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    4 Pivotal Decisions in Life We Make Daily & 3 Ways to Approach Conflict Resolution in Relationships

    enAugust 18, 2023

    Podcast Summary

    • Discover the secret to true happiness in your relationships!Relationships play a crucial role in our overall happiness and fulfillment in life, and Jay Shetty's book "Think Like a Monk" offers guidance and support to help us cultivate and nurture meaningful connections.

      Relationships are a fundamental aspect of human happiness. Jay Shetty emphasizes that our decisions regarding self-worth, who we love, how we earn money, and how we serve others are all intertwined with our relationships. He recognizes that many individuals experience pain and dissatisfaction when their relationships are neglected or lacking. Understanding the significance of relationships in our lives, Jay chose to focus on love and relationships in his book, "Think Like a Monk". He was inspired by a Harvard study that found the quality of relationships to be the key factor in human happiness. Despite cultural programming and limited support, Jay aims to provide guidance and support for individuals seeking fulfillment in their relationships.

    • Jay Shetty reveals how Bollywood movies and social media mislead us about love.It's important to differentiate between media portrayals and real relationships, and focus on understanding the complexities and challenges of love. Take personal responsibility to navigate social media and approach love with strength and authenticity.

      Our understanding of love is heavily influenced by the media, including Bollywood movies and social media. Jay Shetty reflects on how he grew up watching romantic movies, longing for a fairytale kind of love, only to be disappointed by the reality of relationships. He also acknowledges that his family's unhealthy relationships and the lack of positive role models further shaped his perception of love. However, he emphasizes the importance of recognizing the difference between reality and the images portrayed in media. Instead of seeking a perfect relationship, he suggests focusing on understanding the reality of our experiences and being open to the complexities and challenges that come with love. Moreover, he advises taking personal responsibility to navigate social media and differentiate between real relationships and curated images. By doing so, individuals can approach love from a position of strength and authenticity.

    • Jay Shetty reveals the secret to combat loneliness and stress.Real friendships, vulnerability, and embracing solitude are crucial for personal growth and combating feelings of loneliness in today's digital age.

      Real friendships and relationships are crucial in navigating the pressures and stress of life, especially during significant milestones like marriage. Jay Shetty emphasizes the importance of having older friends who can share their learnings and mistakes, providing valuable insights for growth and decision-making. He also highlights the significance of vulnerability and open communication within relationships, as this prevents the reliance on social media as a frame of reference. Furthermore, Shetty discusses the difference between being alone and feeling lonely, stating that true solitude is a space where one can take the time to get to know themselves on a deeper level. By cultivating real connections and embracing solitude, individuals can combat feelings of disconnection and loneliness.

    • Discover the Surprising Link Between Breath and Love!Understanding our own definition of love is crucial for healthy relationships and personal growth. Don't assume others share the same perception – define love individually and avoid losing oneself in a relationship.

      Our breath is interconnected to every emotion in life. Just as our breath changes according to our emotions, our understanding and experience of love can also vary greatly from person to person. It is important to define what love means to us individually and not assume that others share the same perception. Taking the time to understand ourselves and what love truly means to us can prevent us from losing our sense of self in a relationship. By knowing our own definition of love, we can better navigate relationships and avoid blaming others for our own lack of self-awareness. Defining love for ourselves can lead to healthier and more fulfilling connections with others.

    • Discover the secret to true love and profound connections!Love goes beyond attraction and requires mutual support and commitment. True love involves respecting each other's values and working together towards shared goals.

      Love should be defined and understood in a deeper and more meaningful way. Love is not just about liking someone's personality or receiving attention and validation from them. It involves respecting their values and not trying to change or control them. True love means wanting to help and support someone towards their goals, making a commitment to stand by them and dedicating oneself to their success. It is about mutual support and collaboration. We should avoid rushing and confusing attraction or liking someone with love. Instead, we should be willing to put in the effort to truly fall in love with someone and build a strong and profound connection.

    • Unlocking the Truth: The Real Meaning Behind Relationship SparksThe initial excitement and stress of a spark in a relationship can decrease over time, but finding someone who makes you feel safe and secure is key for success.

