A beautiful lie

Right, so in this episode, we're going to have a bit of a chat and a story time. So I'm just going to pull the little foot poof thing, you know, the foot stall and I'll put my feet on it. And I'm going to have a cup of tea. Right, so get yourself a cup of tea. And right, so... Hang on. Let's just bring ourselves down a notch. Oh, it's freshly brewed so it's hot.

Oh well, yeah, yeah, that's hot. Okay, so in life, life is shit sometimes, right? And life can be overwhelming. And sometimes in life, things don't go your way. And sometimes they do.

And then sometimes we have bad days, sometimes you have bad weeks, months, years, and then weirdly, it just seems to kind of turn around and then you have good stuff happen, right? And then sometimes it all happens at the same time and you think, yeah, great, thanks for that. But then you kind of think, well, would you rather it all just happen at the same time or do you want to drag that shit out? Because I don't, I'd rather it just all happen at the same time, if monist.

So here we are pondering. What's the actual fuck is life about? So let me tell you a story.

I think I've told you this story before, so forgive me for being repetitive, but it's important, right? So back in the day, I think it was 1800 something like that, Thomas Jefferson, you know, the guy who, well, there's some controversy around him because he's been labelled as the inventor of a lot of things, but I believe he took credit for a lot of things, but anyway, times have changed and everything like that. But anyway, he went to school and

they couldn't accommodate him. His teacher sent a letter home and said basically in this letter

that your kid is, well, we can't, he's so stupid. We cannot accommodate him. We can't even teach him. Like, he can't be at this school, right? So his mum read this letter and was like, ah, no. Like, you know, my son is just, you know, seems to not be able to learn. But she understood something really, really important, which is if I tell him this, he's going to believe it and he will just be down and out.

And she took a chance because she was like, I wonder if I could get him to believe in something else. I wonder if I could get him on a more positive trajectory. So she lied. She said to him, Thomas, young Thomas, you can't go back to school anymore. And he said, why? And she says, well, basically, they've written to me. And he was, oh, no, what are they said? And she said, basically, you're too smart.

which we both know is bullshit, right? But anyway, she said, you're too smart. You can't go back to that school. They can't accommodate you. That was true. But anyway, you can't come out. Well, we're going to have to, you know, teach you at home. Oh, what? I'm too smart. Yep. Yep. Yep. You're a genius. You're on genius level.

Oh wow, okay. So they went to work and they started teaching him at home and he did what he needed to do. Later on in life, he started inventing a few things and then became this kind of hierarchical figure where, like I said at the beginning of the story, where he kind of absorbed a lot of patterns and inventions and they kind of fell under his construction, right? And he's the one who did the light bulb.

So, you know, the irony is, is that, well, it's not really irony, but it's like the moral of the story is that he became who he believed. Now then you might think, well, I know plenty of people who believe they're something they're not, you know. Now there's disillusionment of grandeur, which is almost psychopathy, where you really do think that you're better than everybody else, without the work. This is where there's a distinction.

You could think you're an inventor, but if you haven't invented anything, then you're clearly fucking not. You're just weird, right? That wasn't Thomas Edison. Thomas Edison thought he could be an inventor and did the work. He invented the light bulb. So he became who he thought he could be. He became who he believed he could be. He didn't claim the end title without the work. This is the difference.

So I've been speaking to a lot of my friends in the film industry and the frustrations are the same. People are only buying horror films. People are only investing in action-packed films like The Art Has Gone and they're all concerned about AI.

And I said, you know, and I've said this to them, I said, you know what? Believe that there's something different. Believe in the possibility. Look around you. Every single film industry decade, every single decade has a different film.

like era. We had the 30s, the 40s, the 50s, the 60s. We had cowboy in western. We had Arnold Schwarzenegger and Sylvester Stallone came kicking in in the 80s and was all about action. And since then, since the 80s, it has been about action. And so those classics have kind of like, you know, disappeared a little bit. So studios ultimately decided to start investing in what was guaranteed.

And what does that, that is the total opposite of belief, that is feeding the appetite, which guarantees results and it's easier to get shareholders involved, right? And it's easier to get investors. But it doesn't actually guarantee long-term success, you're just chasing your tail.

