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    5 signs you need to breakup + my views on sex & casual hookups

    enSeptember 25, 2023

    Podcast Summary

    • Recognizing the signs to let go of a relationshipConsider moving on if there's consistent disrespect, lack of communication, or emotional drain. Prioritize open communication and respect in all relationships.

      It's important to recognize the signs when it's time to let go of a relationship, whether it's romantic or platonic. People often fear being alone and losing the connection they've built with someone, but staying in a toxic situation can have negative consequences. Signs that it might be time to move on include consistent disrespect, lack of communication, and feeling emotionally drained. On the other hand, it's also important to consider the role of casual hookups and intimacy in relationships. There's no one-size-fits-all answer to when is the right time to sleep with someone new, and it ultimately depends on the individual's values and comfort level. The key is to prioritize open communication and respect in all relationships, whether they're casual or long-term.

    • Recognizing when a relationship hinders growthFive signs of relationships that may hinder personal growth include feeling drained, experiencing hot and cold energy dynamics, feeling less of yourself, not feeling good in your skin, and always feeling on edge and anxious.

      Relationships are a vital part of human life and personal growth, but it's essential to recognize when a relationship is no longer serving your growth. The speaker shares her experience of the challenges of leaving a relationship, despite the emotional attachment and valuable lessons learned. She provides five signs as potential warning signs when considering leaving a relationship: feeling drained and exhausted by someone's behaviors, experiencing hot and cold energy dynamics, feeling less of yourself, not feeling good in your skin, and always feeling on edge and anxious. Remember, ultimately, it's your decision to make based on your intuition and feelings.

    • Recognizing the Signs of an Unhealthy RelationshipIf you feel neutral or indifferent towards someone's behavior, it's a sign to move on. Consistently tolerating hot and cold behavior, forgiving easily, and feeling anxious or stressed around someone are signs of an unhealthy relationship.

      If you find yourself no longer shocked by someone's behavior and feel neutral or indifferent towards their treatment of you, it's a clear sign that it's time to move on. People often stay in unhealthy relationships due to emotional attachment and a lack of better options. However, if you feel like you're settling, you are. If your inner dialogue tells you that, trust it. Consistently tolerating hot and cold behavior or being easily forgiving can lead to getting hurt. Additionally, if being around someone consistently causes anxiety and stress, it's a sign that they're not the right person for you. It's important to recognize these signs and make a change to avoid getting stuck in unhealthy cycles. Remember, your feelings and inner voice are valuable indicators of whether a relationship is beneficial or harmful to you.

    • Letting go of toxic relationshipsFocus on your own well-being and attract better people by valuing your time and energy. The right person won't make you question their feelings towards you.

      If you're constantly tolerating negative behavior in a relationship that causes you stress, anxiety, and pain, it may be time to let go. Your purpose on earth isn't to be in a toxic relationship. Instead, focus on your own well-being and attract better people into your life by valuing your own time and energy. If you find yourself constantly questioning a relationship or feeling like you deserve better, chances are, you do. Remember, the right person won't make you question their feelings towards you. They'll appreciate and value you the way you value yourself. By focusing on yourself and having a full life, you'll attract healthier relationships.

    • Understanding Gender Differences in Relationships and EmotionsMen and women have unique approaches to relationships and emotions. Men tend to be clear about their intentions and don't change unless they genuinely care, while women may expect men to change based on vocalized desires. Recognizing and respecting these differences can lead to healthier relationships.

      Men and women approach relationships and emotions differently. The speaker's ex-boyfriend shared his perspective that men are typically clear about their intentions and don't change unless they genuinely care about someone. He believed that women expect men to change based on their vocalized desires, but men don't have the ability to feel that way about multiple people at once. The speaker felt that this perspective was insightful, as she had experienced being treated well but not reciprocating the feelings. She realized that men don't build feelings over time like women often do, and that it's essential to recognize and respect these differences. Ultimately, the speaker believed that understanding these differences can lead to healthier and more fulfilling relationships.

    • People can't be trained to treat us better, only those who genuinely want to change will.Focus on being with someone who values and appreciates us, not those who need to be trained or forced to treat us well.