      The concept of the "Spark" in relationships is not solely based on attraction or chemistry, but also on the initial excitement and stress that comes from meeting someone new. The Spark is a combination of feeling both excited and stressed, as you navigate through the uncertainties of whether the other person likes you or not. As the relationship progresses and you start to feel more comfortable and safe around the person, the stress levels decrease, leading to a decrease in the intensity of the initial Spark. It's important to understand that the Spark isn't a definitive factor in determining whether a relationship will be successful or not. It's more about finding someone who helps calm you down and makes you feel safe and secure.

    • Chemistry is just the beginning! The key to a lasting relationship.Successful long-term relationships require more than just chemistry. Compatibility, connection, skills, and conscious choices are crucial for a healthy partnership. Marrying your best friend may not be enough on its own.

      Having a spark or chemistry alone is not enough for a successful long-term relationship. While chemistry is important, it is equally crucial to focus on compatibility, connection, and the skills needed for a healthy partnership. Simply relying on the initial attraction or feeling of sparks may lead to short-lived relationships. It is like being attracted to a beautiful apartment without considering its potential and envisioning a future there. Moreover, marrying your best friend may not be sufficient on its own, as being friends and being in love are distinct and require different levels of commitment and attention. Growing apart or together is a choice that couples must consciously make to elevate their relationship or consider separation, regardless of the length of time they have been together.

    • The key to a successful relationship is growth and patience.Relationships thrive when both partners support each other's personal growth journeys and embrace the idea that learning from each other is essential. Celebrating the end of a relationship when growth has been achieved leads to a healthier post-relationship dynamic.

      Relationships and partnerships are not defined solely by the length of time spent together, but rather by the quality of the connection and growth experienced. It is important to understand that personal growth happens at different times and paces for each individual. Supporting and being patient with your partner during their journey of self-discovery is essential for a successful and fulfilling relationship. Additionally, ego should not hinder our ability to learn from our partners, as they can serve as our gurus, teaching us valuable lessons. If both partners continue to learn and grow together, the relationship can flourish endlessly. However, if a relationship reaches its natural end and both parties have grown as much as they can together, it should be celebrated as a success rather than viewed as a failure. Communication, openness, and celebrating conscious uncoupling can lead to a healthier and happier post-relationship dynamic.

    • Discover the three relationship roles that could be destroying yours!Recognizing and understanding the different relationship roles can help foster collaboration, personal growth, and a healthier, more fulfilling partnership.

      Relationships can sometimes lose the openness to learn from each other. It can happen when we unconsciously project our unresolved issues onto our partners, treating them as our parents and reliving past pains. Jay Shetty introduces three relationship roles: fixer, dependent, and supporter. Fixers try to fix their partner's problems to feel powerful, but eventually get exhausted and resentful. Dependents seek someone to take care of all their needs, draining their partner. Supporters believe in mutual growth and provide love through helping each other develop the skills to take care of oneself. Real care and love involve empowering each other rather than seeking dependency. To be more conscious, we must recognize our roles and strive for collaboration and personal growth within relationships.

    • The Dark Side of Being a Relationship Fixer: Jay Shetty's Eye-opening ReflectionsEncourage your partner's independence and empower them to make decisions, rather than trying to solve their problems. Foster self-respect and avoid taking on the "fixer" role in relationships.

      Being a fixer in relationships may seem noble and selfless, but it can actually lead to dissatisfaction and failure. Jay Shetty reflects on his own experiences of trying to solve his partner's problems and be the knight in shining armor, only to realize that there was always more saving to do and his efforts were never fully appreciated. Instead of immediately offering solutions, it is important to be vigilant and encourage your partner to think for themselves and express their own thoughts and feelings. By doing so, you strengthen their inner voice and empower them to make their own decisions. Additionally, for those who feel dependent on others, it is crucial to recognize that confidence and abilities can be learned and developed, rather than relying solely on self-belief. Ultimately, it is about fostering self-respect in relationships rather than taking on the role of a fixer.

    • Want to boost your self-respect? Start by doing hard things!Taking on challenges and seeking improvement can lead to increased self-respect and problem-solving abilities, especially for individuals who are single. Understanding and supporting one another, embracing vulnerability, and fostering growth are crucial for both men and women in relationships.