So if you were to believe that you could create a film and a genre of film that was going to be so incredibly beautiful because that's what people want right now. They want stories. They want peace. There's too much chaos. People want peace. They want beauty. They want to know what is possible. Everyone is going through a massive identity crisis because we're realising that

you know, the religious hierarchies of both Catholic, Christian, Muslim, and I think there's discrepancies. And also there's an abomination of, you know, people taking the piss, you know, so we're seeing a lot of scandals coming through. So people are now looking at religions kind of going, I don't see myself in that religion anymore, right? Leaving them wide open for interpretation and influence.

So they're looking for gods in all the wrong places, right? So they're going, well, okay, maybe it's like materialism then. If I were to get this, this, and this, and this, then I'm gonna feel really good, right? So what, we're seeing a lot more debt, and we're seeing a lot more keeping up with the Joneses, and people are lost. I don't know who they are, and they don't know how to get out of that feeling. So what happens then?

Is the studios reacting to that? They're going, oh, you know what, I need to make more horror films because that's what people are buying. They watch horror films to adrenalize themselves because they're so fucking depressed. But ultimately that is going to be wear and tear. Ultimately you will get to a point where you're like, this is affecting my mental health, right?

I've said this before on podcast episodes where, you know, I've been sitting there tapping away at the laptop and I've had crime documentaries on in the background and then by the end of the day I'm like, I'm so depressed. I wonder why? Could it be that my subconscious was listening to murder for about six hours? Could it be? Could it, you know?

So just because someone is watching it doesn't mean that they want to. Maybe there isn't a lot of choice. I have scoured the fucking land for nice things to watch and I literally have one programme called Lioness that I watch every Sunday and that is it. I can't find anything else. Right, but I want it.

I want it. So stop making these films that scare the shit out of me and start making stuff that makes me know that I can believe in myself and I can turn things around. You know, everything has come up to scrutiny, you know, like the old, I know there was a lot of, you know, shit about the Snow White, you know, we don't need a prince coming along. Well, that was

the genre at the time. That was the time. People used to want princes to come into their life and people used to want princesses. And that's the good thing about times that have passed. It doesn't make it right or wrong, it just means that that was what people wanted at the time.

In the same way as people are going to look at us and go, God, that was a generation of just freaks. All they wanted to do was eat all the time, eat burgers and watch horror films. But it's just what it is. It's an era. So you become what you believe you're capable of.

So why don't we start to reprogram ourselves, right? If you feel depressed and anxious, stay the fuck away from things that are gonna make you feel seen in that way. So if you watch, and I'm not gonna lie, I've done it, if I may be so graphic with you, when I have my monthly cycle, yes, I'm a female and it happens, for some reason, I gravitate towards murder programs.

Because there is some kind of satisfactory component about watching someone feel as bad as I do. So I understand it. That's where the appetite is. It doesn't make it right whatsoever. It actually makes it pretty grim. But it's part of the human psyche to try and look for ourselves in our external situations, right?

but to watch it all the time and to be fascinated by death all the time and to wonder how one torturous event catapulted into another all the time, then it's going to be a reflection of how you feel, but where's the solution? There is no solution in that. You're just literally putting a band-aid on it, you know?

So let's introduce a little bit of magic. Let's lie to ourselves because we're going to have to. For a bit, we're going to have to lie to ourselves like Edison's mounded with him. You're a genius. You're not thick. You're a genius. You know, just so that she could get him to believe in a different way. So maybe there is no thick or maybe there is no genius. It's just the application of the mind. We look at things in such a black and white kind of way.

So why don't we make our minds a little bit more flexible, a little bit more malleable, and why don't we start believing in things that seem to be so incredibly unpopular or unbelievable?

You know, what you tell yourself, you're going to have to be your own mum. In the same way as Edison's mum used to tell him, you're going to have to tell you, you're going to have to tell yourself a lie at the beginning until you really start to mechanise and, you know, become physical with that alignment. So I had to pause it there because basically I've

I've got the bit, the build is outside and he wanted to charge his phone, but he hasn't put it on silent. Yeah, that circuit's going off. So sometimes we're going to have to just lie to ourselves, you know, and feel a certain way.

and think a certain way, you know. It's like, I don't know if you've ever tried to lose weight, right? Sometimes I lose a few pounds, put a few pounds on whatever. It really shows with me for some reason, a pound just looks horrendous. But anyway, if I were to only do what I believed in doing, at that time I would believe I was heavy. So why would I attempt to change? You have to believe in the lie.

So for example, I know that I could be smaller. So I attempt it, I attempt the change.

