like if you could afford to buy a house, I think
You should buy interest rates are, uh, you know, still high right now. Like this is still not optimal time to. So maybe there's have to buy today, but I think like the issue is your reasoning is stupid. My friends all own houses. First of all, congratulations. Cause a lot of people in the mid thirties don't even have friends. That's true. Don't have friends or friends with don't own houses. Um, yeah. So congratulations on the friends and on the returns, but I think, uh, I think you should be in general, much less worried with what society is doing and
Word about what's your own. If you have a good situation, great. Keep saving and then buy even a better house than you could afford now. You have the money on the side. And if there's like comes up a situation where it's like, oh, I would love to like get that house, you know, and then you can make a move on, you know, in the future, but don't do it just because other people are doing it. That's the worst reason to buy a house.
agree. It's hard. Yeah. It is hard. Yeah. Right now, something breaks. You call someone. Isn't that nice that here, you know, you own a house, something breaks. It's on you. Mm hmm. Yeah.
Similar situation from an anonymous woman. I'm a 24 year old woman and all my friends are in relationships. I didn't anticipate at this stage in life everyone would be moving with their partners while I'm the trenches of dating absence. Seriously, I can't even like someone enough for a second date. They're all getting so serious and we're only 24 in all caps with three exclamation points. How am I supposed to not feel left behind behind the curve when it comes to finding someone?
First of all, everyone is in serious relationship at 24. Like, did you grow up with me? You know? This is the same as the last question of like, hey, don't feel like you have to be in a relationship because other people are being in a relationship or buying a house. They'll be in their serious relationships and some of them will work and some of them won't. And who do they come into when the relationships don't work? You. That's true. You're the one friend. You're the one. They're going to fix you up. They're going to set you up with a million people now.
Mm-hmm. Yeah, you're 24. You're biological. You're the coveted free agent. It's true. If they want to hang out with somebody It's you. They're not going to the person who's like, I never she's always with her boyfriend. He never comes out. Yeah You're 24. Don't worry about what other people are doing. Again. All right. Let me ask you a serious question. Do you have any divorced friends?
I have more single friends who never got married than divorce friends. I have a couple of more friends who got remarried. Divorced friends. I have some friends from college. One of my friends got divorced. Then he's gone now. He's back out. He's back out on the scene and he's gone, boy, this guy's gone. Stories. Divorced guys. Where are my divorced guys?
Yes, this woman, you probably are the one who has good stories, although maybe not so good because you're never getting a second date, you said. Yeah. It's the worst guys. Like, hit me up. Like, uh, let's, let's talk. We put a crew of divorce guys together. I'll tell you the, can I tell you the problem with divorce guys? Why?
Sad wives don't know the wives hate the divorce. I hate them. It's not a stereotype. They hate your wife's like never bring. I've had never bring this guy. I don't let him put these ideas in your head. He's a bad person. He's going to accept like you see how fun divorce is. We should all get let's just all get the divorce that live together. You know.
I shouldn't yell that with my mother in the house, but yeah So yeah, I that's it's not just a stereotype. You're right. We need more divorced friends Let's build a crew this year of divorced friends. Mm-hmm. That could be one of our resolutions Yeah, maybe can we get like a mission happy podcast Rob gonna keep a hang out with divorce guys divorce guys. I'd like to hear some stories, you know, mm-hmm
And not just guys. What about the divorce gals, too? Yeah, for sure. Yeah, for sure. Yeah. We want to hear divorce stories. Hopefully neither of us will ever get divorced, but we want the wild friends. Yeah. And anyway, anonymous lady, don't worry about your friends getting married to 24. Oh, you'll get to be in a bunch of weddings. So my friend from college that's divorced. Yeah. The word is his girlfriend is 30.
Oh, wow. Is that the word? That's what the word is. Yeah, that's pretty good. Why do they need it work? I don't think they met at work. I'm not sure. Maybe they did, but I think it's long distance. Is that going to be? Is that going to be like the end of his fun stories, though, that he's a 30 year old girlfriend there now? That I don't think so.