      Self-respect comes from doing hard things. Jay Shetty emphasizes the importance of stepping out of our comfort zones and developing new skills. If we feel inadequate or struggle with something, we should seek ways to improve, whether that's through taking a course, getting a coach or mentor, or diving into educational resources. As we actively search for answers and work on ourselves, our skills begin to develop, and the problems we face start feeling easier to solve. This is especially relevant for single individuals who can take charge of solving their own problems, leading to a boost in self-respect and the elimination of self-doubt. Ultimately, both men and women should focus on understanding and supporting each other, embracing vulnerability, and allowing for growth in relationships.

    • The Secret to Genuine Growth and Spirituality Revealed!True growth and spirituality mean embracing compassion, empathy, and love while avoiding criticism and judgment. Focus on personal growth, positive actions, and encouraging others instead of pushing them away. Seek purpose and love for deeper relationships.

      True growth and spirituality should lead to more compassion, empathy, and love, rather than criticism, judgment, and fault-finding. It's important to go beyond gender expectations and focus on personal growth and understanding oneself before expecting others to change. Instead of labeling and criticizing others, it's important to approach relationships with encouragement, support, and setting an example through one's own actions. In the early stages of change, it may be necessary to cut certain people out to protect oneself, but it's crucial to be aware of not pushing people away and creating more separation. Purpose and love are interconnected, and it's essential to seek a deeper understanding of oneself and one's purpose within relationships.

    • Discover how Jay Shetty's surprising meditation advocate captured attention!It's crucial to adapt personal growth approaches to resonate with individuals, as exemplified by Jay Shetty's friends' reaction to Ray Dalio's endorsement. Finding balance between self-improvement and self-acceptance is essential.

      Personal growth and self-development can have different impacts on different people. Jay Shetty emphasizes the importance of finding the right voice or medium that resonates with each individual on their own journey. He shares an example of how his investment banker and hedge fund manager friends were not moved by his advocacy for meditation until they heard it from renowned financial figure Ray Dalio. This highlights the significance of personalized approaches to personal growth. Additionally, the conversation touches on the pressure women often feel to constantly engage in personal growth work, which can lead to fatigue. It is essential to strike a balance between self-improvement and self-acceptance, focusing on self-love rather than comparison to others.

    • Discover the secret to personal growth and happiness!Self-forgiveness and grace are essential for personal growth, and open communication about dreams and aspirations can strengthen relationships and avoid resentment.

      Self-forgiveness and grace are crucial elements in personal growth and achieving happiness, health, and healing. Jay Shetty emphasizes that the external path to these goals may not always appear beautiful or easy, but that does not mean you are on the wrong path. It is important to cultivate self-love through self-forgiveness and grace, as they play a significant role in overcoming obstacles and setbacks during the personal growth journey. Shetty also highlights the significance of consciously discussing and supporting each other's individual purpose within relationships. By openly communicating about dreams and aspirations, couples can avoid resentment and ensure that both partners are working towards personal fulfillment.

    • Learn the secret to a stress-free and fulfilling relationship!Open and honest communication, pursuing personal passions, resolving power dynamics, and finding common ground are essential for a healthy and strong relationship.

      Open and honest communication is vital in a healthy relationship. Avoiding difficult conversations can lead to unnecessary stress and misunderstandings. It is important to prioritize the pursuit of purpose in one's life rather than solely focusing on finding it. This means having interests and passions that bring joy and fulfillment, regardless of how simple they may seem. In relationships, power dynamics can create struggles, but these can be resolved through communication and understanding. Both partners should be willing to discuss their intentions, feelings, and expectations without fear of judgment or ego. Winning or losing should not be the goal in a relationship, but rather finding common ground and working together as a team. Initiating conversations in a non-confrontational and calm manner can foster a safe space for open dialogue.

    • How to Have Difficult Conversations Without Ruining Your RelationshipsCreating a safe and calm environment while giving feedback can reduce confrontation and improve communication in relationships. Understanding your fight style is essential for conflict resolution.

      Effective communication during difficult or uncomfortable conversations is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships. In order to create a safe space for open dialogue, it is important to approach these conversations with humility and proper presentation. Research suggests that giving feedback while walking together in the same direction or sitting at a round table, rather than opposite each other, reduces confrontation and animosity. It is also beneficial to regulate emotions by creating a calm environment, such as going to the beach or being in nature. Learning how to fight and handle conflicts is a core skill for long-lasting relationships. Understanding and identifying your fight style, whether it is venting, hiding, or exploding, can help navigate conflicts more effectively.