      People cannot be trained to treat us better in relationships. It's essential to recognize that only those who genuinely want to change and improve themselves will do so. We should never beg for respect, decency, or love, as there is someone out there who will naturally care for us. The connection and feelings we have for someone are crucial, and it's essential not to overcomplicate things by following societal dating rules. Another critical aspect is understanding why we hold on to relationships. If it's due to a fear of being alone, we must consider whether we would have the courage to leave if a better match appeared. Our fear of being alone should not keep us in unfulfilling relationships. Ultimately, we deserve to be with someone who values and appreciates us without needing to beg for it.

    • Evaluate your relationship honestlyDon't stay in a relationship out of fear, prioritize being with someone who values and appreciates you.

      It's important to be honest with yourself about why you're staying in a relationship and whether the person is truly right for you. Fear of being alone can lead us to cling to unhealthy relationships, but constant negativity, lack of trust, inability to communicate, and feeling unappreciated are all signs that the relationship may not be worth it. Communication is key, and if you can't connect with your partner on an emotional level, it may be time to move on. Additionally, if you feel constantly unappreciated or undervalued, it's a sign that the relationship may not be healthy for you. It's essential to prioritize being with someone who sees and values you for who you are. As Leo Skepi said on his podcast, "Aware and Aggravated," being with people on a different vibrational wavelength can make it difficult for them to appreciate your value. So, take the time to evaluate your relationship and prioritize being with someone who truly sees and values you.

    • Signs it's time to leave a relationship or situationRecognize when to leave based on feelings of insignificance or disrespect, prioritize personal feelings, values, and self-respect, and understand everyone's boundaries regarding sexual encounters.

      It's essential to recognize when to leave a situation or relationship based on feelings of insignificance or disrespect. Feeling small or unappreciated doesn't necessarily reflect on personal worth but rather differences in life experiences and perspectives. Constant disrespect, however, is a clear-cut sign that it's time to move on. Trust is a significant aspect of any relationship, and once it's broken, regaining it can be challenging. It's essential to be self-aware and consider leaving if these signs are present. Additionally, the speaker emphasizes that everyone has the right to set their boundaries regarding sexual encounters and that there's no one-size-fits-all answer to when to sleep with someone. Ultimately, it's crucial to prioritize personal feelings, values, and self-respect.

    • Respecting Personal Standards and Priorities in Sexual RelationshipsValue emotional safety and connection in sexual relationships. Trust yourself and prioritize personal standards to ensure fulfilling experiences.

      Everyone has different standards and timelines when it comes to sexual relationships. Some prioritize emotional safety and connection above all else, while others may focus on having fun and not being judged. Regardless of personal preferences, it's important to value the energy exchanged during intimate moments and only engage with people who respect and care for us. Trusting ourselves and our intuition is crucial in making the decision to sleep with someone. Ultimately, there's no one-size-fits-all answer to when is the right time, but prioritizing emotional safety and connection can lead to meaningful and fulfilling experiences.

    • Timing of intimacy doesn't define a genuine connectionHonor your comfort level and respect potential partners' decisions about timing of sexual intimacy in a relationship, as it doesn't impact the authenticity or strength of the connection.

      The timing of sexual intimacy in a relationship doesn't determine the authenticity or strength of the connection. If the connection is genuine, it won't be negatively impacted by when you choose to be intimate. It's important to honor your own comfort level and not feel pressured into sexual activity before you're ready. Previous experiences may have instilled a sense of pressure or obligation, but ultimately, it's your body and your choice. If a potential partner isn't willing to wait or respects your decision, they may not be the right person for you. The most important thing is to listen to your intuition and do what feels best for you. Everyone's timeline is different, and there's no right or wrong answer. The key is to be true to yourself and trust that the right person will appreciate and respect your decisions.

    • Building deep connections is key to the speaker's dating philosophyTaking time to build meaningful connections is worth it, whether in dating or other areas of life.

      Building deep connections is important to the speaker when it comes to hooking up. She has learned from past experiences to trust her feelings and only engage in such encounters when there is a strong connection. This standard is important to her and is a conclusion she has come to after reflecting on her experiences. The speaker encourages listeners to connect with her on Instagram for additional dating content and to rate the podcast on Apple and Spotify. She values the deeper connections she makes with her audience through social media and uses it as a source of inspiration for episode topics. Overall, the message is that taking the time to build meaningful connections is worth it, whether in dating or in other areas of life.

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