No, you think the stories are continuing. Okay. Nice. So yeah. All right. You have one more. What's the craziest question that you have left? I mean, the really crazy one is what appears to be, let me read this. This is like insane. I'm not even sure what's going on. Maybe you can make heads of tails of this. I'm not. I'm not even sure. Okay. So basically this person, give me a fun guy's name.
Luigi, oh, perfect. This is, oh, actually he used his name, sorry. This is not an anonymous person. His name is Shane, okay?
He says help, a sisterhood of nuns have been sending me texts since October 5th welcoming me to their sisterhood. Issue number one, I'm a man which I don't think is allowed near covenant. Issue two, I was never able to determine if it's a scammer or a friend that just keeps the bit rolling month after month. Issue three, they're increasingly threatening and relentless because I'm not responding to the requests.
At one point, I received a package on my front door step that ended up being a world's greatest none mug. I have to say, can you just block the phone number? Well, they know his address. Yeah.
How do I get, how do I properly get to the bottom of finding out who this person is, more than likely someone I know, or how to tell a group of nuns to leave me alone in peace? I've never responded to any messages and it's too wild to, but I think he likes it because he won't block the number. Yeah. This guy lives in Pittsburgh. Shane lives in Pittsburgh. The number is a Pittsburgh area code, but it does not turn up in search results. So it's, why doesn't Shane text back and say I'm not a woman? Or should he play along?
No, don't mess with the nuns. All right. So here's some of the letters. We hope our previous letter has given you ample time for reflection, yet we cannot help but notice your silence. Perhaps there is uncertainty lingering in your heart, but allow us to remind you that the sins of this magnitude are not taken lightly, nor should they be ignored. The sister doesn't extend invitations twice. Sounds like they have been a lot of times. It's a rare honor and we expect your response to reflect your response to what being offered or a few sort of delay speaks volumes about where you can live.
I don't really think about this, that you probably haven't thought about this much either, but what's the recruitment like for nuns? I guess there's some women that like, I would imagine like some of them like run to the nunnery, but this probably also like, you know, like army recruiters, like they probably, there's probably a tough sell.
I wonder if it's a little bit like college basketball. Like, oh, you see this person? They got a lot of length, you know? They're, they're like looking for like the wemby of nuns. They're looking for the wemby of nuns. What are they looking for? This is very pious. They're looking for piety, first of all.
Yeah, not interested to kind of like not interested in long-term relationships because you can't have those anymore. Yeah. You know, a little party and see like, uh, you know, person, the corner not talking to anybody. Yeah. Let's hit her up. It's like the meme. It's like, you know, they don't know, but I want to be a nun. Um,
Uh, next email, we've been watching closely an employee to join us to repent for your sins. We invite you to explore a unique opportunity with the sisterhood of non-shift together. We embrace faith, community purpose. We'd love to connect with you. Join us, uh, on October 26th to be cleanse or more your demons. Cleanse from the demons. Then they send them a mug and then it's here sister Shane. No, thanks for our gift. Take it as a token of gratitude. I pay it forward. If you will, we expect to see you at the meeting Sunday, your official invite is sent to the mail with the mandatory tenants requirement. Here's the last message.
Here's Sister Shane. This week, the sisterhood of nuns convenes and your absence has left a void we can no longer ignore. The time has come for you to answer the call. We've waited patiently for you to return the fall, but let it be known. Silence like shadows grows ever darker with each passing. David, choose not to turn this meeting. The consequences will be felt. Your place is here. Answer the call and faith and urgency. The sister and under. So I feel like that's a threat. Yeah. I mean, I'm not a woman. I can't be a nun. I mean, he's clearly being pranked by one of his friends. They said a mug that said world's best none.