    • This couple's secret to a happy relationship revealed!Understanding and respecting your partner's fight style is crucial for a healthy relationship. Effective communication, recognizing each other's needs, and avoiding assumptions are key to building stronger bonds and navigating conflicts.

      Understanding and respecting your partner's fight style is crucial for a healthy relationship. Jay Shetty and Riley had different ways of expressing their emotions and dealing with conflicts. Shetty wanted to talk about their issues immediately, feeling that Riley's need for reflection meant she didn't care. However, he learned that Riley's way of investing in the relationship was by taking time to process and then discussing it. They found a middle ground by giving Riley the time she needed while creating a safe space for connection. This highlights the importance of open communication, recognizing each other's needs, and avoiding assumptions or creating stories in our heads. By understanding and valuing our partner's fight style, we can build stronger bonds and navigate conflicts more effectively.

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    • 01:23:07 Norah and Kelly on Final Five 

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    With Love and Gratitude,

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    Jay discusses the significance of understanding and respecting each other's values, as well as recognizing and addressing patterns of behavior. Emotional maturity, which involves managing and expressing emotions healthily, is highlighted as a key component of a stable relationship. Support and partnership are deemed more critical than love alone.

    In this episode, you'll learn:

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    How to support your partner's emotional growth

    How to build trust in your relationship

    Remember, love is important, but building a relationship on trust, values, and emotional maturity is key.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

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    00:00 Intro

    01:07 Do They Love Me?

    04:42 #1: Love Makes Us Forget the Importance of Values

    08:56 #2: Love Makes You Forget Patterns of Behaviour

    16:09 #3: Love Makes You Forget How They Treat You

    19:29 #4: Love Versus Support

    21:46 #5: You Forget the Importance of Trust

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    Jonathan Haidt: Why Social Media Has Caused a Collapse in Mental Health & #1 Way to Solve Your Anxiety

    Jonathan Haidt: Why Social Media Has Caused a Collapse in Mental Health & #1 Way to Solve Your Anxiety

    How are smartphones linked to anxiety?

    What mental health issues are linked to excessive social media use?

    Today, let's welcome Jonathan Haidt is a renowned social psychologist, professor at New York University’s Stern School of Business, and a widely published author. He is known for his research on morality, culture, and the psychology of happiness. Jonathan's influential books include "The Righteous Mind: Why Good People Are Divided by Politics and Religion" and "The Coddling of the American Mind." His latest work, "The Anxious Generation," examines the profound impact of social media on young people's mental health.

    Jonathan highlights the unprecedented global collapse of mental health among youth, describing it as more significant than the COVID-19 pandemic, with girls being particularly affected by anxiety and depression, and boys showing significant social development issues.

    The conversation also addresses the academic debate regarding the root causes of this mental health crisis, with Jonathan presenting compelling data and experimental evidence to support his view that social media is a primary driver. He offers actionable solutions, including delaying smartphone and social media use until later ages, implementing phone-free school policies, increasing outdoor play, and advocating for collective action by parents and communities. 

    In this interview, you'll learn:

    How to create a healthier digital environment for kids

    How to implement age-appropriate tech usage

    How to encourage outdoor play and physical activities

    How to talk to children about the risks of social media

    How to foster resilience and emotional strength in kids

    How to create a supportive community for parents

    Together, let's take a comprehensive look into the mental health crisis the youth is facing today and take note of the practical strategies for creating a healthier environment that supports their well-being.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    • 00:00 Intro
    • 01:55 Global Synchronized Collapse of Mental Health
    • 08:12 Social Media is for Adults to Network
    • 10:20 The Science Behind Anxiety
    • 14:51 Variation of Emotions is Necessary for Kids
    • 17:45 Play Helps Kids Learn
    • 19:12 How to Make Playtime More Effective?
    • 22:59 The Effects of Technology on Different Genders
    • 29:24 Going Through Puberty on Social Media
    • 32:08 How Parenting Has Changed with Technology
    • 34:27 Efforts to Regulate Smartphones Use for Children
    • 44:21 Women Are Always Judged for Their Looks
    • 49:26 Verified Social Media Account
    • 56:58 Why Tap Into Our Spirituality
    • 01:03:56 What is Happening to Us?
    • 01:11:31 The Greatest Distraction of Human Value
    • 01:16:23 Jonathan on Final Five

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    If You've Been Feeling Drained... Listen To This (9 Steps To Recover And Avoid Burnout)

    If You've Been Feeling Drained... Listen To This (9 Steps To Recover And Avoid Burnout)

    Do you often feel exhausted or burnt out?

