How To Manage Your Conversations This Week

I'm gonna give you a tip now that's gonna help you handle every single one of your conversations this week. And it goes like this. You know when someone is slightly irritated or is in your life and maybe they annoy you?

Let me start that again then. So you know when someone's really annoying you and they talk to you and you're thinking, oh, you're really annoying me. And all of your insights are going aflame. And actually what happens is maybe you don't give them the kindest of responses. Maybe you go, yeah, well, whatever, we'll just moving on over here. And sometimes you find yourself being quite cruel. This could be a work colleague. This could be a child. You're a kid. This could be your partner. This could be a friend. This is really annoying you and you can't help but take it personally and you wish that you could do it better.

Here is the trick. When that person who is annoying you is speaking, reframe your picture of them. Redecide how you are viewing them. And you need that picture to elicit the response you wish you were having.

Say someone is annoying you and maybe they're patronising you as they're talking to you. And all you can see is this person who's annoying you and patronising you reframe the picture you are seeing to elicit the response. So maybe you want to hear yourself say something like, oh, that's or you want to be calm. Oh, that's really interesting. Oh, yeah, I'll take that on. That'd be really great. Thanks so much for your help.

reframe the way you are thinking about them. Maybe see them as a child who just wants your praise and your support. Rather than this irritating, intense person, actually they become this person who's going, look at me, help me, help me. And then you get the better response from yourself.

I came across this on an Instagram reel when a parenting expert was talking about dealing with toddlers. And I think it works in every single conversation I think I've been in in the last couple of weeks where I thought that the response that's coming out to me is not the one I want. How do I change this? And so dealing with that person, I've then changed the frame of change the picture that I'm seeing to elicit the correct response. I say correct lightly, the one I want to happen.

So today, when that person who is really going on your nerves at the moment is talking to you, change the way you're seeing them to elicit a better response from yourself. Choose the response and work backwards.

This is your everyday positivity. I'm Kate's Cochrane. I'm here with you every single day to help you find a positive route through your life. How can you be productive? How can you take those knocks and those bumps and the things that life throws you and know that you have got what it takes to handle it every single day? Because you know what? You have. I'll see you tomorrow. I'll be back with you then. Have a great day and remember you have 100% got this.