Like somebody's like signed him up for like none GPT. Basically. Now it does. Do you think you wrote some of those letters? It feels like maybe.
Yeah, I think you're being pranked. It's funny that you have, like, that you're not even sure which friend it is. The last letter was pretty threatening. Do you call the nuns and say, hey, is this guy? Is this you? Is this legit? Although it's what it's pretty scary to get on their watch list. Yes. Yeah. I think he's right. Right. If he hasn't already written back, just block the number. That's it. Like, if the nuns come to his house, it's unblockable. It's a spoof number. It's like a different number every time, maybe. Oh, wow.
I love blocking this elaborate prank. Yeah. Did I tell you? You have so many friends. Yeah. Blocking numbers is great. I also, I love, you know, did I tell you the story that I went on my Paramount Plus recently and they were that somebody, I couldn't start a new show. I was watching too many streams.
Does this sound familiar? One tell the story? No, you didn't tell me this. Yeah. I went to go watch this. There's a Jack Black movie called Dear Santa. It's about a kid who's dyslexic. And instead of writing a letter to Santa, he wrote a letter to Satan. Jack Black play Satan.
And I wanted to watch this holiday movie with my children. And it's like, you are watching too many streams. I'm like, I'm not. And I think somebody, either we went to an Airbnb or somebody hacked my Paramount Plus account. And I changed the password and I kicked them all out. And they were watching like all these shows like gun smoke and like blue bloods.
There was like, they were watching like boomer shows and like baby shows. Could you have given your mom? Maybe the log in particular. My father-in-law. But he wouldn't have been watching like Peppa Pig and stuff like that. That maybe he had like the grandkids over or something. Like he doesn't have grandkids that are babies. Got it. Okay. So.
Yeah, that's funny that you got hacked by a Peppa Pig watching. Either we got hacked or we went to like an Airbnb and didn't check out of the streaming sites. We went to a hotel like a month ago and I made my kids do it, but I was like too much of a boomer to like log out of like three different streaming things by the end of the night. Yeah. And I made my kids do it right before we left. I'm a hypocrite. I love watching stuff on other people's streaming accounts. Yeah. Go to Airbnb and then you just put on like what a crazy stuff.
Paul Blart, mall cop too. Just like what? Just screw up there out. That's so fun. That is the best. But somebody did it to me and I didn't like it. But I loved it. I changed the password and they got kicked out of all the things. Can we do one more time sensitive one quickly? Okay. This is from Johnny. And Johnny says,
How many work fantasy football league? It's a very competitive league. It's not for money, but there is a prize given to the winner, and the loser has a very embarrassing penalty. Doesn't say what the penalty is. This year, the league has been as competitive as ever, but there's a problem. One of the teams in the league was let go a month ago.
and he has not updated his roster since he was fired. Fired from work. From work. It's a work league. Okay, got it. This person was let go and they have not updated their team since they got fired. Okay. They are now in the loser championship or the really lame, the hard penalty, but they are not updating the roster. Yeah. I kind of think it would be funny
If they won and the person in the office got the loser penalty, which would be much more fun to see than just having someone who obviously will not have to complete the penalty since they no longer work here. I would like to tell this person to update their roster. If they do, they will win because they have good players that are just on the bench because of the buy hat, whatever, they will probably win.
Here's the issue. I was the one who had to let this person go. I think it's inappropriate, Johnny says, for this person, for me to contact the person. Can I have somebody else in the office contact the person? Is there nothing I can do? Do I do it anonymously? Or are we doomed to have this person finish less than the office? So this is Johnny is the listener? Yes. His guy's name is Johnny. Yes.
Hey, Johnny, yeah, Johnny, you cannot contact this person. Somebody else in the league could, you cannot go in and like update his roster without him. So if having somebody like shoot him a message, like, Hey, it would be hilarious if remember it. But then with this person with Johnny getting trouble, if the person who ends up coming in last finds out that Johnny, it's funny. It's funny. It's funny is the one who like made them update their roster.