I start the process of shredding a bit of weight, but there's no evidence whatsoever that that weight's coming off. It used to come off, you know, but actually now, will it? I'm 40 something years old, so will it? Can it? Has my body changed? I see this a lot with people who are into nutrition, they'll say, oh, I see I'm fucking Instagram, they go, oh, well, my metabolism isn't what it used to be. And I think, who told you that?

Did the doctor tell you that? Oh, you've got to be careful now. You know, if we look back at the past, when I was growing up, it was a thing to settle down in your twenties. If you weren't settled down or like with someone, you know, substantially in your twenties, you know, God, my God, you're going to be left on the shelf.

Well, I still haven't settled down and I'm like 40 something now, you know? And it's like times change. So today's slow metabolism in your 40s.

I mean, we might change that in a decade or something to say, oh well actually metabolism doesn't slow down until late 50s. So it changes all the time because actually belief changes when someone else proves it wrong. So they used to believe, and this wasn't that far away, they used to believe women couldn't run marathons, what the fuck?

So a woman came along and ran a marathon. I mean, she had to be surrounded by pretty much bodyguards, because men kept trying to stop her and push her over. I mean, I'm glad I wasn't now. I would have gone down on a murder charge. But it's like, it's not until someone does it that people are like, oh!

Right? So in this day and age, look around. I don't know about you, but everyone's so miserable. I don't want to make friends anymore, because I'm just like, I can't be bothered to say hi, how are you? And then I get all this... back. I don't mind a bit of it, but not when it's like every single day. Like...

Let's do something fun. It's like people have stopped and it's like people have lost the ability to think of a solution for their problems.

I think we have been in this area of express how you feel. Let's talk about feelings. Let's talk about feelings. I think we've been in it too long. And now it's got to a point where it's like, can we get out of our feelings? Yeah? Yeah, you can. So there's this experiment they did, right? They put some flies in a jar. Obviously they put holes in the lid, but they put flies in the jar.

And then the flies kept hitting the lid, like, let me out, let me out, let me out. And those flies had babies and they realized that then those babies had further babies and they realized that these flies, generation after generation after generation, they got lower and lower in their attempt to try and fly out the lid because the longer they went without the direct story of there is an outside world, those flies just didn't even attempt it because they didn't know

You know, I don't know if I speak for starters, but no one showed them that actually there's life beyond that lid. So when you've been in something too long and too many generations have been affected by the same old rule, let's talk about our feelings all day long, then somewhere along the line someone's going to be like, can I get out of these feelings or am I slave to them? And it's like these addictions. It's like materialism. It's like, it's like anything. Can I get out of this?

vortex that I'm in, you know? Can I get out of this family plague that seems to curse every single generation? Can I get out of this depression? Can I get out of this anxiety? Yes, you can do all of this. So tell yourself a lie and believe it.

Just literally bullshit yourself. But like I said, be wise with it. Don't bullshit yourself and say, I'm the end result and you haven't done it. Do the work. Believe you can be an inventor and then invent things. So invent a new brain, invent a new body, you know?

I mean, I've done stuff in my life and I'm like, no one could have predicted this. No one. If they had seen where my life was going and where it is now, there's no way anyone would have said, even I didn't believe it. But I believe there was something in me that wanted more and something bigger. And you know what? If I be completely honest with you, I always am. I don't know why I say this shit, but I used to struggle with reading. I wasn't dyslexic, but my

My mind was very undisciplined and my mind was very

It was almost archaic in a survival mechanism. So my mind had been trained to be very on alert, right? And so that's a really bad recipe for reading, because with reading you need to take your time. And there's something about being in a different nervous system that I couldn't achieve. I was very jumpy, I was very all over the place, right?

So I told myself a lie. I was like, this isn't me. This is a product of maybe having a stock of 10 years. This is a product of being in a career that was key performance indicator all the time orientated. So lots of KPIs all the time, lots of pressure. I had become a manifestation of the stress that I was around.

but it wasn't who I wanted to be. So what I decided to do was I decided to lighten myself. I would, throughout the day, every single day say I'm such a good reader, I read books that I wouldn't believe, I go through them like water. And I'd say it's in such a relaxed way because when you're relaxed with it, you believe it. That's why you can always tell when someone's lying because they're a little bit stressed, you know, in their body language and little twitches and things like that.

So, whatever you want to programme in you, you have to be really relaxed like it's nothing, like, yeah, it's true, it's honest. Like, honestly, this is what's going on. This is what's cooking, good looking, you know? And it goes in real quick, path of less resistance, you see. And now, I'm going through books like you're fucking wouldn't believe. I was in the bathy of the day reading, from, from, from, from through all the pages, because my brain, I had lied to my brain and said, I'm a really good reader. And I read really quickly and I do, I don't miss a word.

