Embracing Grief: Fear limits our lives and doesn't prevent loss. Embracing grief and our innate wisdom helps us navigate life's challenges. Accepting loss as part of life prepares us emotionally, allowing us to live fully despite fear and anxiety.
Fear stops us from fully living our lives. It doesn't prevent death or loss, but it limits our experiences. Embracing our feelings of grief, even before loss occurs, can empower us to navigate difficult times. We each carry the wisdom to heal from our traumas, just like our ancestors did, and acknowledging this inner strength can help us through anticipation of grief. It’s important to accept and feel our emotions rather than let anxiety dictate our lives. Understanding that loss is a part of life, and preparing ourselves emotionally can bring peace and clarity. We must recognize that anticipatory grief is natural, and feeling it is part of the healing process.
Embracing Mortality: Instead of fearing death, embrace present moments and meaningful connections, letting go of guilt. This allows for a fuller experience of life and relationships.
Life is fleeting, and thinking about mortality can guide us to live fully in the present. Instead of fearing death, we should embrace the moments we have, appreciating our connections with others. Guilt often accompanies grief, but it's important to focus on the here and now, letting go of what we cannot change and being present in our relationships. This perspective shifts from a fearful mindset to one that encourages love, presence, and healing. Ultimately, recognizing that fear prohibits us from experiencing life can help us find peace. By valuing each moment, we create richer, more meaningful experiences, fostering deeper connections with others.
Guilt and Grief: Feeling guilt can be a misguided attempt to control unpredictable life events, overshadowing the true complexity of loss and relationships. It's essential to grieve for the realities of those we had in our lives and the ideal figures we wish we had.
Our minds often cling to guilt as a way to feel some control over chaotic life events like loss and trauma. This guilt falsely convinces us that if we had acted differently, we could have changed the outcome of tragic situations. This need for control can skew our perception of events, making us think our actions directly caused negative outcomes. It's important to acknowledge both the complex individuals in our lives and the ideal versions we wished they could have been. Grieving involves recognizing both realities and coming to terms with the loss of what was and what could have been, which can be an intricate and challenging emotional process.
Grieving Beyond Loss: Grieving someone still alive is real grief, and it's important to validate those feelings. Letting go of toxic relationships opens the door for healing and new possibilities, emphasizing that love can be found at any stage of life.
Grieving someone who is still alive can be just as intense as mourning a death. It's important to recognize that our feelings are valid, regardless of what someone else thinks grief should look like. When we let go of toxic relationships, we also let go of familiar patterns that can hold us back. This process of grieving doesn't just involve loss but also a realization that a healthier life is possible. Love and fulfillment can still be found, even after loss, at any age. We must allow ourselves to move from our minds, where comparisons reside, to our hearts, where real emotions live. In this way, we can embrace our unique grief and acknowledge that while it might be challenging, it ultimately leads to personal growth and new opportunities.
Embracing Growth: Instead of regretting past choices, view them as essential steps in your personal growth, acknowledging that everyone evolves on their own timeline, often influenced by inherited patterns. The important part is that change can start now, regardless of when you realize it.
Reflecting on our past can lead to feelings of regret, especially when it seems like we wasted time with the wrong people or in toxic situations. However, this feeling often comes from our wounded selves, urging us to see our experiences as mistakes. Instead, we should embrace the reality that every relationship, even the challenging ones, contributed to our growth. Each person's journey unfolds on their own timeline, influenced by inherited patterns and traumas. This suggests that our progress might be ahead of others in our family lineage, allowing us to break cycles and create new paths. Instead of self-criticism, we can view our choices as necessary steps toward healing. The best time to begin making positive changes is now, no matter when we realize it. Every year counts, and acknowledgment of our journey helps free us from the weight of regret.
Embracing Reality: Embracing reality, despite loss and unfulfilled dreams, leads to true healing. Accepting our past traumas allows us to move beyond grief and engage in life fully. Compassion and acceptance are key to breaking cycles of trauma and finding peace.
Facing our past traumas and unfulfilled dreams can be painful, but it’s essential for healing. Everyone has their own illusions about how life should be, whether it's about having children or living up to expectations. Accepting reality, despite its harshness, is where true freedom lies. Instead of letting past tragedies isolate us, we can choose to engage with life again. Grieving the life that could have been or the loss of loved ones is a necessary process. Only by feeling and acknowledging these emotions can we break the cycle of trauma and find peace. Ultimately, reality dictates our path forward, and embracing it allows us to move beyond suffering. We must learn to step out of our grief and seize the life we still have, fostering compassion for ourselves and others as we navigate these challenges together.
Acceptance and Grief: Grieving someone can coexist with recognizing their faults. Accepting people as they are helps process grief and fosters personal growth in relationships.
