Self Empowerment: Value yourself and stand firm in your relationships. Don’t settle for less than you deserve, and recognize people for who they truly are, not who you wish they could be.
Embracing your true self is crucial, especially in romantic relationships and social situations. It's important to stop caring about others' opinions and judgments. Recognizing your own worth and setting boundaries can empower you and prevent you from being mistreated. Real relationships require honesty and strength, not illusions. People reveal their true nature through their actions, and it's essential to acknowledge that when they walk away or mistreat you. Don’t give repeated chances to those who don’t respect you. Life is short, and you deserve to be treated with the respect you give to others. Let go of those false images created in your mind and learn to stand strong; only then can you truly find freedom and happiness in your connections with others.
Trusting Intuition: Trust your instincts in dating. Avoid giving chances based on potential or spiritual signs, as they may overshadow real concerns and lead to heartache.
In early dating, trusting your intuition is crucial. It's easy to get caught up in someone's potential and ignore red flags, especially if there are eerie coincidences that feel like signs from the universe. While spiritual signs can be tempting to follow, they shouldn’t overshadow the reality of someone's true nature. The experience of being attracted to someone just because they resemble a soulmate drawing, but later realizing that it might not be meant to be, shows the importance of listening to instincts. Giving people chances based on perception can lead to heartache. Recognizing the actual behavior of people and trusting your feelings can help avoid repeated patterns of disappointment. Ultimately, be cautious with your heart and be true to the signs that matter – those that resonate with your inner feelings and protect you from getting hurt.
Character Over Signs: Focus on people's actions over signs. True character reveals itself through behavior; change takes time. Don't ignore red flags.
It's easy to get caught up in signs and symbols that seem to point to a specific person as your soulmate, but it’s crucial to focus on their real actions and behavior instead. No amount of mystical signs can change a person’s true nature. If someone is dishonest or treats you poorly, that is who they are. Change takes time and effort, and it’s unlikely someone will magically become a better partner overnight or just because they date someone new. So, don't ignore red flags; pay attention to how someone treats you because that's a clearer indicator of their character. Remember that if someone has hurt you, they won't necessarily treat the next person better unless they commit to serious personal growth. Protect yourself and value your well-being by acknowledging and trusting what you see in others.
Power & Detachment: Karma ensures deceptive individuals face consequences in relationships. By detaching from energy vampires, we reclaim our power and self-worth. Recognizing our value helps prevent us from losing our energy to toxic partners, leading to healing and empowerment.
Karma plays a significant role in relationships, as deceptive individuals will ultimately face consequences for their actions. It's essential to recognize that we often perceive our partners through an idealized lens, projecting our qualities onto them. When we lower ourselves to their level, we risk losing our power and energy. These so-called energy vampires absorb our positivity and leave us feeling depleted. However, reclaiming our power is possible through detachment. By walking away from toxic relationships and cutting energetic cords, we can restore our energy and self-worth. It may take time, but with dedication, we can regain our strength and learn to not let others drain us. The key is to recognize our own worth and be willing to remove those who don't appreciate it. Taking control of our energy leads to empowerment and healing.
Relationship Clarity: Clarifying the status of a relationship is vital. Spending time together does not equate to commitment. Communication prevents misunderstandings and emotional hurt, especially when one party may not value the relationship as much as the other.
Being in a relationship without a clear commitment can be tricky. Just because you spend a lot of time with someone does not mean they see it the same way. If you don’t communicate openly about your feelings and needs, misunderstandings happen. Cutting off energy and validation can hurt those who may not value the connection as much. It's crucial to confirm your relationship status to avoid getting blindsided. People sometimes hide their true intentions, and the truth eventually comes out, revealing who truly values the relationship. It's important to take care of your emotional well-being and recognize when someone is not fully committed, as this will prevent unnecessary pain and confusion.
Empowered Detachment: Trust your instincts in relationships. If you feel disrespected or unsure, prioritize your worth and cut off toxic ties. A strong partnership is built on mutual respect and commitment.
When a relationship feels off, it’s essential to trust your instincts and listen to what your partner is saying. If they express uncertainty, take that seriously. You deserve someone who is fully committed and respects you. Cutting off emotional ties with someone who drains your energy can empower you and lead to a transformation, allowing you to reclaim your power. Once you decide to walk away from a relationship that no longer serves you, the other person may become distressed as they realize they have lost someone who believed in them. True strength lies in knowing your worth and not letting anyone undermine it, no matter how charming they may seem. Remember, a healthy relationship should feel right and should not require you to continuously question your value or your partner's commitment. You deserve genuine love and respect.
Know Your Worth: Know your worth in relationships and seek partners who contribute positively, without needing to be coached. Prioritize self-growth and end connections that drain your energy.
Recognizing your own worth is essential in relationships. It's important to seek partners who are emotionally and financially stable, rather than feeling like you have to coach them into being a good partner. Focus on healing and self-growth so that you attract the right person who matches your energy and ambitions. Don't settle for less, and prioritize those who contribute positively to your life without causing anxiety. You deserve a fulfilling relationship where both partners support each other's growth and happiness. It’s crucial to cut off connections that drain you or make you feel less than you are. Empower yourself to be with someone who inspires you and matches your values. Both partners should be willing to put in the effort and resources to build a life together, ensuring a balanced, strong relationship.