    Are you struggling to manage your stress levels?

    Today, Jay talks about exhaustion, burnout, and stress, highlighting their prevalence with statistics showing that a significant portion of young adults and women report feeling drained. He introduces a practical approach to tackle these challenges, encapsulated in the "triple A" formula—Accept, Action, Attention—which encourages acknowledging negative feelings, taking actionable steps to address them, and paying mindful attention to one's mental state

    Jay also introduces the concept of "reset periods," whether it's an hour, half-day, or full day, to allow for complete mental and physical rejuvenation. The importance of self-compassion is also emphasized, encouraging individuals to replace inner criticism with supportive self-talk, which can significantly improve overall well-being.

    In this episode, you'll learn:

    How to break negative thought cycle

    How to manage your energy levels

    How to use stress strategically

    How to practice self-compassion

    How to get out of stressful situation

    Don’t let exhaustion control your life—take action today and start feeling refreshed and empowered. Listen now and share with someone who needs a boost!

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    01:06 Do You Feel Drained?

    03:10 #1: Learn to Break Repetitive Thoughts

    06:27 #2: You Don’t Need to Be on Full Energy All the Time

    10:20 #3: Learn to Say NO

    14:05 #4: Be Strategic with Your Time

    17:02 #5: Have a Reset Day

    18:35 #6: Be Kind to Yourself

    19:59 #7: Allow Yourself to Vent and Let It Out

    21:24 #8: Get a Restful Sleep 

    23:00 #9: Wash Your Mind the Night Before

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    Taylor Hill: How to Navigate Emotional Challenges & Ways to Practice Gratitude in Lifes’ Unexpected Hard Times

    Taylor Hill: How to Navigate Emotional Challenges & Ways to Practice Gratitude in Lifes’ Unexpected Hard Times

    How does gratitude aid during emotional struggles?

    How does focusing on positives improve our emotional well-being?

    Today, let's welcome supermodel, content creator, actor, and philanthropist Taylor Hill. Discovered at the age of 14, Taylor has worked with fashion houses and luxury brands around the globe and has graced the covers of prestigious fashion magazines, including Vogue. Beyond her modeling career, Taylor is the founder of Tate and Taylor, a media content platform and community inspired by her late Labradoodle, Tate. 

    Taylor speaks candidly about her emotional journey with her late Labradoodle, Tate and the profound bond she shared with him,  describing how he was more than just a pet – he was a soulmate and a source of unwavering support. She also opens up about the challenges and triumphs of starting her modeling career as a teenager, highlighting the pressures and responsibilities that came with her rapid rise to fame.

    Inspired by her journey with Tate, Taylor founded Tate and Taylor, a media content platform and community for pets and their humans. She explains the mission behind this venture, which aims to support pet owners and raise awareness about animal welfare.

    In this interview, you'll learn:

    How to handle emotional challenges

    How to manage early career success

    How to stay fit mentally and physically

    How to manage grief and loss

    How to pursue your purpose

    How to find joy and gratitude everyday

    Taylor's story is a testament to the strength of the human spirit and the healing power of unconditional love, an inspiring message for anyone facing their own struggles and searching for meaning in their experiences. 

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    • 00:00 Intro
    • 03:50 Earliest Childhood Memory
    • 09:30 Modeling at 14 
    • 12:52 Going to School Wasn’t For Me
    • 15:26 Victoria Secret Model
    • 18:18 Audition Process for Models
    • 20:20 Having the Right Team
    • 24:52 Discipline of a VS Model
    • 33:32 VS Comeback
    • 38:55 Experiencing Burnout
    • 42:12 Losing Tate
    • 51:33 The Signs and Symptoms
    • 01:13:01 Healing From Losing Your Pet
    • 01:19:40 Pregnancy and Miscarriage 
    • 01:44:52 Alone Time While Grieving
    • 01:53:02 Emotional Support From Your Partner
    • 02:04:01 Everyone’s Journey is Different
    • 02:10:39 Building the Tate and Taylor Brand
    • 02:20:52 A Brand for a Cause
    • 02:24:48 Taylor on Final Five

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