When grieving someone, it’s possible to recognize their flaws while processing your feelings. People can be toxic or disappointing, yet we often hold illusions of who we wish they could be. Accepting them as they truly are allows us to meet them anew, fostering personal growth and helping to cope with grief. This perspective can shift our expectations and lead to a better understanding of our relationships, enabling us to heal. Instead of being surprised by their behavior, we can acknowledge the reality of who they are, allowing ourselves to move past the grief while still in touch with them.
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(Matt Monday): The Hidden Reason They’re Not Committing to You...
Have you ever found yourself in the “casual zone” with someone you’re dating . . . and it seems impossible to escape it? When it started, you were fine with them saying, “Let’s see how it goes,” but you soon found yourself stuck in limbo with all your friends asking if you were in a relationship . . .
While there are many positive reasons to take things slow when dating someone, there are 4 specific scenarios where “just seeing where something goes” can lead to heartbreak.
In today’s episode, I walk you through each situation so you can figure out where you stand and move things forward. The sooner you watch this, the faster you’ll know if a relationship actually has potential.
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(Rewind): Feel Them Pulling Away? AVOID THIS MISTAKE
I’ve heard this story a thousand times before . . .
You go on a date with someone and hit it off. Things seem to be going well, and pretty soon, you're seeing each other all the time. You text them daily, make plans for the future, and every time their name pops up on your phone, you feel a surge of happiness and excitement.
That very same excitement keeps hitting new peaks until, suddenly, you feel a shift. They grow more and more distant, and at first you're not sure whether you're imagining it or whether they really are pulling away. You double down on effort and communication, but it only seems to drive them further away until eventually they call it a day and stops messaging altogether.
If this has ever happened to you, then you know it can drive you crazy working out how to act when someone is clearly pulling away from you.
But as it turns out, there is a right way and a wrong way to proceed when this happens, and it can determine whether someone stays or goes.
In today’s episode, I’ll share with you the #1 reason why people pull away and a high-value way to respond to it.
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265: Esther Perel’s Advice On Modern Dating, Sexuality, And Communicating In Relationships
In this episode, we're joined by world renowned psychotherapist and relationship expert Esther Perel!
Esther is a New York Times Bestselling author who books "Mating In Captivity" and "The State Of Affairs" have had a profound impact on our understanding of modern relationships.
In this conversation, Matt and Esther talk about how to create desire in relationships, getting connected to your sexuality (even if you haven't in a long time), improving your communication around intimacy and sex with a partner, and practical advice for finding real attraction and love in modern dating.
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(Matt Monday): What To Do When They Aren’t Asking You Questions on a Date
I’ve heard this more times than I can count when people feel frustrated that their date didn’t ask them many questions . . . or in some cases, any questions at all.
(Rewind): Should You REALLY Call Them Before The First Date? Here’s My Answer…
It’s strange how we often feel more comfortable with the idea of going on a date with a stranger than talking on the phone.
But isn’t it a good idea? Shouldn’t we test how they are on the phone before we meet in person? In this clip, we answer a question from someone who feels that men get scared off when she suggests a phone call, and give some practical tips for how to build more comfort before the first date.
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264: Grief Expert Shares The Worst Thing to Do After Heartbreak w/ David Kessler
I shared a clip from my talk with Grief Expert David Kessler earlier this week, and I wanted to share a part two because I know how powerful this work will be for anyone in my audience suffering from loss and dealing with heartache.
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(Matt Monday): Healing from Heartbreak And Grief w/ David Kessler
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(Rewind): 13 Subtle Ways to Make Someone Want More With You
In today’s new episode, I’ll share with you exactly how to do that through 13 highly practical tips to get him to take you more seriously. Some of these are subtle, but each one of these points can have an outsized impact on how your relationship moves forward.
I really wanted to make this episode because the tone you set in the beginning will serve you throughout your entire relationship, and the influence you can have on being taken seriously by someone is huge. It can determine whether your relationship will be a casual one that’s on their terms, or a committed, loving one where you’re building something together.
And in addition to being practical, this episode breaks down the psychology behind each of these tips and provides you with examples (and in many cases, specific texts) you can customize and make your own.
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263: Protect Yourself In Dating With This Mindset
Do you find some relationships and situations in life that just drain you? Maybe there are people you're investing energy into in your dating life that make you feel burnt out, frustrated, and make you want to withdraw entirely.
So if you want to spend your time in a happier, freer, more productive way that leaves you uplifted, this episode is for you. Matt gives 7 key insights from the book "Protect Your Peace" by Trent Shelton that will change your mindset and stop you surrounding yourself with toxic people that add to your stress in life.
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