No, no, that's messed up because it's a victimless from it's a victim. It's not like they're going to be getting like a face tattoo or anything. They didn't say what the penalty is, but what if it is a face tattoo in the work office? Probably a work league. Yeah. What do you think? A logo on your lower back.
Do you think it isn't that too still easier than I think it's one of those like 24 hours at Waffle House or I have penalties probably. Yeah, I doubt it. I doubt it's anything that serious in a work league. So, but yeah, so if you could get the other person to update, but it is a little late in the game. There's like where there was Wednesday games, there's a triple header Saturday. Well, they wrote in a few days ago. Yeah. So that hopefully they can get to it, but we'll see. Yeah. All right. Can I say something embarrassing actually about me? Please.
I came in last place in the Rob as a podcast lead. Oh my God. No, I could say and I could say like I could say I have an excuse. I didn't. I auto draft that I had a bad team, but I mean, that's why I didn't win. Like to come and last is, you know, is on me. Like it's embarrassing. I will say last year before the draft, I said, Hey, let's do like a real loser penalty. And then somebody was like, Nah, he only wants a loser penalty because he knows he won't lose. And like it's easy for him to say.
Now look, look at the turntables. Like I, I lost. I would have had to do an embarrassing penalty. Maybe I would have been getting a bell tattoo on my lower back. We'll never know. Yeah. I am fighting for a championship in the survivor fantasy football league that who are you playing against? Karishma. Okay. Not off Jeremy Collins in the semifinals last week. Nice.
So, we'll say wish me luck. You guys have a last place penalty in that league. I don't think so. No. Okay. All right. So we're going to come back next week and we are going to answer more questions. It's open enrollment in the Facebook group. You could still send in other topical questions, especially if you have a question about the new year. We'd love to hear it next week here. Or update from your current questions. Yeah. Or if you followed any of the advice that we gave in this episode and have an update, we'd love to hear it next week and we'll spin the wheel. Akiva, what else is going on for you?
Uh, 32 fans, we had, uh, we did a football podcast and we did best of the year. I thought it was fun on the Patreon, best movies, not movies. We do that before the Oscars, best TV shows, podcasts, music and books of the year. Okay. I enjoyed it. And, uh, I don't know. I got Hanukkah bringing, uh, bringing the kids to work this week, uh, hopefully getting some presents. I don't get presents anymore. Who am I kidding? What would you want? Um, gift card to a candle store. Not a shirt.
I mean, they know what size I am at least. I would take a shirt. Usually, but my kids give me shirts. They're like fun shirts, but then I would never wear outside like world. You know, it's like.
Like World's Best None. Two years ago, it's something like World's Best None. Like, I always call my, anytime my kids say something, I'll say like, oh yeah, like I know how to like fix a light bulb, they used to call me Bobby Lightbulb or like, yeah, of course I could like plant things. Of course we're gonna plant things. Yeah. So I would, but the joke was always like, you know, I was Bobby this, like, yeah, of course I could play hockey. They used to call me Bobby Hockey. And so when I was working out a lot,
They got me a t-shirt that said they call me Bobby Workout. Now, that's like a cute inside. But I can't wear that to the gym. Like, oh, look at this guy. Who does he think is Bobby Workout when I'm like the weakest guy in the gym? Yeah, it would be funny. But I feel like not everyone gets the irony. And they think like, oh, this guy thinks he's Bobby Workout when I'm really working. This Jack dude. So no, so I don't wear it at the house. I get bullied at the gym. I don't want to think there's lockers. I can get stuff from the locker at the gym. Yeah. OK. All right.
Thank you so much everybody for being here for this one. We got plenty of other fun stuff coming up here on RHAP. So I hope you all have a great new year's and stay in with your dog if that's what you would like to do. And then we'll be back with you in 2025 next time on Roberta Community Podcast. Take care of a good one. Bye.
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