Protect Your Heart: Setting boundaries in dating is crucial for emotional health. Don't rush into relationships; ensure your partner can love you as deeply as you love them. Protect your heart and energy until you find the right person.
It's essential to establish strong boundaries in dating to protect your emotional well-being. Opening your heart too readily to the wrong people can lead to pain and depletion. True love takes time and patience; it should match your energy and the love you offer others. Be mindful of who you let into your life, ensuring they can reciprocate the love you give. Rely on trusted advice, like from a parent, and don't ignore red flags. If someone doesn't respect your boundaries or makes you feel uncomfortable, it’s vital to move on for your own growth and healing. Remember, it’s okay to be guarded until you find someone who truly deserves your heart.
Personal Empowerment: Recognize your own worth and power, and don’t settle for relationships that hurt you. Focus on personal growth and healing to become the best version of yourself.
It’s important to recognize your own worth and power in relationships. If someone betrays you and makes you feel bad, it’s crucial not to chase after them. Instead, focus on becoming the best version of yourself and setting yourself emotionally free. Life is too short for games and unnecessary pain. Take time to prioritize your healing and growth. Participate in courses like 'Dare to Detach' and the upcoming 'Mind Body Soul Reset' to enhance your wellness routine and transform your life. By honoring who you are and embracing your true value, you avoid low-energy relationships and instead, cultivate a life filled with empowerment and stability. Remember, you have the strength to let go of what no longer serves you and to step into your greatness as soon as you recognize your true potential. Your happiness and self-worth should always come first.
How to stop being "TOO NICE" - stop giving them chances (they showed you who they are!)
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How to break the cycle - SET YOURSELF FREE. Let go of your old self now.
SET YOUR SOUL FREE. You deserve to be happy. In this episode, I get vulnerable about my current situation and dive into some mental health issues surrounding the concept of truly feeling free and knowing when it's time to change your life.
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How to stop being "TOO NICE" - stop giving them chances (they showed you who they are!)
For the ones who are sometimes just "too nice" and passive when it comes to dating...
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How to stop being desperate - become obsessed with YOURSELF
There's nothing worse than desperate energy when you are constantly chasing after people or wanting them to be obsessed with you or validate you in some way, shape or form. In this episode, I talk about how you should focus on becoming obsessed with yourself and not tolerating BS from anyone around you. I also cover how to set your standards high and the boss a** b*tch that you truly are.
I have a detachment masterclass, as well as a new masterclass for health and wellness coming later this year.
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How to set STRONG boundaries - don’t lift a finger for ANYONE who hasn't earned a place in your life
IN THIS VIDEO episode, I dive into all the tea about what really happened this summer in London with my last relationship...and why I've learned how important it is to take your time if you're looking to build a really strong foundation for a future with a partner. When newly dating someone it's very important to set boundaries and to remain in your feminine energy. This is ultimately my opinion, experience and perspective on how to approach future relationships.
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The right person WOULD WANT TO DATE YOU - if someone wants you, you will know.
On today's episode, I talk about how the right person for you WOULD WANT to be with you and date you. If someone wants to be with you, they will be with you. If a man loves you and IS your soulmate, he will commit to you. It should feel easy. It should feel good. It should feel RIGHT. If you are waiting on someone to DECIDE if they want to be with you, this episode is a wakeup call.
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My plastic surgery journey + the honest truth (botox, fillers, rhinoplasty & more)
I've had so many questions about the cosmetic work I've had done, and this episode is dedicated to full transparency about all of the procedures I've tried, have done, and still currently do.
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How to heal from a heartbreak (you deserve better and so do I)
It's time to end the toxic cycles. In this episode, I cover everything I know about going through heartbreak - and what I've learned over the years on how to recover quickly and how to move on. As I reflect back over the last two weeks, I feel like the rug had been ripped out from under me and at first I couldn't understand why...but I truly believe that everything happens for a reason - and the universe always remove someone or something in order to REPLACE IT with something better. Although I spoke highly of this person out of respect, after recording this episode and taking a step back, I recognize that I was mostly definitely love bombed, and no one should have to go through that.
Your reminder to stop settling in your dating life and to love yourself first.
In full transparency, I recorded this episode back in July when I was still dating someone who I thought could be someone significant in my life. Although that relationship has recently ended, I still wanted to share this episode because everything I'm saying still holds the same truth to it - which is your reminder to never settle for basic behaviors in relationships. To experience someone who makes a genuine effort to see you, to spend time with you, and to focus on you - is what everyone deserves.
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Work on yourself until they're not your type [REVISIT] - how to level up 100x and own your power
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WORK ON YOURSELF SO much until they're not your type anymore. This week I'm resharing an episode from last summer as it's one of the greatest reminders to really own your power and remember your worth when it comes to dating someone. We often tend to lose ourselves in the thick of emotions when we really like or love someone, and this episode covers how to truly work on yourself in order to level up past a relationship that isn't right for you.
How to shift into a brand NEW REALITY. You deserve true love, abundance, and miracles.
Open your heart and your mind to a brand new reality. You deserve unconditional love and abundance.
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