Because one day you wake up and the lie's true. And then you lift the lie and you're like, oh my God, I'm actually reading a lot. Like I read four books last week. And I'm like, this is absolutely remarkable. I tried one book, the little live book. I tried about three fucking times and I finished it now, thank God.

But I said to myself, I'm going to have to lie to myself because I cannot get through this book. It was overwhelming, right? The size of it does not help. And so I changed. I changed it in my head. And I've been doing that for ages now and it works in so many ways. So think of Thomas Edison. Think about his mum and how she lied to him and what she wanted him to achieve and what she wanted him to believe.

and then think about who you are think about who you've become think about whether you like that and whether it's true and all you need you do not need to go and find the person who lied to you sorry I have to stop it again these builders are keeping me on my toes he wanted his phone back so yeah have a look right because you don't need to

You don't need to revisit the person who told you the lies. So if you've been in a relationship and they said, you're selfish, you're this, you're that, you're horrible, you're horrible. You don't need to go looking for them and say, why did you tell me this? It's a lie. Tell me it's not true. The person who cursed you with it is not the person who undoes the curse, it's you. You're way more powerful than you think.

Anyone can spit off any untruths, and it's all from their perspective anyway, right? And if we look at Thomas Edison's school, there is no proof whatsoever, not that they were monitored in those days. But how do we know just because it's a school that they were right in their assessment that he was thick? He was different, but they saw it as he was thick, and his mum wanted him to believe otherwise.

So who is right and who is wrong? It's your life at the end of the day. So how are you going to live it? And I would definitely be right with yourself, and I would definitely be honorable with yourself, but I would definitely be wise. So you don't want to overextend yourself to the point where it's not true, but you want to work towards it.

And don't cherish it. Don't tell people I believe that I could be an athlete if I wanted to, because you're gonna get everyone who looks at you, who looks at the evidence in front of them and they'll see who you are now and they'll say no way, you're not built for it. And then I did that to the women who were like, you can't run marathons until a woman said fuck you, I can't. And she did. So if you wanna be an athlete,

Do it. Be an athlete. If you want to be a writer, be a writer. If you want to read real well, then read real well, you know. It's like, tell yourself the most delicious lie and believe it. It's all perception anyway. The sooner you realise that life is just literally perspectives. It's untrue. Yeah. It's mad enough.

And as for the film production and TV, please start doing things which are nice. Just happy endings and things which tell me that everything's going to be alright and shows me.

like film is a tool show me how I can change my mind and show me that there is life beyond the lid and that I don't have to turn into some transformer to achieve that goal I can just transform myself you know

People are lost. They don't have their identity anymore. They've questioned it, which is great because we've seen the conditioning and we've seen the horrors of such a thing. So we're all questioning ourselves, but we don't know where we're meant to be looking. We don't know who God is anymore. We don't know the North Star. We're like, what's going on? Everything looks to be a lie. But sometimes those lies are good. And sometimes fairy tales. I love fairy tales. I mean, obviously it's bullshit.

You know, but it's a nice lie and it gets me believing in things. That's what stories are. They're a pathway for a better thought process and to use your imagination. You know, so when people condemn stories, I think that's the end of fucking mankind right there because it's what we've always done. So conversations and stories are always pathways to a better way of thinking.

I'm reading a book about enchantment at the moment and it's owner of course I'm flying through it thank you very much and it talks about how children like fairy tales are really really important for children because children are able to look at the characters and see their own stresses in something physical and they can see and learn from the characters how they deal with life isn't that amazing.

So we go externally all the time for our solutions. I mean we want to feel warm, we put the heat in on. We're a bit chilly in the arms, in the arms. On the arms we put a jumper on. We're always going externally. But really there's a mechanism within ourselves that we can generate heat.

But this is the epitome of Earth, right? We go, we spend billions of dollars going out in space in a vast, empty atmosphere with a few more planets on it. When really, we don't really spend that much amount of money going into the deep seas and figuring out what's under the Earth. So it's just the epitome. I think it's basically our eyes look outwards and not inwards.

tell yourself a brilliant lie so that you see different things right so on that note I'm going to finish my tea I hope you have a lovely day and tell yourself the most beautiful lie and believe it right lovely loads come here for a cuddle